blowing of steam...

[Reeka]

Crimson, now we know how your wife gets your attention and why you have been married so long-----you are "punch drunk" from the baseball bat.

[Larry_OHF]

Okay, I like what TheCrimsomBlade said more...do that !

And Reeka...when two people marry, and the husband is doing something such as looking nude women, and it is breaking her heart...then it is wrong for him to continue, not because it might be a bad thing in his own sight, but because the person he promised to love and the one that is the mother of his children is hurt because of it. If he wants his own freedom to do what is against his wife's wishes...he should never have married. Pain, untrust, jelousy, anger...do these sound like words that belong in a covenented bond between a man and the woman he chose to live his life with?


Quit sticking up for pricks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Stormymystic]

well since you put it that way...
actualy i understand his weakness, and as i posted, it normaly doesn't bother me, but when he starts putting wheremy son can find it, i have to draw the line.
i know that i was ranting, and really just needed to get it all off my chest, some of the things he does seems childish to me, but i also have to look at myself when i say this, because i never wat to grow up in the way most people do, i enjoy life of wonder and discovery, and as for talking...it is like telling a mule to climb the mountain full of rattlers,lol i say most of my feelings in poetry, and he reads them, no discussion, he tells me his feelings(I feel it is time to eat again) and that is about it, i see a counseler for my "codition" for lack of better description and have asked him to come wiht me, he did once, and freaked out, said i was attacking him when i tried to express my feelings, i grew up in a strange life where no one talked...mostly because everyone was to drunk,lol but when we did it was always arguing, and my mother has the worst habit of playing guilt games, so i have learned from her how to say my feelings, i am trying to do things right and really do want to work out our problems, but i will also not post on here the things he HAS done that put me where i am today, just say that we were sepperated for almost a year when i was pregnant the second time so to chose would have to be the hardest thing to do, because at this point, i am unsure if we are together for the right reasons...does my post keep getting longer???.......or just for the sake of the kids, i am unsure about alot of things, mostly to do with me, and when he looks at other women, it makes me feel like less of a woman now because my body is covered with scars from childbirth i know he really loves me, or he would not put up with the things i have done to him, i admit, sometimes i do get selfish, but i feel that i am justified to sometimes want something for me, ie. not always having to let my kids drink up all of my drink when they have a full cup, not having to always cook meals because it is hot in the house, wanting to take a bath with out 3 kids in the tub with me, i do love my kids, but am i being selfish for wanting time away? and even wanting time to go out with friends, i have only gone out one time without my husband, and it seems that i have no friends because i can not go anywhere or do anything because i am always taking care of the kids

[Stormymystic]

Originally posted by TheCrimsomBlade: Go buy yourself a baseball Bat and when your husband walks into the house go smack him in the fore head with it as hard as you can, [img]graemlins/whackya.gif[/img] at the same time saying listen to me you stupid uncareing SOB I need a f*&^%$# day off then hit him with it again [img]graemlins/whackya.gif[/img] and say Your watching the f*&^%$# kids and I'm going to the Mall then hit him with it one more time [img]graemlins/whackya.gif[/img] and say "while your watching the kids Clean this house or when I get home I'm really going to hurt you" then give him a little kiss on the cheek and go to mall. [img]graemlins/whackya.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/whackya.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/whip.gif[/img]

roflmao...hmmm would he be able to focus after all that??????

[Charlie]

Originally posted by Stormymystic: roflmao...hmmm would he be able to focus after all that??????

Well it'll stop him looking at the porno sites properly, they always say sex makes you go blind......now I know why.

[Reeka]

Larry, I do NOT appreciate your comment that I am "sticking up for the pricks." I am mainly expressing a different point of view, that not everyone in the world considers men, even married men, looking at pictures of naked women as a "weakness" to be gotten over in the same category as drug abuse. AND Stormy has already said that him looking at it didn't bother her, it was the fact that it was where their child could see it. (Maybe you do need to read the entire thread next time.)

Stormy, don't be so hard on yourself and compare yourself to other women. I have a big scar where women have a c-section because I had to have an ovary removed and I have a huge scar down the middle of my chest from open-heart surgery. If a man loves you and wants you, that doesn't matter. You have to not let it matter to you.

[Larry_OHF]

Stormy, you are not wrong to feel the way you do, and you deserve the best, because you are a mother. In fact, your cute little tyke there looks a bit like my MaryBeth, so I have to take your side on the whole thing because of that!

I find that marriage counseling is okay,,,I myself want to be a counselor, but not yet...but the most important thing is open communication between the two. One cannot just open one's mouth and let whatever come flying out. Communication is a skill and can be perfected. Certain words can have the same meaning, but one may weigh more than another, so it is important to know which one to use in what circumstance. I want get into all that now.
I only want to wish you the best in finding a solution to this matter. If your husbad is only there because of the kids...then at least he is decent and loving enough to do that...He may hae some hidden power there that you have not yet seen! Try finding it.

[Gangrell]

Sounds to me like he needs to take care of the youngins for a change. It's not being selfish wanting to get away for a bit after taking care of three kids for so long or just wanting to be loved, I've had to take care of my little cousins for less than a day and they had already worn me out. Get a baby sitter and go out for one night and enjoy some time with your friends. Everyone needs a chance to get away every once in a great while.

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[TheCrimsomBlade]

Last words from me tonight I'm going to bed here are my last words.

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GET A BIGGER BAT [img]graemlins/neo1.gif[/img]

now to seath my big Red sword and say nighty night

[Stormymystic]

yes that is true, but that is also where alot of the problems stim from, we do not have enough money i am not trying to say i wish i was rich, because i do not, but we barely are able to pay our bills and buy food, so hiring a babysitter is out of the question for now, and another thing that bugs me, and do not take this wrong, is how everyone who has a job complains abot it, i personaly would give anything to be able to work, but my whole family has convinced me that kids aside there is no possible way i could hold down a job because
1. i am legaly deaf
2. after having my first child, i had an infection that pretty much ruined my abdomen, so now i can not stand on my feet for 8 hours asay, which is all i am qualified to do
3. and this is going to be funny...I am dyslexic, and have to work really hard just to understand how the words are supposed to go,lol
4. i am only human, there is now possible way i could hold down a job, the longest i did work at one place was also my worst nightmare....see hate springtime in arkansas thread to understand, i worked at Waffle house for 4 years
so i guess i envy him too, to be able to go out and work so much and have fun while doing it, but mostly right now i think i am emotional because i am worrid about the next few years, which will be mostly more surgeries to try and repair everything that the doctor messed up when ignored an infection, plus i will have more on my ears to try and at least slow the disease that is killing my hearing, so all aside,i know i am probably not the best person, i know i have a lot of faults and some of them i will not change, like my sense of humor...he knew i was a smart mouth when he was dating me,lol