I just did a very stupid thing

[Jorath Calar]

I asked a girl out next friday, I havn't done so for a long time and I'm so afraid I will blow it and she won't like me after it... I mean what is a date else than a job interview that lasts all night (okey it's not a big chance everyone will end up naked at the end of a job interview but other than that.... [img]smile.gif[/img] )
I really like her and all, but how can I know if she likes me?

One part of me says that it will be great, the other keeps telling me she will be bored, no matter what I try.
Sorry guys, I'm a neural shipwreck right now. help...!

One good step is to forget about the nekkid at the end of the night thing and just be yourself. Let the rest take care of itself. If it isn't going to work, you can't make it...and if it is a good match, then there isn't any need to "try"

[Bahamut]

well what happened to me was the same... but when you're there... i am sure you will know what to do... i know from experience... but of course, the main objective, no matter how business like or whatever, is to have fun

[Melusine]

Just go for it! Try to make yourself look forward to it as a great night out, and if you manage that, it will definitely show to her. If you're not confident, just fake it, and you'll notice that you'll actually start to believe in it, and so will she! [img]smile.gif[/img]
Lots of luck!

[*\Conan/*]

What common intrests do you have with each other? I suggest finding one before you go out so you will both have a good time. Dancing, sports, shopping, movies????? She will be "checking you out" but dont concentrait on that. Its just a date

[250]

dont EVER try to be yourself

instead, try to be someone else. that makes you less nerveous. when you get laid, then you can go back to your normal self...

ok just kidding about the later part. just be someone else, that is my advice. I am tired and sick of hearing "be yourself" instead, try to focus on something less serious, light hearted stuff. after all, successfully being someone else is part of yourself [img]tongue.gif[/img]

[Bahamut]

ha! but that other part usually doesn't end up with the girl 250... you usually shed off the outer layer then go deeper... etc...

here's a hint: be yourself. but no, not as 250 said it... but here's the hitch, put a lil mystery in it. she will be puzzled and would like to examine you more...

[250]

no no no, that is still same old common advice, girls hate being general. so try to be someone else instead, and when she found out you are acting, and you constructively make a commitement to change, she'd feel good, and start to take interest for your honesty-in-shy-way and cute-stupidty

that way, you will get it!

[Garnet FalconDance]

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Originally posted by 250:
no no no, that is still same old common advice, girls hate being general. so try to be someone else instead, and when she found out you are acting, and you constructively make a commitement to change, she'd feel good, and start to take interest for your honesty-in-shy-way and cute-stupidty

that way, you will get it!

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At best this approach is manipulation. At worst, deception. Either one is no good.

tsk, tsk, Leo. I thought I taught you better.....

You kids are silly [img]smile.gif[/img] heheh if you are anything but yourself, it wont work and will bring nothing but more pain to you in the long run.

It is way way way WAY easier to just be you and then you will meet someone who likes who you are....and so its more likely to work...failed relationships are not worth the time and effort..so why not go for what will work...and what will work is something based on what is real. Unless your just looking to get laid, if that is the case it is easier to just go to a club and pick up a horny babe or dude (as the case may be) and have at it..you both get what you're looking for..its shallow but some people like it that way.