I'm Confused... A little help

[Evil Al]

Right following is a convo of me and my girl friend, Kirsty breaking up... She told me over MSN, of all the ways to tell me she chooses that one. Before reading it you need the back ground.
Before i met Kirsty i just screwed around. I was never serious about anyone. With her i had everything i ever wanted in a girl friend. Unfortunatly(?) her best mate had a crush on me and was horribly jealous and i reckon she convinsed her to break up with me. I should also point out that we were not having sex, Kirsty wanted to wait until she's married. And after Kirsty goes i'm talking to her sister Fiona who's a really good mate of mine. See what you reckon. Oh and please no "you'll find someone else replies".
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
Hiya. Listen, u r one of my best friends, and i do care for u alot, but im not ready to go out with anyone at the moment. So i was hoping that when i am ready, we could give it another go
Evil Al says:
.....Kirsty please... i don't push u into anything u don't want to do
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
yes i know that
Evil Al says:
Then what if we just stay the way we are now?
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
Because im not ready to go out with anyone. Im not good at it, i dont know what to do or say half the time, and im to immature. Me and Tori were discussing it. We're both not ready
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
i really do care for u, and trust me, this isn't easy for me
Evil Al says:
Not ready? its not like we're married... are u saying ur not comfortable with things they are now
Evil Al says:
i know u care for me
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
no its not that, its just that im not ready
Evil Al says:
But really what is the diferance between me being a good friend to u and ur boy friend
Evil Al says:
?
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
Im not mature enough for any relashionships at the moment
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
I dont know. Please dont fall out with me. You are one of my best friends
Evil Al says:
Kirsty the fact is... i like u and i can't go back to what we had before... it just doesn't make any sence
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
why not?
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
You never used to like me
Evil Al says:
I did
Evil Al says:
i always did
Evil Al says:
but i ignored it for some stupid reason
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
If you did care for me, then you'd understand
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
This is not easy for me to do
Evil Al says:
i do care for u... thats why i can't let go
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
why not?
Evil Al says:
cause u r everything i've been looking for in a g/f
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
No im not. You just think that. I did say that when im ready, if your still single, we could give it another go
Evil Al says:
u know i thought things were going well up until now
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
Please dont fall out with me, its not my fault that im not ready for a relashionship
Evil Al says:
the truth is no one really is
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
i have to go now. Fiona's back
Evil Al says:
well i'm sure fiona will let us talk for 5 mins longer
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
she's gone
Evil Al says:
brb
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
ok
Evil Al says:
want some advise? never go out with one of ur best friends
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
been ther done that
Evil Al says:
ditto
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
sorry bout all that btw
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
i was goin 2 tell u but i didnt think she'd go through with it
Evil Al says:
Not ur fault, u know who i blame but i'm a bitter person
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
who do u blame?
Evil Al says:
guess
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
torla?
Evil Al says:
bingo
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
she's gonna do the same thing 2 her b/f aswell
Evil Al says:
So?
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
well, it might b her fault coz they wer talking about it the other day
Evil Al says:
exactly... besides u said Tori fancied me anyway so...
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
so what?
Evil Al says:
So it won't bother her as much as it bothers Kirsty
Evil Al says:
And Kirsty's one of my best friends
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
yeah
My Walls Do NOT Talk........... My Walls Do NOT Talk.................. says:
well, i did try 2 warn u....... but u'll find som1 else

[/)eathKiller]

ah what we have here is a simple problem,
Selfishness vs Stubborness, and a need for understanding...

Your feelings have differint issues and differint goals, thought in your hearts you seek the same goal. In turn- One side asks for something to serve himself and the other side is too stubborn to change their decision... thats quite understandable, but it's not like you just have to STOP TALKING to her, Infact I recomend you stay in contact until she, herself, feels that she is mature enough if this really is the one for you...

eh but what do i know, i'm just a guy who's studying for a bachelors in Female Psychology and Computer Science...

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[Krishach]

Seems like that Tori person got your ex-gf to break up with you then she broke up with her bf so you two could get together or something, quite sneaky. Don't know what to say dude.

[TheThing]

she will be ready when she is. do you want to push her into doing something she does not wish to do?

just be patient if you think it is worth the time to wait. if all she wants is to be friends, then by all means, be friends. I am sorry this is really hard, I dont like this any more than you do. it hurts, but it is not going to work if you just keep banging your head against the brick. you wont MAKE HER READY. never.

I know that, trust me. so just be patient. everything will work out eventually.