05-26-2002, 03:42 PM | #11 | |
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What is defined as clearly leading on though? Usually on a night out most guys judgements are clouded by alcohol. How much do you think people can excuse their behaviour with the excuse of alcohol?
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05-26-2002, 03:54 PM | #12 |
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Lol, I'll tell Gal how lucky she is, though I don't think she'll be very impressed. I'll also tell her that you miss her, but I don't think she'll be coming back to GD unless something here really interests her. To answer your questions, alcohol is no excuse for anything. If at all, it should be another reason to apologise for and regret one's behavior. Also, though I know I sound old-fashioned, you girls should be prudent when you are on the town. Go in groups, don't drink too much, even if you think that you are with someone you can trust. As to what can be constituted as leading a man on, I should say, giving notes, making sexual suggestions, physical contact (stroking, etc), should be considered definite signs that a girl is ready to party. Nothing less. If a man is unsure, he should ask.
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Just walking down my street (which is a pretty respectable place where hookers do NOT hang about) in jeans shirt and jacket, some guy in a lexus (whom I thought needed directions) rolled down the window and went, "Williamson street, know it?" me: "no, sorry." him, "are you looking for business?" me, "no" him, "How much would it cost me to have you, give me a figure." me, "no really. I'm not looking for business, I've got to go." and I start walking away. he shouts after me, "do you have a number I can contact you on?" me, "no, sorry, I've really got to go, bye!" and I legged it. Which leaves me kind of worried as to whether it's my fault this happened to me. Maybe some way I walked or just something about me? Quote:
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Just walking down my street (which is a pretty respectable place where hookers do NOT hang about) in jeans shirt and jacket, some guy in a lexus (whom I thought needed directions) rolled down the window and went, "Williamson street, know it?" me: "no, sorry." him, "are you looking for business?" me, "no" him, "How much would it cost me to have you, give me a figure." me, "no really. I'm not looking for business, I've got to go." and I start walking away. he shouts after me, "do you have a number I can contact you on?" me, "no, sorry, I've really got to go, bye!" and I legged it. Which leaves me kind of worried as to whether it's my fault this happened to me. Maybe some way I walked or just something about me? Quote:
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05-26-2002, 04:15 PM | #16 |
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Eternity, I think you should stop fussing about it. Every girl that's not even moderately attractive gets hit upon every now and then, hell, you wouldn't believe how often it happens. It's apparently part of being a woman
But of COURSE it's NEVER your own fault. I think most women intuitively know when they're "asking for it", namely when they're actually willing, and in ALL OTHER CASES, you are not giving incentive and it's NOT your fault. Clothing has little to do with it. I've had experiences when I was going out wearing a short skirt or something and got hit upon a lot, but it never seemed to me that it was my own fault or something - sure, they can chat me up if they think I might be interested, but as soon as I tell them I'm NOT, they can bugger off, no matter what skirt I'm wearing. If you're firm in your rejections, make it absolutely clear you're not interested, you have done all you can.
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05-26-2002, 04:19 PM | #17 |
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Nothing excuses groping or anything of the sort and I can honestly say I am embarrassed to be male when I hear of other blokes doing things like this. It's pure frustration as well as complete lack of self-control and I'm sorry you had to put up with such disrespectful men, Eternity.
As far as flirting goes - well, I like it in the right circumstances, I hate it when it is for the sole purpose of leading someone on. The best flirting is always done subtly. I personally enjoy mind games and like a bit of tactful flirtation here and there. I much prefer the refined route over the blatent, ostentatious ways |
05-26-2002, 04:32 PM | #18 | |
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I'm glad there are guys like Avvy and u in this world [img]graemlins/bighug.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/anmflower.gif[/img] Although I'm not so sure about mind games... are they maybe a little cruel? You're right Melusine. I shouldn't get worried about it. [img]smile.gif[/img] but what do you think constitutes as flirting?
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05-26-2002, 04:47 PM | #20 |
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Me? depends. There are some things already mentioned here, such as frequently touching someone (even if only on the arm or shoulder or sth - as that is actually proven to be behaviour indicating you ARE interested in someone) and using lots of innuendo that I don't think are very wise to do unless you're interested in that person.
But like I said, I would have thought most people intuitively know when they're going too far. I may make an off-colour joke or reference to a guy, but smile in a way to make absolutely clear I'm just joking. In any case, whether you consider someone to be flirting or not, if a woman - or a guy!- gives a clear 'no', there is NOTHING that allows them to try anything. No is no, no matter what signals they thought you were giving before that.
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