NO NO NO NO NO.... WHY DID SHE DO IT!?!?!?

Black Dragon · 11-01-2002, 10:49 PM

Well, David, if you haven't noticed, we... urgh em... I was going to ask her today, I swear on it, but my stalker (her best friend) came up to me and asked me right before I asked her, I of course.. considering I like her friend not her, plus she's annouying... said no. Yes I know, your not supposed to, but I did, I said no, she was rejected, and the worst part about it, is Erica, the girl I have been waiting all day to ask out to a movie, (yes that was my genious plan) was right there when I rejected her... That blows, it ruined my whole day, cause how could I ask her after rejecting her best friend right in front of her...? HOW YOU TELL ME.. HOW?! Well, to make matters worse, she kept insisting I tell her why I said no. I told her cause I didn't want to, but she wouldn't accept that, so she kept on bugging me, for a half an hour this bugging and nagging went on, then I flipped... I lost control, and said some things I would've never said if I would've been controlling my temper. But you can only hold it for so long you know? Enough is enough, and she didn't realize that, so, I upset her with some of the reasons I gave her, she ran off to someone else weeping and crying, like I was the bad guy, but if she would've just accepted the first answer I gave her about 50 times, she wouldn't have had to hear me shout out why I said no, and trust me. I said, "-=-"

I am sorry, I cannot repeat what I said on here, I do not wish to offend anyone, so I had to edit this cause of what I said, it said all of what I said to her... It wasn't pretty.

[ 11-01-2002, 10:49 PM: Message edited by: Black Dragon ]

Nanobyte · 11-01-2002, 10:55 PM

I know you couldn't help it, but there are better ways of dealing with difficult situations than with verbal abuse. You're going to have to try twice as hard now, even if it is remotely possible, to get this girl to go out with you. Sorry dude.

Animal · 11-01-2002, 10:56 PM

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Originally posted by Black Dragon:
Well, David, if you haven't noticed, we... urgh em... I was going to ask her today, I swear on it, but my stalker (her best friend) came up to me and asked me right before I asked her, I of course.. considering I like her friend not her, plus she's annouying... said no. Yes I know, your not supposed to, but I did, I said no, she was rejected, and the worst part about it, is Erica, the girl I have been waiting all day to ask out to a movie, (yes that was my genious plan) was right there when I rejected her... That blows, it ruined my whole day, cause how could I ask her after rejecting her best friend right in front of her...? HOW YOU TELL ME.. HOW?! Well, to make matters worse, she kept insisting I tell her why I said no. I told her cause I didn't want to, but she wouldn't accept that, so she kept on bugging me, for a half an hour this bugging and nagging went on, then I flipped... I lost control, and said some things I would've never said if I would've been controlling my temper. But you can only hold it for so long you know? Enough is enough, and she didn't realize that, so, I upset her with some of the reasons I gave her, she ran off to someone else weeping and crying, like I was the bad guy, but if she would've just accepted the first answer I gave her about 50 times, she wouldn't have had to hear me shout out why I said no, and trust me. I said, "-=-"

I am sorry, I cannot repeat what I said on here, I do not wish to offend anyone, so I had to edit this cause of what I said, it said all of what I said to her... It wasn't pretty.

Welcome to the world of women. You can't live with them and you can't live without. Get used to it, it doesn't get any easier!

Black Dragon · 11-01-2002, 10:57 PM

Nanobyte, you don't understand, I was very nice to her when I said no the first time, and the second, and the third, and so on, then after a while, she wouldn't give up, so I gave her the full answer she had been working towards getting out of me, so, now she knows, she should be happy, she wanted to know so bad, Its not my fault I am only human...

Animal · 11-01-2002, 11:05 PM

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Originally posted by Black Dragon:
Nanobyte, you don't understand, I was very nice to her when I said no the first time, and the second, and the third, and so on, then after a while, she wouldn't give up, so I gave her the full answer she had been working towards getting out of me, so, now she knows, she should be happy, she wanted to know so bad, Its not my fault I am only human...

