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I'd tell the husband of the woman that's having the affair, after suggesting to the other guy that he should tell it himself. I'd prefer keeping a friend that did not have affairs with his friends' wives....
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06-19-2002, 07:21 AM | #22 | |
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If she loves BOTH people, she may have trouble differentiating. She needs to be pushed to choose between them to be honest. Maybe you could act neutral and discuss it with her [img]smile.gif[/img] however, if you plunge in headfirst and tell your other friend, you could lose two friends (who also break from each other AND the girl) and everybody loses |
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06-19-2002, 07:33 AM | #23 | |
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After advising your friend to break it off dont go near him for a very long time. As far as that goes dont go near the other friend either. If the poor guy who got cheated on finds out that you knew about it he will blame you for not telling him. You lose a friend or two either way. Stay clear of the whole stinking mess.
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06-19-2002, 09:46 AM | #27 |
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LISTEN UP!~
The young and inexperienced may be tempted to tell the husband right off the bat. DON'T! It WILL end bad that way and YOU will be the bad guy. On the flip side if you do nothing and your friend finds out you knew and didn't tell him, you'll also look like the bad guy for letting him play the chump. Like it or not you're stuck in the middle by this. Your best bet is to talk to the girl first and keep your adulterous friend posted. Be warned, he won't like you for this. Tell her you know she is cheating on her husband and with whom. Give her 30 days to break it off with one or the other. Her choice to do the "stand-up" thing. If she breaks off the affair, her lover will have to disappear from thier life, permanently! Husband and wife both. The stage of remaining friends at this point is over. At the end of 30 days if you even suspect she is still seeing him, you will tell the husband. Stand firm, and make sure things are understood clearly. No if's, and's, or but's. That's the bottom line. Don't put up with any procrastination at all. No delays, no excuses! Don't discuss and banter with her endlessly. Simply leave once you're through with your statement. That will make you look firm in your resolution. Hopefully, things will work themselves out from there and his feelings will be spared. If not, you will have to tell him and brave the storm. Other than that, if you don't have the guts for the "stand-up" thing, the only thing you can do is remain silent and feel guilty.
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I think you should remain silent and try and live with it, Jorath. Although it is tempting to get involved, you're going to end up hurting at least one person; why meddle in other people's affairs if it is only going to rock the boat?
I am sure the situation does bother you, but I believe the best thing you can do is stand back and let events run their course. This is only going to end in tears and fighting, and do you really want to be a part of that? |
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