Pathetic? Life of Misery?

[Charean]

It doesn't matter why someone chooses celebacy.

I would respect that option. It is much harder to do than the alternatives. Unlike most, I do not think everyone is cut out to have a partner or should have one. Then again, I have friends who are Buddhist monks.

What you choose is what you choose. Nothing more.

[Bahamut]

EDIT oops!

Anyways I agree. Let the peeps have their choice... I mean if that's waht they want to then do it... they should know what sacrifices they have to take and endure [img]smile.gif[/img]

[ 05-26-2002, 11:51 AM: Message edited by: Bahamut ]

[Morgan_Corbesant]

Originally posted by caleb: He should try it first he might like it

yeah, i know I DID! (liked it i mean)

[Epona]

Originally posted by Melusine: Well, you are right that even going 'double dutch' i.e. pill and condom isn't one hundred percent safe, but I would say the risk is neglicible. I mean, if you go by risks like those, you can't drive a car, life in a house, you can't do anything for fear of risks. Oh, and I don't know what you're trying to allude to in your post, but most sexual activities can be performed with protection against STDs.

Thank you Melusine. I could walk out in front of a bus tomorrow and be dead. Condoms are pretty good protection against STDs and pregnancy and have a fairly low failure rate.

Earthdog - It's no good telling the young'uns (which I'm not by the way, I'm 31 and have never been pregnant or caught an STD) to abstain from sex, because that's not (or rarely) gonna happen. Instead make sure they are educated about birth control and health.

[ 05-26-2002, 01:22 PM: Message edited by: Epona ]

[Dundee Slaytern]

Hmmmm... the poll is not about focusing on the abstainment from sex, but the decision to not take a life partner. Yes, no sex is also part of the deal, but it is not the main point.

I have been ragged upon when people find out about my chosen path( yes, it is me in question, as if you did not know that already ), and I was curious to know whether everybody thinks I am crazy.

And even if I am really crazy, I will still stick to what I have decided to do a long time ago, because I have my reasons. Just curious.

[Melusine]

Well all I can say is what I said before: who am I to judge about what another person does with his/her life?
Personally I think you'll be missing out on a LOT, both intense grief and intense joy, that enrich your life and grant you life experience and wisdom (being optimistic now - for most people it does anyway). But hey, that's your decision to live with [img]smile.gif[/img]

Edit: in addition, I don't think you always have a choice, or that never allowing yourself to be with someone really is a choice. It would seem to me that sooner or later, you're going to find yourself in a situation where you cannot but choose for love - but of course I cannot say for sure because I don't know you well enough.

[ 05-26-2002, 01:48 PM: Message edited by: Melusine ]

[Rimjaw]

Melusine is right, I don't think it is possible for a person to say that he/she will never be with someone or choose not to do so. Sooner or later its gonna happen.

Well, this is purely individual choice. I can't imagine living that way, but that's not to say it isn't possible or even preferable [img]smile.gif[/img]

[Cloudbringer]

Originally posted by Dundee Slaytern: Hmmmm... the poll is not about focusing on the abstainment from sex, but the decision to not take a life partner. Yes, no sex is also part of the deal, but it is not the main point. I have been ragged upon when people find out about my chosen path( yes, it is me in question, as if you did not know that already ), and I was curious to know whether everybody thinks I am crazy. And even if I am really crazy, I will still stick to what I have decided to do a long time ago, because I have my reasons. Just curious.

FWIW, I voted before seeing this post, Dundee, and my vote was that you/the person should follow your own path.

I was celibate for many years and decided that might just be my lot in life for many reasons. It happens that I've met someone, fallen in love and we're engaged now but I can't say that I would change anything I've done in my life regarding the choices I made before we met. You must do what is right for YOU and not what anyone else says is right.

I have a lot of respect for you and your decision. It's not an easy one but if you think it is what you should do, nobody else knows you better than you do! And it took courage to post this. [img]smile.gif[/img]

Well I find this to be very interesting indeed. Sorry Dundee, but I can't help but be extremely curious as to what your reasons are.

Sex is a very special bond between two people that are in love. But more to the point, you seem to be suggesting that you choose a life not only without sex, but without a partner. To me, this seems to be a very lonely path to CHOOSE! But then again, that is only my opinion.

Aviendha.