Age Diffrence In a Relationship

[Dreamer128]

I often see 13-15 year old girls date guys in their mid-twenties, which I think is plain creepy. When they hit 18 though, they all have the right to decide for themselves [img]smile.gif[/img]

[Melusine]

Good posts, Epona and Arledrian - that's how I feel about the issue as well. Although what Dreamer says is also very true - young teens dating men in their twenties seems creepy to me, too. Not even necessarily because I think such young girls are always too immature for it, but more because I'd seriously doubt the motives and sexual preferences of say, a 29 year old going after a 13 year old kid.
But apart from that, to me it's all good. There are people of the same age in destructive, bad relationships and people with a 20 year age gap in brilliant, stable relationships.

The most extreme example in my own environment was the head of the English department at my university - a professor pushing 60 - dating a girl from my class who was about a year younger than me (21 at the time) (even though she looked like a dumpy housewife in her late thirties :S)
That to me felt wrong but not really because of the age difference. Not that I could imagine falling for someone so much older, but I do realise you don't really rationally pick who you fall in love with. But the thing that bothered me about it was the fact that she was a student at the same uni, and even though they'd arranged matters so that she would never be in any classes taught by him, I can imagine the situation was very awkward for the professor's colleagues and for some students too. They've split up now, BTW, after a relationship of some years.

Personally I've dated both older men (up to about 7 years older) and younger ones (a year younger) and I can imagine falling for someone with an even bigger age gap. (edit: now that I think about it, the 1yr younger one was a lot more mature than the 7yr older one ) Usually I date people roughly my own age though - I tend to look at emotional and intellectual maturity that is similar to my own, not whether their age is close to mine.

[ 08-07-2004, 04:31 PM: Message edited by: Melusine ]

[uss]

Depends on how mature the people individually are. I have no problem with 20 and 30, but 15 and 25 is different.