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08-17-2001, 03:17 PM | #22 |
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Imagine this; what if you baby had been born with some crippling disease that kept her from ever walking or talking. What if she could never smile or laugh? What then would you never love her? I look at it this was whether you carry the baby or not it is part of you. You helped create it. How could you not love it from the first time you laid eyes on it? I understand the crying part it’s a pain, but it is a part of the process.
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08-17-2001, 03:29 PM | #24 |
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Obviously i'm no parent. Which is a good thing considering i'm only 17. Anyway I think you've got a point Larry. You don't have to love a kid as soon as they are born, your love grows for them. They grew for your wife didn't they, and probably are still growing.
Don't worry she'll grow up quick enough. In a flash she'll be 17, about to graduate highschool, and you'll be bugging her to pick a college a little *closer* to home. You'll ask "Can you handle being so far away?" And she'll ask "Do you think I can handle it? I know I can do it." And you'll have nothing else to say. Why did I mention this? I have no idea. (Besides the fact that my mom and I had this same *exact* conversation in the car today. Perhaps that had something to do with it?) ------------------ Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, I just don't have to listen. [This message has been edited by Redblueflare (edited 08-17-2001).] |
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08-17-2001, 03:43 PM | #26 | |
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Do you and your wife have any time away from your baby? Sounds like a case of new parent 'burn out'. Can you get a sitter once a week and go out? Even if you two just go for a walk or sit in your car at mall! Any time alone and away will help. I've a friend who was/is a stay-at-home mom and she even called a sitter (when the children were very young) to come watch her little ones while she took a nap! And she said it re-vitalized her after a few weeks and she and her husband couldn't believe how much difference it made to their moods! Cloudy ------------------ Raindancer of the Laughing Hyenas Clan Storm-Queen StormCloud of the Black Knight: Heart Mind Soul Forever "To sleep, perchance to dream..." |
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08-17-2001, 04:03 PM | #27 | |
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Nothing can prepare one for the reality of parenting. Reading books & articles is good. Observing friends & relatives & strangers with their kids is good. But nothing, anywhere, can truly prepare you with what it's like to be a parent -- the total responsibility for another life -- the joys, the pain, the confusion, the anger & frustration, rediscovering your world through watching them learn about theirs --- words simply can not describe it. It must be experienced to be understood. ------------------ Having abandoned my search for truth, I am now looking for a good fantasy. For R³ in thanks: Sometimes I think I understand everything, then I regain consciousness. [This message has been edited by bilqis (edited 08-17-2001).] |
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08-17-2001, 05:19 PM | #28 | |
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I totally agree with this advice. It can save your marriage and your sanity |
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A handicapped child may or may not be able to give back as much, as I have spoken with friends that have such children. They admit that daily life is a struggle, but that they see it as a test of their faith and love. I do not have to go through that test. My child has been blessed with the normalities of a child. I do not have to say that it will always be a daily struggle, like my friends suggest they suffer. ------------------ Devoted member of the Ironworks Loyal guardian of the OHF Member of the Ancients' club |
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08-17-2001, 05:32 PM | #30 | |
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And thank you bilqis for your words, as well. ------------------ Devoted member of the Ironworks Loyal guardian of the OHF Member of the Ancients' club [This message has been edited by Larry_OHF (edited 08-17-2001).] |
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