a romantic opinon poll

Madman-Rogovich · 07-15-2002, 08:16 PM

right help me out guys im unsure about what to do almost idefinate rejection sucks but...

Willard · 07-15-2002, 08:23 PM

I have had this dilemma before. Just ask her. You never know what she will say. I would suggest that you drag it out a little, I mean, act nice to her and all, do all the good stuff.

I just asked the person straight out. And guess what happened?

"I just want to be friends".

Ah well, you will have to put up with these things in life, if she says yes, you're all cool. If she says no, you're all cool anyway. Just take the chance. If you don't, you might soon find that that chance is gone. That what will you do?

Madman-Rogovich · 07-15-2002, 08:26 PM

,man she is seriously one of the nicest girls ive met its just im realy unsure... i guess its lots to do wth having the guts to do it

Grojlach · 07-15-2002, 08:28 PM

Depends on what your current relationship is to her, I'd say. Is this a complete stranger or someone you don't really know that well? Just give it a shot, if she says no, nothing lost. If she's been a close friend for a longer time, well, that's more complicated... You could lose a friendship over asking it. But if you need real advice from IW members, you should give more background information.

Edit: three times "I'd say" within 6 sentences? Man, I'm getting old... Brrrr. Away with them.

[ 07-15-2002, 08:35 PM: Message edited by: Grojlach ]

Aelia Jusa · 07-15-2002, 08:31 PM

Why is it almost certain rejection? Is it the type where you're all negative and think she'll never like me, I suck, no one will ever love me? Or is it the type where she already has a boyfriend so will reject you? Or she doesn't date anyone so will reject you? It's hard to say what you should do on this info [img]smile.gif[/img]

Madman-Rogovich · 07-15-2002, 08:32 PM

okay groj,

ive known her for quite a while but she onlbecam one of my *friends a couple o months ago she is super pretty and very very likable as far as i can tell she is flawless but then im certainly not. We have very different tastes in most things eg. music but we both respect each other for it, *i think but the problem is am i to different for it to work?

Madman-Rogovich · 07-15-2002, 08:34 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Aelia Jusa:
Why is it almost certain rejection? Is it the type where you're all negative and think she'll never like me, I suck, no one will ever love me? Or is it the type where she already has a boyfriend so will reject you? Or she doesn't date anyone so will reject you? It's hard to say what you should do on this info [img]smile.gif[/img]

id say its more of the first one but you make it sound so pathetic when it isnt - * to me lol but she is single and sociable

07-15-2002, 09:08 PM

It may eat at you for years to come if you never know.
There is no harm in taking the chance but be sure to tell her beforehand that no matter what her answer is, you don't want it to affect your friendship and be prepared not to let a "no" drive you away from being friends with her.
I've lost guy friends that I really adored because they asked me out but weren't prepared for me to say no and never talked to me again because they were embarassed or mad. No one understood that just because they thought I was pretty didn't mean I did or that I was very shy about the whole concept of dating. I miss them. [img]smile.gif[/img]

Madman-Rogovich · 07-15-2002, 09:14 PM

okay thanks guys

moni im going to bed now. then im gonna as her out in the morning

Cheers guys!

DeSoya · 07-15-2002, 09:54 PM

Good luck man! I think you're doing the right thing for the right reasons. Regardless of the outcome it'll turn out better than you think. Sounds wierd but I speak from personal experience in matters exactly like this. [img]smile.gif[/img]

DeSoya

07-15-2002, 08:16 PM	#1
Madman-Rogovich Lord Soth Join Date: October 23, 2001 Location: Edinburgh Age: 39 Posts: 1,918	right help me out guys im unsure about what to do almost idefinate rejection sucks but... __________________ One room, one axe, one outcome.

