Help !!

[David15]

Could someone more knowledgeable than myself about girls help me here?
I asked this girl I know from my youth group if she'd like to come rock climbing with me. ( She tells me she enjoys it). Anyway I went round to her house at 1 Pm. She was out, but her sister said she'd tell her I'd come. Was busy then I got home at 6:30pm. Went round a 6:45, and walked up to the door and rang the bell. Just afterI'd done this I heard knives and forks and thought "Uh-oh, I'm interrupting dinner." Her Mother came to the door, and I aked if it was a bad time etc. She said she'd send Georgina round after dinner (We lived just up the road). Anyway I asked Georgina if she'd like to come, she said it was her best friends birthday tomorrow and that she was sorry etc.

That's my sorry tale. Any thoughts? (Apart from 'rejected')

[Intimadater]

Dude!

Well David, firstly, I really wouldn't see this as a rejection. It might be true that she has a birthday party to go to. But if she's lying and this is a cover up so she doesn't have to go and see you, then that's probably a sign that you should give her some space. Try visiting her once a week or so, so that your time together is special and not so day-to-day. While you are with her, remember to be yourself, don't put on an act, just try to be kind, caring, considerate, amusing and original when you can. But most importantly, don't take this 'rejection' the wrong way or think too much of it. Many girls do things like this. It's just to give themselves a bit of room.

Good luck [img]smile.gif[/img]

[Lanthir]

I tend to agree. If you live that close to her she might feel that you are closing in on her. Perhpas give it soem time. Wata bit to see if she brings it up. Maybe next time try to not go bye there so many times in one day. Play it kinda cool if you ask her to do something and she says ok I will get back to you or her sister says she wil give her a message give her some time to respond as oppossed to going back to her house several times that day. Ok, it works a little better

[Lavindathar]

Dude, it aint a rejection.

It's a way of her sayin either:

i)Give me a little more space
ii)I'm not sure If I want to take it past friendship
iii)I do like you, but I'm a little shy. I just need time.

It aint a solid rejection.....

Lavi's advice, would to just be yourself, dont pressurise her, and if all else fails, aim for her sister (just kiddin!)

Good luck dude!

[David15]

Thanks everyone

[ 04-25-2002, 07:24 PM: Message edited by: David15 ]

Having girl problems too. Same here. Its my damn shyness

[Katherine]

She said she had plans, right? Next time, give more notice than the night before.

I've been known to turn down guys when they don't give me notice just on general principle.

[ 04-26-2002, 10:06 AM: Message edited by: Katherine ]

[Retep]

I thought you asked her to see Episode II with you?

Yes! That's right it is ME! Retep the Magnificent! Slayer of Dragons, Warlocks, Griffins, Werewolves, Trolls, and other not very nice things. Also, Lord of Castle Tase, and feared warrior of the Battle of Convention. Vanquisher of Genevan. Also a pretty cool guy.

Anyway, depending on:
a. You just like her
b. You REALLY like her

you should
a. Ask someone else
b. Keep trying, maybe with a different day, or different activity. DON'T GIVE UP!

That's just my view, not really knowing anything about the circumstances. Maybe if I see you in month or so ill be able help you better.

I can't really imagine you rock climbing, but then again I haven't seen you for years and years.

[Horatio]

Ah, I love it when long-lost friends find eachother *sniff*.