I'm a dad & I'm feeling sad... - Page 2

Moiraine · 10-25-2001, 06:28 AM

*HUGS* TheDutkanator, my thoughts fly to you and your kid.

Don't lose hope, though, a child's progress are not smooth and linear, but happen like jumps. I've got a son, and how many times have I got the impression that nothing new happened, and then one day, it was as if something just clicked inside him, and he just did something new and wonderful. He was 6 months late to walk, and now he runs like a rabbit ...

Deux-Cent-Cinquante, wow, what a post !

You are truly a jewel of this Board, friend.

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Jorath Calar · 10-25-2001, 06:49 AM

I hope your son will be okey, my nephew was like that couldn't talk or walk till he was 14 months old, then all of a sudden he did both in less than 3 months, we couldn't believe it and it was simply great.

Don't loose hope yet, and keep the faith.

Wulfere · 10-25-2001, 07:29 AM

TheDutkanator...Like many have said here already. You can't go by the charts or by the average. My son Dustin was a slow developer too. But you should see him now. He is 165lbs of raw muscle and plays DB on the local HS football team. Take heart in the stories told to you here. I know it won't aleviate the fear, but it can help to lighten the load. We all fear for our children at one time or another, believe me. All we can do is love them, encourage them and wait for them to develope in their own time. Once he does start to move about under his own power you will long for the days when you could put him down and still find him where you left him when you turned back. Children are amazing and frightening critters. You will see. The day will come when you want nothing more than to pick them up and hold them close. To feel their little arms wrapped half around your neck and squeezing as tightly as they can, but barely hard enough to cause you trouble breathing. Those won't be around for long. Most of the time you will be amazed at how fast they grow and how little time you have with them.
Please keep us informed. God Bless and give the wee one a hug from us all.

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The line between good and evil is razor sharp. Be careful of misteps,
lest you find yourself spitted upon your own blade.

Cloudbringer · 10-25-2001, 08:32 AM

I know you are worried and fearful, Dukenator. That's a horrible thing, to feel helpless against something that might harm your child. It sounds as if you won't know for sure just yet if it is a serious problem and I pray that it is not. I'd say try not to worry, but of course we know you will anyway.

Think I'll take a cue from Yorkick and offer *hugs*.

Cloudbringer

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Raindancer of the Laughing Hyenas Clan
CloudDragon of the OHF
Storm-Queen
Raven's Cloud
StormCloud of the Black Knight: Heart Mind Soul Forever
"To sleep, perchance to dream..."

Fljotsdale · 10-25-2001, 10:07 AM

All parents are deeply fearful of something being wrong with their child, Duktanor. Mostly the fears are unfounded. Sometimes they are real. None of us can say which is the case with your son.
But my eldest child could barely stand when she was a year old, and she was almost 18months before she could walk without holding on.
Winston Churchill (British ww2 prime minister) could not talk until he was 2 years old so far as I have heard.
As others have said, children develop at different rates. Your son may just be developing a little more slowly than the majority.
Take heart!

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Proud to be Dubbed Queen of the Illuminati by Diogenes.

DragonMage · 10-25-2001, 10:19 AM

Well, Dutkanator, all I can offer you is my prayers and (((HUGS))).

That and the echo of others here, children all grow and learn at different rates. I suggest you take that book with the charts and graphs and SMACK that doctor with it!

It'll make you feel better.

j/k

Seriously, they thought something was wrong with my cousin at first, only to find out that he didn't speak intelligibly until he was five out of an attack of the lazies! Seems the lady who kept him during the day let him get away with pointing at something and grunting and she would get it for him instead of making him ask for it. Once we found that out, we just refused to respond to him if he didn't use real words. Amazing how fast he 'learned' to talk, then.

Not that your situation is the same, just showing that there may be many OTHER reasons your son is where he is right now. I was a Pre-K teacher and saw a broad range of ability levels in the children I taught. None less able to learn and grow than the next, just on different levels of development. Your son should be fine and is probably just in a slow period, then he'll spurt up again and you'll wonder why you ever worried.

