11-22-2002, 01:04 PM | #1 |
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Here is my situation:
I had this boyfriend,and we broke up couple of months ago (because we had totally different expectations of our relationship) and now suddenly he contacted me through e-mail.He wants us to get together again.I dont want that,but I dont know how to tell that to him.I dont want to be too rough to him. Now I am asking from you wiser members,how do I tell him that I dont want us to continue? Should I explain why I dont want,or just say no? please help. (why cant I even write the topic correctly?) [ 11-22-2002, 01:05 PM: Message edited by: purre ] |
11-22-2002, 01:07 PM | #2 |
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As a guy, I know I would prefer to be told the truth, gently. Just tell him that as sweet as his offer is, you really arne't interested.
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11-22-2002, 01:08 PM | #3 |
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Just be open and honest. If you don't want to get back together, firmly and politely tell him so.
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11-22-2002, 01:10 PM | #4 |
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I second the other two guys, just be polite but firm and unambiguous. Let him know that you have moved on and so should he.
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11-22-2002, 01:12 PM | #5 |
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Thank you very much for helping. [img]smile.gif[/img]
I specially needed guys opinions. I will tell him today (hopefully he wont take that too hard) |
11-22-2002, 01:16 PM | #6 | |
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11-22-2002, 01:19 PM | #7 |
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Totally agree with Antryg here, your only obligation to him is to be polite, honest and not cruel. You have a right to make this choice. Don't accept any guilt over it.
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11-22-2002, 02:55 PM | #8 |
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Thanks for your nice words antryg and magiK. [img]smile.gif[/img]
I am glad that it is over now.I told him as you adviced,thanks for help. This situation was totally new to me,and I am used to being nice to people. |
11-22-2002, 03:31 PM | #9 |
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Trust me. Being honest in not wanting to get back together is being nice.
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11-22-2002, 03:33 PM | #10 |
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I think you should have strung him along a bit. That way, when you have a really bad day within the next few weeks, you could simply crush his wee little male ego like a bug and make yourself feel a bit better.
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