Lesson #1: No matter how much women tell you they want to here the truth, they don't. Example: Do these jeans make me look fat? There is no right answer to this question. This is a loaded question with no correct answer. You're damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Nanobyte · 11-01-2002, 11:05 PM

Still, there are better ways you could have resolved this problem. You could have said "I can't talk right now" and walked away. I know this seems unreasonable, but it will keep you from looking like an ass (no insults intended)

The Hierophant · 11-01-2002, 11:10 PM

Honesty is the best policy. You (eventually) did the right thing in telling her the whole truth. She has no choice but to accept that you have no feelings for her and move on. You must be firm and resolute in this, and don't lead her on with fake politeness/kindness, especially if you genuinely can't stand her.
As for the girl you like, well, you're just gonna have to play it cool for a while. Don't go overboard with apologies or attempts to get her to overlook how you treated her friend, that'll just make you look to her like the 'stalker' did to you. Take it slow and see how things pan out.

shadowhound · 11-01-2002, 11:10 PM

Well you could always... or maybe... hmm...
Nope your pretty stuffed...
Shadow's response would have been to go out with her friend as to get closer to her, but then again people are sometimes offended by that [img]smile.gif[/img]

Ah well, good luck.

Black Dragon · 11-01-2002, 11:11 PM

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Originally posted by Nanobyte:
Still, there are better ways you could have resolved this problem. You could have said "I can't talk right now" and walked away. I know this seems unreasonable, but it will keep you from looking like an ass (no insults intended)

Oh great, someone arrest this man, I'm so offended I can't think straight, LOL, nah, I don't get offended like most people do, I usually have a very good temper, but when I lose it(which has only happened twice in my whole life!!) I tend to go crazy... I lose complete sense of everything around me and just blurt out stuff you'd never expect to hear from me, which I tried not to say to her, but she wouldn't shut up, since she's my stalker she would've just followed me anyways, so I had to say something to shut her up, I did get her to leave me alone, but due to how much she seems to have an obsession on me, I believe she will be trying to talk to me again within the next 2 weeks... So, she's not scarred for life, she'll be fine, but I on the other hand, I may have just ruined my chance with the only girl who actually doesn't talk to much, or nothing annouying that I've ever met!! I can't stand it, its p***ing me off, I can't even ask her no more, cause of what I did to her best friend!

True_Moose · 11-01-2002, 11:13 PM

Apologise PROFUSELY on Monday!! This may not be the absolute cure, but if you don't do it you're totally dead. Go right up to her and apologise, say you had a bad day, and that what you said was inappropriate BUT DON'T SAY YOU DIDN'T MEAN IT.

Be nice to her. Don't hit on her or anything, but be nice, you know.

11-01-2002, 10:57 PM	#4
Black Dragon Zhentarim Guard Join Date: November 11, 2001 Location: Virginia Age: 37 Posts: 352	Nanobyte, you don't understand, I was very nice to her when I said no the first time, and the second, and the third, and so on, then after a while, she wouldn't give up, so I gave her the full answer she had been working towards getting out of me, so, now she knows, she should be happy, she wanted to know so bad, Its not my fault I am only human... __________________ Black owns!<br />Dragons rule!!<br /> [img]\"http://img.ranchoweb.com/images/ladyzekke/blackdragonpic.jpg\" alt=\" - \" /><br /> <b>If the media decided that breathing wasn\'t \"cool\" anymore, half the teenage population would be gone.</b> --Someguy

11-01-2002, 11:10 PM	#7
The Hierophant Thoth - Egyptian God of Wisdom Join Date: May 10, 2002 Location: Dunedin, New Zealand. Age: 42 Posts: 2,860	Honesty is the best policy. You (eventually) did the right thing in telling her the whole truth. She has no choice but to accept that you have no feelings for her and move on. You must be firm and resolute in this, and don't lead her on with fake politeness/kindness, especially if you genuinely can't stand her. As for the girl you like, well, you're just gonna have to play it cool for a while. Don't go overboard with apologies or attempts to get her to overlook how you treated her friend, that'll just make you look to her like the 'stalker' did to you. Take it slow and see how things pan out. __________________ [img]\"hosted/Hierophant.jpg\" alt=\" - \" /><br />Strewth!