07-15-2002, 08:23 PM	#2
Willard Fzoul Chembryl Join Date: June 14, 2001 Location: Vermont Age: 33 Posts: 1,752	I have had this dilemma before. Just ask her. You never know what she will say. I would suggest that you drag it out a little, I mean, act nice to her and all, do all the good stuff. I just asked the person straight out. And guess what happened? "I just want to be friends". Ah well, you will have to put up with these things in life, if she says yes, you're all cool. If she says no, you're all cool anyway. Just take the chance. If you don't, you might soon find that that chance is gone. That what will you do? __________________

07-15-2002, 08:26 PM	#3
Madman-Rogovich Lord Soth Join Date: October 23, 2001 Location: Edinburgh Age: 39 Posts: 1,918	,man she is seriously one of the nicest girls ive met its just im realy unsure... i guess its lots to do wth having the guts to do it __________________ One room, one axe, one outcome.

07-15-2002, 08:28 PM	#4
Grojlach Zartan Join Date: May 2, 2001 Location: Ulpia Noviomagus Batavorum Age: 44 Posts: 5,281	Depends on what your current relationship is to her, I'd say. Is this a complete stranger or someone you don't really know that well? Just give it a shot, if she says no, nothing lost. If she's been a close friend for a longer time, well, that's more complicated... You could lose a friendship over asking it. But if you need real advice from IW members, you should give more background information. Edit: three times "I'd say" within 6 sentences? Man, I'm getting old... Brrrr. Away with them. [ 07-15-2002, 08:35 PM: Message edited by: Grojlach ] __________________ [url]\"http://www.audioscrobbler.com/user/Grobbel/\" target=\"_blank\"> [img]\"http://www.denness.net/rpi/username/Grobbel\" alt=\" - \" /></a>

07-15-2002, 08:31 PM	#5
Aelia Jusa Iron Throne Cult Join Date: August 23, 2001 Location: Brisbane, Australia Age: 44 Posts: 4,867	Why is it almost certain rejection? Is it the type where you're all negative and think she'll never like me, I suck, no one will ever love me? Or is it the type where she already has a boyfriend so will reject you? Or she doesn't date anyone so will reject you? It's hard to say what you should do on this info [img]smile.gif[/img] __________________

07-15-2002, 08:32 PM	#6
Madman-Rogovich Lord Soth Join Date: October 23, 2001 Location: Edinburgh Age: 39 Posts: 1,918	okay groj, ive known her for quite a while but she onlbecam one of my friends a couple o months ago she is super pretty and very very likable as far as i can tell she is flawless but then im certainly not. We have very different tastes in most things eg. music but we both respect each other for it, i think but the problem is am i to different for it to work? __________________ One room, one axe, one outcome.

07-15-2002, 09:08 PM	#8
Moni Guest Posts: n/a	It may eat at you for years to come if you never know. There is no harm in taking the chance but be sure to tell her beforehand that no matter what her answer is, you don't want it to affect your friendship and be prepared not to let a "no" drive you away from being friends with her. I've lost guy friends that I really adored because they asked me out but weren't prepared for me to say no and never talked to me again because they were embarassed or mad. No one understood that just because they thought I was pretty didn't mean I did or that I was very shy about the whole concept of dating. I miss them. [img]smile.gif[/img]

07-15-2002, 09:14 PM	#9
Madman-Rogovich Lord Soth Join Date: October 23, 2001 Location: Edinburgh Age: 39 Posts: 1,918	okay thanks guys moni im going to bed now. then im gonna as her out in the morning Cheers guys! __________________ One room, one axe, one outcome.

07-15-2002, 09:54 PM	#10
DeSoya Manshoon Join Date: March 27, 2002 Location: Boulder, CO Age: 46 Posts: 199	Good luck man! I think you're doing the right thing for the right reasons. Regardless of the outcome it'll turn out better than you think. Sounds wierd but I speak from personal experience in matters exactly like this. [img]smile.gif[/img] DeSoya __________________ \"We all enter this world in the same way: naked; screaming; soaked in blood. But if you live your life right, that kind of thing doesn\'t have to stop there.\" <br />Dana Gould

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