Question about relationships

Dreamer128 · 12-12-2003, 04:40 PM

I’m curious.. How much are you are and your partner alike? Do you share hobby’s, interests, political preference.. or maybe none of the above? And do you like to be with someone who comes close to being your mirror image, or would you prefer someone with whom you have absolutely nothing in common?

Rokenn · 12-12-2003, 04:44 PM

I've always liked a mix. My wife and I have similiar politics (I'm a bit more liberal). Different tastes in music, movies, and books. But enough overlap that we can still share in all three. Oh and I am diffenately the cook in the family [img]tongue.gif[/img]

She's a New York City woman (via 10 years in Austin, Tx and I'm a West Coast guy. We make a good pair [img]smile.gif[/img]

[ 12-12-2003, 04:46 PM: Message edited by: Rokenn ]

quietman1920 · 12-12-2003, 05:31 PM

I used to think that the perfect couple, to me, was one where there were enough common interests to be able to have fun together, but enough differences that life would never be boring. A well-matched couple should be able to play trivial persuit successfully and have each know which catagories were 'theirs'.

I recognise that that last bit is a very old criteria... and I'm not even sure people here will remember what trivial persuit was.

johnny · 12-12-2003, 08:29 PM

Mirror images scare the hell out of me.

Arledrian · 12-12-2003, 10:01 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by johnny:
Mirror images scare the hell out of me.

I'll tell this guy you said that! [img]graemlins/hehe.gif[/img]

I never used to give the whole similarities/differences thing much thought, but over time and with a few relationships under my belt, it's slowly become something to think about for me.

In general, I like my girl to be fairly similar to me, with a few interesting quirks that I have to deal with. It's important that our personalities, values, priorities, future plans, work ethic etc. are all reasonably synchronized, because I think these are fundamental elements that genuinely determine compatibility.

Things like upbringing, tastes, interests, and (life) experiences are all workable variables in my book; I think these can vary greatly between two people without ever really harming the bond they share.

Just my own personal observations so far in life [img]smile.gif[/img]

Kakero · 12-12-2003, 11:01 PM

I DEFINITELY would not want my girl to be somewhat similar to me. My personality is that "I do what I want, when I want and how I want it to be done". If my girl is happen to be like that too god knows what will happen.

I would like my girl to be somewhat like my mum? err...strict, strong will, able to control people. err..gee did I said that?

Bahamut · 12-13-2003, 01:47 AM

it's the comfort... it's the feeling of wanting to be with her and all that... the chemistry... the mix will determine it...

what i mean is... you don't really have to pick someone because of their interests... try mingling with them and you will find out for soon if your strengths and weaknesses compliment each other

Mr_Krift · 12-14-2003, 03:50 PM

it was never about interests with me, just wiether i like her and she likes me, but then again im just a 15 year old kid who has only had 2 girlfriends, including mine now

NiceWorg · 12-14-2003, 04:06 PM

Just like German are, she´s a little arrogant to my taste, but I don´t find any other faults. We´ve never (2y together) discussed about politics. Different music taste and totally opposite interests. It´s often difficult to cope with that, but we come along great.

Sumthin like that

TAOWolf · 12-15-2003, 02:34 AM

My husband and I say things at the same time alot... it's scary actually sometimes

...

we also have alot in common...but having a few things we like different is great too...

12-12-2003, 04:44 PM	#2
Rokenn Galvatron Join Date: January 22, 2002 Location: california wine country Age: 60 Posts: 2,193	I've always liked a mix. My wife and I have similiar politics (I'm a bit more liberal). Different tastes in music, movies, and books. But enough overlap that we can still share in all three. Oh and I am diffenately the cook in the family [img]tongue.gif[/img] She's a New York City woman (via 10 years in Austin, Tx and I'm a West Coast guy. We make a good pair [img]smile.gif[/img] [ 12-12-2003, 04:46 PM: Message edited by: Rokenn ] __________________ “This is an impressive crowd, the haves and the have mores. <br />Some people call you the elite. <br />I call you my base.”<br />~ George W. Bush (2000)

12-12-2003, 05:31 PM	#3
quietman1920 Avatar Join Date: January 6, 2003 Location: NJ, USA Age: 25 Posts: 550	I used to think that the perfect couple, to me, was one where there were enough common interests to be able to have fun together, but enough differences that life would never be boring. A well-matched couple should be able to play trivial persuit successfully and have each know which catagories were 'theirs'. I recognise that that last bit is a very old criteria... and I'm not even sure people here will remember what trivial persuit was. __________________ <b>\"In the darkest hour theres a light that shines on every human being...but one!\"</b>

12-12-2003, 08:29 PM	#4
johnny 40th Level Warrior Join Date: April 15, 2002 Location: Utrecht The Netherlands Age: 58 Posts: 16,981	Mirror images scare the hell out of me. __________________

12-13-2003, 01:47 AM	#7
Bahamut Iron Throne Cult Join Date: March 12, 2001 Location: Manila, Philippines Age: 39 Posts: 4,864	it's the comfort... it's the feeling of wanting to be with her and all that... the chemistry... the mix will determine it... what i mean is... you don't really have to pick someone because of their interests... try mingling with them and you will find out for soon if your strengths and weaknesses compliment each other __________________ http://makeallthedifference.blogspot.com http://www.bratgirlcentral.com/cgi-b.../ikonboard.cgi

12-14-2003, 03:50 PM	#8
Mr_Krift Zhentarim Guard Join Date: January 12, 2003 Location: USA Age: 35 Posts: 326	it was never about interests with me, just wiether i like her and she likes me, but then again im just a 15 year old kid who has only had 2 girlfriends, including mine now __________________ [img]\"http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v629/Krift/RoF.jpg\" alt=\" - \" />

12-12-2003, 04:40 PM	#1
Dreamer128 Dracolisk Join Date: March 21, 2001 Location: Europe Age: 39 Posts: 6,136	I’m curious.. How much are you are and your partner alike? Do you share hobby’s, interests, political preference.. or maybe none of the above? And do you like to be with someone who comes close to being your mirror image, or would you prefer someone with whom you have absolutely nothing in common?

12-12-2003, 11:01 PM	#6
Kakero 40th Level Warrior Join Date: March 24, 2002 Posts: 10,215	I DEFINITELY would not want my girl to be somewhat similar to me. My personality is that "I do what I want, when I want and how I want it to be done". If my girl is happen to be like that too god knows what will happen. I would like my girl to be somewhat like my mum? err...strict, strong will, able to control people. err..gee did I said that?

12-14-2003, 04:06 PM	#9
NiceWorg Baaz Draconian Join Date: January 15, 2002 Location: Vaasa, Finland Age: 42 Posts: 772	Just like German are, she´s a little arrogant to my taste, but I don´t find any other faults. We´ve never (2y together) discussed about politics. Different music taste and totally opposite interests. It´s often difficult to cope with that, but we come along great. Sumthin like that __________________ Fell in love with a country girl, morning sunshine<br />She was up from a nether world, just to bust another soul<br />[url]\"http://jarkokson.suddenlaunch.com\" target=\"_blank\">Click!</a>

12-15-2003, 02:34 AM	#10
TAOWolf White Dragon Join Date: December 1, 2001 Location: Mountains of Arkansas, US Posts: 1,887	My husband and I say things at the same time alot... it's scary actually sometimes ... we also have alot in common...but having a few things we like different is great too... __________________ May the moon always shine upon your face, and your imagination soar to the heavens.... Chan ann leis a’chiad bhuille thuiteas a’chraobh.

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