11-01-2002, 11:10 PM	#8
shadowhound Ma'at - Goddess of Truth & Justice Join Date: November 24, 2001 Location: Australia Age: 37 Posts: 3,281	Well you could always... or maybe... hmm... Nope your pretty stuffed... Shadow's response would have been to go out with her friend as to get closer to her, but then again people are sometimes offended by that [img]smile.gif[/img] Ah well, good luck. __________________ Carpe Noctem: Ph’nglui mglw’nafh cthulhu r’lyeh wgah’nagl fhtagn.

11-01-2002, 11:13 PM	#10
True_Moose Gold Dragon Join Date: June 18, 2002 Location: Wolfville, NS / Calgary, AB Age: 36 Posts: 2,563	Apologise PROFUSELY on Monday!! This may not be the absolute cure, but if you don't do it you're totally dead. Go right up to her and apologise, say you had a bad day, and that what you said was inappropriate BUT DON'T SAY YOU DIDN'T MEAN IT. Be nice to her. Don't hit on her or anything, but be nice, you know. __________________ [img]\"http://i44.photobucket.com/albums/f13/true_moose/Siggy.jpg\" alt=\" - \" />

11-01-2002, 10:49 PM	#1
Black Dragon Zhentarim Guard Join Date: November 11, 2001 Location: Virginia Age: 37 Posts: 352	Well, David, if you haven't noticed, we... urgh em... I was going to ask her today, I swear on it, but my stalker (her best friend) came up to me and asked me right before I asked her, I of course.. considering I like her friend not her, plus she's annouying... said no. Yes I know, your not supposed to, but I did, I said no, she was rejected, and the worst part about it, is Erica, the girl I have been waiting all day to ask out to a movie, (yes that was my genious plan) was right there when I rejected her... That blows, it ruined my whole day, cause how could I ask her after rejecting her best friend right in front of her...? HOW YOU TELL ME.. HOW?! Well, to make matters worse, she kept insisting I tell her why I said no. I told her cause I didn't want to, but she wouldn't accept that, so she kept on bugging me, for a half an hour this bugging and nagging went on, then I flipped... I lost control, and said some things I would've never said if I would've been controlling my temper. But you can only hold it for so long you know? Enough is enough, and she didn't realize that, so, I upset her with some of the reasons I gave her, she ran off to someone else weeping and crying, like I was the bad guy, but if she would've just accepted the first answer I gave her about 50 times, she wouldn't have had to hear me shout out why I said no, and trust me. I said, "-=-" I am sorry, I cannot repeat what I said on here, I do not wish to offend anyone, so I had to edit this cause of what I said, it said all of what I said to her... It wasn't pretty. [ 11-01-2002, 10:49 PM: Message edited by: Black Dragon ] __________________ Black owns!<br />Dragons rule!!<br /> [img]\"http://img.ranchoweb.com/images/ladyzekke/blackdragonpic.jpg\" alt=\" - \" /><br /> <b>If the media decided that breathing wasn\'t \"cool\" anymore, half the teenage population would be gone.</b> --Someguy

11-01-2002, 10:55 PM	#2
Nanobyte Thoth - Egyptian God of Wisdom Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: NC Age: 38 Posts: 2,890	I know you couldn't help it, but there are better ways of dealing with difficult situations than with verbal abuse. You're going to have to try twice as hard now, even if it is remotely possible, to get this girl to go out with you. Sorry dude.

11-01-2002, 11:05 PM	#6
Nanobyte Thoth - Egyptian God of Wisdom Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: NC Age: 38 Posts: 2,890	Still, there are better ways you could have resolved this problem. You could have said "I can't talk right now" and walked away. I know this seems unreasonable, but it will keep you from looking like an ass (no insults intended)

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