Am I A Fool? Sadness...

[Bahamut]

yup... an honest answer is that it was a lame excuse... sorry but it really is...

if she cheated on you, fine. if you cheated on her fine. you maybe a self-proclaimed, or people call you a flirt whatever... but hey, it doesn't hurt unless you really do something about it if you know what I mean... [img]smile.gif[/img]

It is never too late. But then with that kind of reason to begin with it is going to be pretty hard to take her back. Hey, I have my girlfriend live on a different city, and with all the hustle and bustle of traffic and pollution here it is very tiring and stressful. I never did complain even though I knew it was far, even if my mom and I killed each other for the car... we're going very strong on 9 months going to 10, and ealier in our relationship we didn't see each other for 1 1/2 months, and yes it drove me NUTS. But I didn't give up on her like you did...

In my opinion you don't love the girl because you still are concerned with yourself more than her... which is a good thing because from how you have been acting it seems that you can deal with it pretty well...

sorry if I sound too bad on this... it's just my blunt 2c.

[Beaumanoir]

Originally posted by The Hierophant: If you did get her back, you would probably go back to the old doubts again and the cycle would repeat itself.

Thats 100% true. Its a cycle which I can't get out of I i'm fearin the longer I'm in it the harder its crash

Originally posted by Bungleau: After a year, I'd had it. On a trip down to visit her, I told her enough was enough and asked her to marry me. Twelve years later, we're still going strong.

Woah, Im feelin a bit young for proposal, mid-twenties before I do that. Not throwing my life away yet [img]tongue.gif[/img]

[Bahamut]

oh yeah i forgot...

we're still young anyway... what the hell... [img]smile.gif[/img]

but it's still a poor desicion nonetheless...

[pritchke]

While I would agree with Lord and numerous other posters that you did the wrong thing, there is a question that you have to answer. You may have actually done the correct thing as long as you were honest about it.

Can you handle a slight long distance thing? Not everyone can handle any type of long distance relationship. Relationships are meant to be worked on but some times there are things that one of the couple can not handle. I have been dumped twice by two girls because they could not handle the long distance thing for a little bit. If you feel that you would not be able to handle the long distance thing than you probably did the correct thing. The longer the relationship goes on the more it will hurt her when you decide to dump her. Even worse you could start seeing someone on the side and she would have wasted a part of her life on you when she could have been looking for someone for her.

Just a different perspective.

[ 10-28-2003, 02:27 PM: Message edited by: pritchke ]

[Beaumanoir]

Thats what I thought, the longer I leave it the harder it'll be, and theres so many places my mind can wander unsupervised...

[LordKathen]

Originally posted by Beaumanoir: Thats what I thought, the longer I leave it the harder it'll be, and theres so many places my mind can wander unsupervised...

You hit the nail right on the head there man. Sometimes it's hard to face reality, but from what you just stated, you did the right thing. Upfront honesty is always best. [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img]

Originally posted by Beaumanoir: I just broke up with my girlfriend yeh, And I'm wonder If I should of... I really like her but because she lives quite a distance away from me I only see her every weekend or, in many cases, every fortnight... And It drove me mad. When I was with her I didn't think of the distance at all beause I really liked her. But it just got hard never seeing her. I tried telling myself that I should be able to manage the mid-week till i could see her but it got very hard... Have I done the right thing?

Man, Beau. This one is gonna make me cry. To break up because of distance. But I don't want to judge. Only time will tell if it was the right thing to do. Just ask yourself questions and you will find the answer to do the right thing. Did she cry? Do you still love her? Does she love you? Is the love strong enough to keep a long distance relationship together? Etc. I wish you and her the best. Excuse me now while I go and wipe my tears.

[Epona]

Beaumanoir - you did NOT do the wrong thing.

If you were not happy or were having doubts, then it is not wrong to break up. It may hurt, but there is no wrong or right to the situation. If you weren't crazy enough about this girl to wait for the few times you had together, then she is not the one for you. Life is too short for second best. Of course it hurts breaking up with someone, it is a big change to your life, but you are young and there will be others, probably there will one day be someone you are crazy about! [img]smile.gif[/img]

[cloud ff7 38]

you did nothing wrong. If you feel as if you should split it then its a good choice it really isent worth it if you only see her on the weekends is it?
So cheer up there are more out there.

[dizzy]

DISTANCE DOESN'T MATTER. If you wanted to break up with her break up with her. I am like 10,000 miles away from my fiancee right now and I wont get to se eher for about at least 8 months .. so to me, distance doesn't matter. But its your call bud. Soryr Im nbot much help lol