People lacking motivation

[Nanobyte]

Basically, here is my predicament:

Two years ago, freshmen year, I became friends with this guy in my JuniorROTC class. Surprisingly, he was a past DM for a 3rd ed. campaign he was running with his two younger brothers and his friends. We played a few games, maybe three at the most. Most of the time we spent discussing D&D was during lunch in the library; this went on for the rest of the year.

By the time summer rolled around, I could barely contain myself. I imagined we would be playing a game twice a week for the entire summer vacation, that's two months! Unfortunately, he wasn't as eager to get together. Canceling games is understandable, and I came to respect his decision. But how can you justify yourself when you have a friend so eager to play, and you go on to run a game without inviting him? The only time he came over my house, it was him and his brother, and we played for probably 4 hours. He tells me he and his friends spent the entire night playing, so what is the deal?

I think I need to release some steam in a more productive way, but this is years of built-up tension. Now I realize it's true, people never change.

I was never expecting to see him at school, now junior year at a new school. We had a game scheduled for last week, and I had to call over his mother's house the day of the game to find that he wasn't feeling well. I accepted it, and respected his decision. A little earlier today I tried over his mother's house again, and she told me he was over his father's house (less than 10 minutes from where I live). I called over there, and his dad told me he wouldn't be there until tomorrow afternoon. So what just happened, is he getting his parents to lie to me?

I guess all I want is for him to tell me he isn't interested. Yet he leads me on to believe that he is willing, and eager as much as I am to get together for a game. I would look for another DM, but where do I advertise? The closest college is in Charlotte, and there are no stores around here that sell d20 merchandise specifically.

So what do you all think; is there something wrong with me, or am I being played (purposefully or otherwise)? Maybe I'm being too immature about this whole thing, but I just enjoy doing it SO much.

[ 01-23-2003, 06:18 PM: Message edited by: Nanobyte ]

[Sir Krustin]

Sounds like he's jerking your chain. I can't really say more without knowing what you're like and what he's like but I'd say he's a bit two faced from what you're saying.

Just stop chasing him for games and go look somewhere else. If he wants you to play, he'll call you.

[pritchke]

I have to agree with Sir Krustin. If he wants you to play, he'll call you.

He doesn't sound like a reliable friend. A little self absorbed or selfish I guess. At least he could give you the consideration of knowing that he is cancelling his plans to play so you don't have to wait around not making plans. I would even give that consideration to people I despise so thay are not wasting their time on me.

I get together with a bunch of friends once a month to play games, not D&D (unfortunately) but it is still alot of fun and we always choose a new location every time as well as let each other know if we can't make it, be late several days in advance. E-mail to great for that as you can send one message to every one at once.

[ 01-23-2003, 06:37 PM: Message edited by: pritchke ]

[VulcanRider]

Yep, sounds like he doesn't want to play with you, but doesn't have the backbone to tell you to your face. Some friends of mine from college (we graduated in the late '80s) live in the Charlotte area and play now & then. If you want to give me your email I'll forward it to them & you can hook up.

Deja Moo: the feeling you've heard this BS before...