blowing of steam...

[Stormymystic]

[img]graemlins/rant.gif[/img] ........................
Why is it anytime i try to talk to men, they always seem to be ignoring me?
are all men cheaters...do you always have to look at pics of nude women to feel like a man?...why do men always try to make a woman feel like she is stupid?!?


honestly though why do men behave like children when women try and ave a conversation with them? I am so tired of fighting when i try to make my feelings understood. when I feel as if i am being ignored, it hurts me, my husband decided tat he was just being normal when he looked at pics of nekkid women, no matter how i felt about it, am i making to much of this?

[wellard]

Well stormy, playing the devils advocate...


Women get paid to pose, paid for by men, so methinks it is men who are the stupid ones. The vast majority of men like and look at nude *porno* pics of women, why only a psychiatrist would know but trying to rail against this urge in general would be futile.

All said, if he is doing it in a way to upset you then he is being uncaring and plain rude.

And as for the arguments, ask yourself before getting upset, did you enter the argument with any chance of changing your own opinion on the subject? If not do not expect the same in kind. If both minds are closed then discussions will always just be arguments.


This might not be what you wanted to hear, but I am just a man [img]tongue.gif[/img]

[Animal]

Not ALL men are cheaters, but we do have a habit of acting like children when we have to talk about our feelings. It probably stems from the "Father figure" image or some such, perhaps raised to believe that men are strong, we don't cry, we don't show emotion. For some, it's difficult to get past that when that's all they've known.

My wife and I had a loving, commited relationship and not once did I think about another women. They may has well have been men, because I had everything I needed in my wife. I always considered her feelings in every decision that I made, or every action that I took.

I'm not qualified to tell you if you are blowing this out of proportion or not. The only person that can tell you that, is you.

I can tell you though, that the people her on IW are very caring individuals, and many are happy to lend an ear. [img]smile.gif[/img]

[Stormymystic]

[img]graemlins/whackya.gif[/img] at least you answerd a question for me, most me are still the teenagers they were when they found their daddies books [img]tongue.gif[/img]

Animal, why can't there be more like you?, my husband is ofmilitary ind, and does not show emotion, he thinks i am really senseitive, but on that he is probably right,lol i am picese after all

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[Gangrell]

Not all guys are like that Stormy, at least I don't think I'm a prick [img]graemlins/1ponder.gif[/img] If a girl (or woman I should say) talks to me, I don't blow her off, I always get into the conversation. Just ignoring a girl like that or anyone for that matter is being rude, and I mean this even though I may be a teenager [img]tongue.gif[/img]

Why a married guy would do that, I don't honestly know, and I really don't want to analyze it. All I can say is if you need someone to talk to, you can always find 'em on here, especially me [img]smile.gif[/img]

[Animal]

Originally posted by Stormymystic: [img]graemlins/whackya.gif[/img] at least you answerd a question for me, most me are still the teenagers they were when they found their daddies books [img]tongue.gif[/img] Animal, why can't there be more like you?, my husband is ofmilitary ind, and does not show emotion, he thinks i am really senseitive, but on that he is probably right,lol i am picese after all

The world can't handle more than one of me.

Seriously, sensitivity is not a bad trait just a non-military trait. Just tell him it bothers you, tell him why and I'm sure he'll understand.

[Charlie]

Originally posted by Stormymystic: [img]graemlins/rant.gif[/img] ........................ Why is it anytime i try to talk to men, they always seem to be ignoring me? are all men cheaters...do you always have to look at pics of nude women to feel like a man?...why do men always try to make a woman feel like she is stupid?!? honestly though why do men behave like children when women try and ave a conversation with them? I am so tired of fighting when i try to make my feelings understood. when I feel as if i am being ignored, it hurts me, my husband decided tat he was just being normal when he looked at pics of nekkid women, no matter how i felt about it, am i making to much of this?

After arguments some men just like to blow off..
.......err, steam.

[johnny]

Do you considder your husband a cheater when he looks at pictures of naked women ???

[Reeka]

All men aren't like that. All men aren't cheaters. A man looking at pornography does not bother all women. Men are visually stimulated because they are men. As far as it being normal, I don't think it is abnormal for men to want to look at pornography. It is only a big deal if you make it a big deal. As for as not listening to you, how do you approach him? A calm, rational approach works best with most people. Not playing the blame game. Having more "I's" in the conversation than "you's". I, personally, tune people out if they get to ranting around me. And please note, that I am not saying you do this, I am just stating these from my point of view when dealing with someone. Most men do not try to make women feel stupid. My boyfriend thinks I am very intelligent. In fact, he says that my mind is the sexiest part of me.

I don't know if you are making too much of it, but it wouldn't bother me.

[Charlie]

Originally posted by johnny: Do you considder your husband a cheater when he looks at pictures of naked women ???

A lot of men who look at pictures of naked women are w**kers in the nicest possible way..ahem..but it doesn't necessarily make them cheaters.