Need love advice......

[Horatio]

Originally posted by Linora: Well... I agree with the general consensus here.. a letter is the wrong way to go.. a phone call is better, but still pretty heartless. Don't tell her mother to tell her either.. or her friend. If you can, go and see her. If that's absolutely impossible, phone her. The cost of the bill doesn't matter.. there's no price you can put on peace of mind I'd also like to know how long u have been with her....

JEE-ZUS! When the HELL do you tell the mother?!? Don't do this, unless you want your teeth protruding from your stomach!

[Helspanth]

Originally posted by /)eathKiller: Don't tell her about it and go anyway, she probably won't find out, what she don't know don't hurt her...

Ignorance is bliss
However if you DO care about her then I don't think you should do that.
Just have a face to face and explain things.It will be hard,I know,but the longer you let it continue the more difficult will it become in the futere.

[Linora]

Originally posted by Horatio: JEE-ZUS! When the HELL do you tell the mother?!? Don't do this, unless you want your teeth protruding from your stomach!

Well, believe it or not, my friends ex broke up with her like that...

We go our revenge on the lad though, believe me

[ 06-05-2002, 06:48 PM: Message edited by: Linora ]

[The Hunter of Jahanna]

Don't tell her about it and go anyway, she probably won't find out, what she don't know don't hurt her...

Sounds like good advice to me. Especialy is you live realy realy far away from each other. Maybe even have your mom call her after a month or so and tell her that you died.

[DeSoya]

Just ignore her? Terrible advice. I've had that happen to me and it's way worse than just being dumped. You torture yourself for days. It's horrible.

Tell the girl ftf. It may be the hardest way for you but in the end it'll be the easiest for both of you.

DeSoya the anti Don Juan [img]tongue.gif[/img]

[250]

Originally posted by uss: quote: Originally posted by Jerome: Blimey, they start early these days. [img]graemlins/saywhat.gif[/img]

i know.. i think its very wierd when people are boyfriend/girlfriend at *MY* age. people that are 8-15 and start having a "lover" are unrealistic. These kind of matters are starting to piss me off - a boy and a girl are lovers for 2-4 days or something and then, one of them thinks:"hey, i dont want her anymore. the other girl who lives next to her is even prettier. maybe i should dump my girlfriend and go out with her instead!" that would be pathetic but belive me, that kind of stuff happens incredibly much(especially with that asshole known as Jon). those kind of gf/bf stuff are not real. it would mean that the girl is not loved by the boy, he just likes her and tries his damn best to be a jerk.
Quote - SomeGuy
"I wanna break up with her so i can go out with someone down in the town i live in"

this sentence is what really hit me. i ask again so you wouldnt miss this question, how long have you been her boyfriend?[/QUOTE]doh, he is here to ask for advice. not your critisize. and keep in mind that he doesnt have to explain anything to you. do you ask you friend these kinda question if they come to you with a problem?

but anyways, Someguy, I agree with the adivce that you should come to her face to face. good luck.

[Epona]

OH FFS!! I cannot *believe* some of the responses in this thread! Not saying anything to her? It is unbelieveable that anyone would offer that advice, it is the cowards way out. That would *not* be 'not hurting her', it is lying and is more hurtful than telling the truth - it is just a way for *you* to avoid the problem and is totally self-centred. I hope anyone who's ever done that ends up miserable. For crying out loud, if you do that it is just downright selfish and cowardly.

Someguy, just tell her you don't want to see her anymore. Be honest and let her move on (which she will do once she knows the truth).

[The Hierophant]

When I was your age I had the same problems. It's quite simple really, just give her a phone call and tell her it isn't working. She probably won't start crying but if she does just tell her that it's for the best and that it isn't anything personal, it's just that circumstances have gotten in the way of your relationship (Ie: living in a different town). Now, she may try to sway you with the whole "But we could still make it work" argument. That's hogwash, long distance relationships NEVER work out. Be firm and don't give in to crying, but at the same time try not to hurt her too much, you may need her again further down the line (ie: if you want to get to know her friends or something).
I have to be honest with you though, at your age (and I know, I've been there) relationships come and go like water under a bridge. Don't get yourself too worked up about it. That's the beauty of being really young, taking responsibility isn't totally necessary yet [img]smile.gif[/img] Enjoy.

[AzRaeL StoRmBlaDe]

Originally posted by SomeGuy: Erm,this is something that I normaly would post,but I need some help.You see I have my girlfriend lives in another town and we communicate through letters.I wanna break up with her so i can go out with someone down in the town i live in and I don't want to hurt her feelings.What should I do?I really need help.

According to the movie "road trip" go have sex with her and then break it off.
i dont see how it could, but i hope that helps

[SomeGuy]

Uss,Your advice was probal the best yet.Your right.As I read your post it made me think."I've known her all my life,she said she would go out with me,what the heck was I thinking?!" Uss,thank you so much.Oh,and long distance relationships DO work out.Oh and just because we live in different area codes DOES'NT mean I can go out with someone down here.That's what everyone done here say.I've turned down girls who ask me out and that was because I love my girl and Uss made me relize that more then ever.Thanks for your help guys.

~SomeGuy

P.S.-Screw my friends,they say just write her a letter that says"I hate you!I never want to see you again!!!".One of them really did that!Or just don't let her know or just plain tell her I want to break up with her.Thanks again Uss.