Age Diffrence In a Relationship

[Stormymystic]

coyote and I are 9 years apart, that does not bother me too much. I personally do not thik age is a problem as long as everyone is consenting adults the only problem I see is if say someone is in their teens (below 18) and the other is in their 20's.

[Illumina Drathiran'ar]

Originally posted by Jorath Calar: Well my reason for this poll is I just heard something very disturbing, a guy here in my town, one year older than me (which makes him 30) is "dating" a 16 years old girl. That to me borders on a crime I think.

In some areas 16 is the age of consent, right? I am unsure. Either way, it's wrong. Even if you have perspective and maturity at 16, you lack the *experience* that somebody almost twice your age would have. This is the same reason people going steady at age 15 bothers me somewhat.

Note- When I say going steady, I'm thinking of people who have been together throughout high school. Sometimes they get married after. I, personally, do not find such behavior wise. But that's another debate.

[Bahamut]

That age gap expands when you get old. [img]smile.gif[/img]

I consider a 16 year-old prospect right now, and I am 19. If she were 15, no way. But then, I was 25 and she was 19, that'd be possible also. Stressing the same point some people were saying. [img]smile.gif[/img]

[Aelia Jusa]

I'm not comfortable with the 30yrs-16yrs combination either; I think, like Illumina, that at 16 you lack experience, but also, with few exceptions, they aren't hugely mature at that age. On the other hand, every situation is different and I think often in cases like this we tend to think of the older person (especially if it's a man, those old stereotypes rearing up) as somewhat of a predator, or a weirdo, when that need not be the case.

As well, in all relationships with an age difference, not just ones that involve quite young people, my feelings on how old people should be are relevant for myself, but I wouldn't impose them on anyone else. It's not my place to disapprove of someone else's relationship, especially when you consider that most relationships people have are relatively short-term - marriage or similar doesn't usually result from it. There are rational reasons why large age gaps aren't the best idea, but in the main people work that out for themselves rather than having well-meaning friends and relatives clucking their tongues and telling them to end it.

[Mundus]

i havent eva been in a relationship where the age difference was less than 4 yrs i see nuthin wrong wit age differences as long as the two ppl concerned have no problem with it.

[Kakero]

I've nothing wrong with people having relationship if they have a 10 years difference. However, I'll give a strange eye to any that is above that. imagine your 20ish year old daughter/son coming home and say " hi mum/dad, I brought along my boyfriend/ girlfriend " And when you look it's a 60ish year old man/woman. Yikes!

[T-D-C]

My wife and I are 5 years apart with her being older than me. When we first started out I was 21 and she was 26. She had a few problems at the start however we talked about it and sorted it out and 4 years later we are married.

[Epona]

As long as both are over the age of consent and there is no element of coercion, why should it matter? Some 16 year olds are very emotionally mature, while some 30 year olds act like kids. It depends on the individuls, not on chronological age alone.

I have always tended to go for older men (usually 7 to 14 years my senior) but have recently bucked the trend - I am living with my partner who is 6 months younger than me, it's probably the closest age I've been to anyone I've dated, and the first bloke I've ever dated who has been younger than me.

[Aerich]

I don't think age really matters. That said, it depends on the people involved and how much they care about what other people think. I do agree that it would be awkward at certain ages though.

Personally, at my age (23) I wouldn't go out with anyone more than 5 years younger or older than myself. I'd rather not look like a lecherous cradle-robber or a piece of cougar bait.

[DrowArchmage]

Originally posted by Jorath Calar: Just wondering what you guys think is "appropriate" age diffrence between couples... if you think that at all of course... [img]smile.gif[/img]

ido happen to think and it shouldn't matter i'm like 15 and me and this 20 year old have a thing,if your in love {or so you think}it shouldnt matter