Another example of growth spurts: When I was in 11th grade, many of the 9th grade boys were MUCH shorter than I was (and I'm only 5'4" now). In ONE year, they grew to 5'10" to 6'2". It was amazing!

Keep your spirits up, hon, and know that our hearts go out to you. *hugs*

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Alureth...Dragon friend of Breanna, Mage and Advisor in the Court of Lady Lioness

Co-Owner/Operator of the Evil Petting Zoo and devout member of the HADB clan.
Commander of the Dragon Fleet, IW Peacekeeping Force
Sublime Sister of the Illuminati - may the Light shine forever!
Second Historian and Scribe of IW. Mother Hen of IW.
Mage extraordinair, Pin-Up Girl for the OLD-COOTS
Magey-Wagey: performer in the Nekked Dancing Trio of the ORT.

Hopeless Romantic *sigh*

Memnoch · 10-25-2001, 11:17 AM

Dutka, my prayers are with you, mate.

250 - that was an awesome post. You have my respect.

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10-25-2001, 11:22 AM

I'll pray for your child TheDutkanator. Great support 250!

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Moiraine · 10-25-2001, 01:23 PM

*BUMP* for TheDutkanator.

Melusine · 10-25-2001, 01:41 PM

My best wishes, Dutka! I'll keep your little one in my thoughts

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LH, HADB and ORT!

Your voice is ambrosia
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10-25-2001, 06:28 AM	#11
Moiraine Anubis Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: Up in the Freedomland Alps Age: 59 Posts: 2,474	HUGS TheDutkanator, my thoughts fly to you and your kid. Don't lose hope, though, a child's progress are not smooth and linear, but happen like jumps. I've got a son, and how many times have I got the impression that nothing new happened, and then one day, it was as if something just clicked inside him, and he just did something new and wonderful. He was 6 months late to walk, and now he runs like a rabbit ... Deux-Cent-Cinquante, wow, what a post ! You are truly a jewel of this Board, friend. ------------------ The world is my oyster !

10-25-2001, 06:49 AM	#12
Jorath Calar Harper Join Date: October 6, 2001 Location: Iceland Posts: 4,706	I hope your son will be okey, my nephew was like that couldn't talk or walk till he was 14 months old, then all of a sudden he did both in less than 3 months, we couldn't believe it and it was simply great. Don't loose hope yet, and keep the faith.

10-25-2001, 07:29 AM	#13
Wulfere Red Wizard of Thay Join Date: March 20, 2001 Location: Lincoln, Nebraska USA Age: 63 Posts: 893	TheDutkanator...Like many have said here already. You can't go by the charts or by the average. My son Dustin was a slow developer too. But you should see him now. He is 165lbs of raw muscle and plays DB on the local HS football team. Take heart in the stories told to you here. I know it won't aleviate the fear, but it can help to lighten the load. We all fear for our children at one time or another, believe me. All we can do is love them, encourage them and wait for them to develope in their own time. Once he does start to move about under his own power you will long for the days when you could put him down and still find him where you left him when you turned back. Children are amazing and frightening critters. You will see. The day will come when you want nothing more than to pick them up and hold them close. To feel their little arms wrapped half around your neck and squeezing as tightly as they can, but barely hard enough to cause you trouble breathing. Those won't be around for long. Most of the time you will be amazed at how fast they grow and how little time you have with them. Please keep us informed. God Bless and give the wee one a hug from us all. ------------------ The line between good and evil is razor sharp. Be careful of misteps, lest you find yourself spitted upon your own blade.

10-25-2001, 08:32 AM	#14
Cloudbringer Ironworks Moderator Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: Upstate NY USA Posts: 19,737	I know you are worried and fearful, Dukenator. That's a horrible thing, to feel helpless against something that might harm your child. It sounds as if you won't know for sure just yet if it is a serious problem and I pray that it is not. I'd say try not to worry, but of course we know you will anyway. Think I'll take a cue from Yorkick and offer hugs. Cloudbringer ------------------ Raindancer of the Laughing Hyenas Clan CloudDragon of the OHF Storm-Queen Raven's Cloud StormCloud of the Black Knight: Heart Mind Soul Forever "To sleep, perchance to dream..."

