Friend problems

cloud ff7 38 · 08-20-2003, 01:33 PM

Well let my friend borrow a game off me and he lost it about a week later its found broken under his bed hes laughs and says "here ya go" so well what should i do
1. kick his ass
2. forgive him
3. dont talk to him
4. make him pay for it
help me out with this

johnny · 08-20-2003, 01:35 PM

If he's truly a friend, he would have offered to pay for it himself. So he just laughed in your face ?

InsaneBane · 08-20-2003, 01:56 PM

Doesn't sound like a friend to me.

But - Maybe he was too embaressed and didn't know what to say, other than the "here you are". Try to explain to him that you are dissapointed, that he just didn't cared for it like if it was his own stuff. Tell him that you would have bought a new game (or paid the money for it), if it was you who had damaged a borrowed game.

If he still acts as it wasn't his fault that the game was broken. And like it is your problem, because it was you who borrowed him the game, then: Time to go out and seek some new friends!

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Insane

Cloudbringer · 08-20-2003, 01:58 PM

I'd say he owes you a new game. If you borrow something, you take extra good care of it as it's not yours!

johnny · 08-20-2003, 02:00 PM

Dude, if he really thinks it's funny to give you the disc back in two pieces, then take it, go to his parents and tell your story. See if he's still laughing after that.

Faceman · 08-20-2003, 02:00 PM

Make him pay *evilgrin* Make him PAY!

seriously: It's as simple as that. he borrowed it, he broke it, he compensates for it. Unless he finds another way (like getting a used game in good condition and giving it to you) he'll have to pay. Normally I am quick to forgive my friends if the break my things and don't ask for compensation but if I litterally get laughed at I would not understand why I should be the nice guy getting screwed.
So basically I'd root for option 2 in a normal case but in this case (mockery) I'd strongly recommend option 4 (and would be quite understanding with people who choose option 1).

Bungleau · 08-20-2003, 02:03 PM

Sounds like a problem...

First, I'd talk to my friend. "Dude, I'm unhappy. I loaned you the game, and it's broken. I'd really like you to replace it for me."

Either he does, or he doesn't.

If he doesn't, I'm never loaning him anything else. He can b**** and moan all he wants, but he isn't worth my trust at this point. Life goes on. Leave him behind and move on. And when he asks why, tell him. And when he says, "aww, you're not all bummed up about some stupid game, are you? It wasn't even fun anyway!" and tries to belittle you into going along, tell him, "hey -- I can't trust you with a game, so do you think I'm going to trust you with anything valuable?"

Just move on, that's what she told me.

SecretMaster · 08-20-2003, 02:07 PM

You know what I'd do, *borrow* one of his brand new games, break and say "Oh, you left this here the other day." But thats just me.

LennonCook · 08-21-2003, 04:35 AM

Ask for compensation, definately. If he purposely and knowingly does something like that to you, and refuses to make any steps toward apologising, is he realy a friend? I would say not. If he doesn't even apologise, let alone compensate, go for option 1.

Luvian · 08-21-2003, 05:05 AM

3-1-4-2, in that order.

08-20-2003, 01:35 PM	#2
johnny 40th Level Warrior Join Date: April 15, 2002 Location: Utrecht The Netherlands Age: 58 Posts: 16,981	If he's truly a friend, he would have offered to pay for it himself. So he just laughed in your face ? __________________

08-20-2003, 01:56 PM	#3
InsaneBane Baaz Draconian Join Date: November 5, 2002 Location: Denmark Age: 57 Posts: 724	Doesn't sound like a friend to me. But - Maybe he was too embaressed and didn't know what to say, other than the "here you are". Try to explain to him that you are dissapointed, that he just didn't cared for it like if it was his own stuff. Tell him that you would have bought a new game (or paid the money for it), if it was you who had damaged a borrowed game. If he still acts as it wasn't his fault that the game was broken. And like it is your problem, because it was you who borrowed him the game, then: Time to go out and seek some new friends! [img]graemlins/greenbounce.gif[/img] Insane __________________ Ko-founder of the SCFC(TM) Korporation.

08-20-2003, 01:58 PM	#4
Cloudbringer Ironworks Moderator Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: Upstate NY USA Posts: 19,737	I'd say he owes you a new game. If you borrow something, you take extra good care of it as it's not yours! __________________ "Don't take life for granted." Animal (may he rest in peace)

08-20-2003, 02:00 PM	#5
johnny 40th Level Warrior Join Date: April 15, 2002 Location: Utrecht The Netherlands Age: 58 Posts: 16,981	Dude, if he really thinks it's funny to give you the disc back in two pieces, then take it, go to his parents and tell your story. See if he's still laughing after that. __________________

08-20-2003, 02:00 PM	#6
Faceman Hathor Join Date: February 18, 2002 Location: Vienna Age: 42 Posts: 2,248	Make him pay evilgrin Make him PAY! seriously: It's as simple as that. he borrowed it, he broke it, he compensates for it. Unless he finds another way (like getting a used game in good condition and giving it to you) he'll have to pay. Normally I am quick to forgive my friends if the break my things and don't ask for compensation but if I litterally get laughed at I would not understand why I should be the nice guy getting screwed. So basically I'd root for option 2 in a normal case but in this case (mockery) I'd strongly recommend option 4 (and would be quite understanding with people who choose option 1). __________________ \"I am forever spellbound by the frailty of life\"<br /><br /> Faceman

08-20-2003, 01:33 PM	#1
cloud ff7 38 User suspended until [Nov26] Join Date: August 7, 2003 Location: Midgar Age: 35 Posts: 533	Well let my friend borrow a game off me and he lost it about a week later its found broken under his bed hes laughs and says "here ya go" so well what should i do 1. kick his ass 2. forgive him 3. dont talk to him 4. make him pay for it help me out with this

08-20-2003, 02:03 PM	#7
Bungleau 40th Level Warrior Join Date: October 29, 2001 Location: Western Wilds of Michigan Posts: 11,752	Sounds like a problem... First, I'd talk to my friend. "Dude, I'm unhappy. I loaned you the game, and it's broken. I'd really like you to replace it for me." Either he does, or he doesn't. If he doesn't, I'm never loaning him anything else. He can b**** and moan all he wants, but he isn't worth my trust at this point. Life goes on. Leave him behind and move on. And when he asks why, tell him. And when he says, "aww, you're not all bummed up about some stupid game, are you? It wasn't even fun anyway!" and tries to belittle you into going along, tell him, "hey -- I can't trust you with a game, so do you think I'm going to trust you with anything valuable?" Just move on, that's what she told me. __________________ B Save Early, Save Often Save Before, Save After Two-Star General, Spelling Soldiers -+-+-+ Give 'em a hug one more time. It might be the last.

08-20-2003, 02:07 PM	#8
SecretMaster Apophis Join Date: October 19, 2001 Location: New York Age: 37 Posts: 4,666	You know what I'd do, borrow one of his brand new games, break and say "Oh, you left this here the other day." But thats just me.

08-21-2003, 04:35 AM	#9
LennonCook Jack Burton Join Date: November 10, 2001 Location: Bathurst & Orange, in constant flux Age: 37 Posts: 5,452	Ask for compensation, definately. If he purposely and knowingly does something like that to you, and refuses to make any steps toward apologising, is he realy a friend? I would say not. If he doesn't even apologise, let alone compensate, go for option 1.

08-21-2003, 05:05 AM	#10
Luvian Ironworks Moderator Join Date: June 27, 2001 Location: Montreal, Quebec, Canada Age: 43 Posts: 6,763	3-1-4-2, in that order. __________________ Once upon a time in Canada...

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