10-25-2001, 10:07 AM	#15
Fljotsdale Thoth - Egyptian God of Wisdom Join Date: March 12, 2001 Location: Birmingham, West Mid\'s, England Age: 87 Posts: 2,859	All parents are deeply fearful of something being wrong with their child, Duktanor. Mostly the fears are unfounded. Sometimes they are real. None of us can say which is the case with your son. But my eldest child could barely stand when she was a year old, and she was almost 18months before she could walk without holding on. Winston Churchill (British ww2 prime minister) could not talk until he was 2 years old so far as I have heard. As others have said, children develop at different rates. Your son may just be developing a little more slowly than the majority. Take heart! ------------------ Proud to be Dubbed Queen of the Illuminati by Diogenes.

10-25-2001, 10:19 AM	#16
DragonMage 20th Level Warrior Join Date: September 6, 2001 Location: The lighter side of life, a.k.a. Newnan, Georgia Age: 55 Posts: 2,767	Well, Dutkanator, all I can offer you is my prayers and (((HUGS))). That and the echo of others here, children all grow and learn at different rates. I suggest you take that book with the charts and graphs and SMACK that doctor with it! It'll make you feel better. j/k Seriously, they thought something was wrong with my cousin at first, only to find out that he didn't speak intelligibly until he was five out of an attack of the lazies! Seems the lady who kept him during the day let him get away with pointing at something and grunting and she would get it for him instead of making him ask for it. Once we found that out, we just refused to respond to him if he didn't use real words. Amazing how fast he 'learned' to talk, then. Not that your situation is the same, just showing that there may be many OTHER reasons your son is where he is right now. I was a Pre-K teacher and saw a broad range of ability levels in the children I taught. None less able to learn and grow than the next, just on different levels of development. Your son should be fine and is probably just in a slow period, then he'll spurt up again and you'll wonder why you ever worried. Another example of growth spurts: When I was in 11th grade, many of the 9th grade boys were MUCH shorter than I was (and I'm only 5'4" now). In ONE year, they grew to 5'10" to 6'2". It was amazing! Keep your spirits up, hon, and know that our hearts go out to you. hugs ------------------ Alureth...Dragon friend of Breanna, Mage and Advisor in the Court of Lady Lioness Co-Owner/Operator of the Evil Petting Zoo and devout member of the HADB clan. Commander of the Dragon Fleet, IW Peacekeeping Force Sublime Sister of the Illuminati - may the Light shine forever! Second Historian and Scribe of IW. Mother Hen of IW. Mage extraordinair, Pin-Up Girl for the OLD-COOTS Magey-Wagey: performer in the Nekked Dancing Trio of the ORT. Hopeless Romantic sigh

10-25-2001, 11:17 AM	#17
Memnoch Ironworks Moderator Join Date: February 28, 2001 Location: Boston/Sydney Posts: 11,771	Dutka, my prayers are with you, mate. 250 - that was an awesome post. You have my respect. ------------------

10-25-2001, 11:22 AM	#18
Byronas Guest Posts: n/a	I'll pray for your child TheDutkanator. Great support 250! ------------------ Where there are monsters and barbarians there will be Byronas fighting against them.

10-25-2001, 01:23 PM	#19
Moiraine Anubis Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: Up in the Freedomland Alps Age: 59 Posts: 2,474	BUMP for TheDutkanator.

10-25-2001, 01:41 PM	#20
Melusine Dracolisk Join Date: January 8, 2001 Location: Amsterdam, The Netherlands Age: 43 Posts: 6,541	My best wishes, Dutka! I'll keep your little one in my thoughts ------------------ Melusine, Sultry Elflet, High Queen of Fluffies, Archbabe of the OHF, LH, HADB and ORT! Your voice is ambrosia Amy Brown Fantasy Art

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