05-28-2003, 01:33 PM | #41 | |
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Have we an authenticated copy of the note to inspect? I would also submit that Ill use any word I please when addressing my son. So I don't feel compelled to tell this guy which he can or cannot use. [/QUOTE]as for inspecting the note, we will see about that. as for your choice of language, do you CARE abt your son truely, deeply, sincerely? or are you out to make him miserable? consider the difference. if your answer is no, then no, you shouldnt be lecturing him, and you have no right to BE his parent. if you dont give as much as you are required to, then you have no right to BE his parent. if on top of that, you talk like that in front of your son, then you have no right to BE his parent. |
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05-28-2003, 01:39 PM | #42 | |
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so, I say, as long as a teenager is living in his/her parents (ESPECIALLY stepparents) house, there IS RIGHT TO PRIVACY. wtf, if they parents do THEIR goddamn job well, you think the kids will go on an all out shooting? [ 05-28-2003, 01:40 PM: Message edited by: Ken Rauhl ] |
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05-28-2003, 01:46 PM | #43 | |
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I agree that the SF had every right to discipline, but destroying something that sauceman bought (assuming that they are destroyed and not just confiscated), for whatever reason is inexcusable. Just for comparison, what if sauceman had bought a car, and the SF took it to a junkyard or sold it without sauceman's permission? It shouldn't matter it the item(s) in question cost $1 or $10,000. This is wrongful destruction of property. DISCLAIMER: As MagiK said, this is only one side of the story.
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05-28-2003, 01:51 PM | #44 | |
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Ken what you SAY and what IS are two vastly seperate issues... in this case, you are wrong about the kids privacy..he gets as much or little as the paretn dictates, untill the kid is emancipated or he turns 18 AND moves out of their house. You kind of contradicted yourself with your last statement...claiming parents should do their job...well part of that job requires invading their kids privacy any time they feel that it is needful. |
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05-28-2003, 01:57 PM | #45 | |
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05-28-2003, 02:00 PM | #46 | |
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Ken what you SAY and what IS are two vastly seperate issues... in this case, you are wrong about the kids privacy..he gets as much or little as the paretn dictates, untill the kid is emancipated or he turns 18 AND moves out of their house. You kind of contradicted yourself with your last statement...claiming parents should do their job...well part of that job requires invading their kids privacy any time they feel that it is needful. [/QUOTE]jeez, I DONT believe this. heh, how old do you think a young man, who is about to graduate high school, is? do YOU go around violate your son's rights, privacy? DO YOU? so... what you SAY and what IS may be two different things as well. if it really happened the way Steven said it did, this SF of his had no right to do things the WAY he did. ok, fine, lets re-emphasize, it is VIOLATE we are talking about here, not privacy. fair? you can do whatever you want, but behaving like THAT is NOT what a dad should do. [ 05-28-2003, 02:05 PM: Message edited by: Ken Rauhl ] |
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05-28-2003, 02:13 PM | #47 |
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Won't disagree with you MagiK .... except that the SF was still wrong in destroying (if such is the case) the items. I am not saying that sauceman should not have been discipined. I am saying that the SF was wrong in the chosen action. Yes, since sauceman is 18, his 'rents could toss him out, but that does not give them the right to destroy his property, nor does it give him the right to destroy theirs. Like I said, use the car comparison, since he IS old enough to buy one. Substitute car for games, and the SF is clearly wrong for the destruction.
Now, his 'rents were perfectly justified for disciplining him for bad grades. Especially on their dime. Sauceman! Study harder! If you didn't like the course, you should have dropped it if it wasn't required!
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BUT, I get the feeling this is about more than just the games, just this one time so my mother hen-type advice is for you to try talking with your parents about what bothers or concerns you and if you don't feel that can work or it doesn't work when you try it, then I'd have to recommend you sit tight and rough it out til you are graduated, working and can find your own place in a few years. I truly think it would be better ..well, let's say easier for you to stay where you are as it's not a simple thing to get a good, permanent job and a decent inexpensive place to live in most areas. Still if that's the only way you could find peace, then it's a possibility you'll have to consider. I get the feeling that mostly you were ranting here because you were very angry at the time your games were taken and felt like your space and property were messed with. I can relate to that! My mom used to search my room all the time! Heck after I was in college she'd open and read my mail...which stopped very quickly when I pointed out it was a felony to do so. (I was over 18, paying my own way through college and never did live at home again for more than a visit after I left for my freshman year) But in your situation, there's not much that can legally be done about your games being taken and all you'll get out of that kind of thinking is more and more frustrated and angry. I guess my advice is simply to make do with the situation and if possible, to make the lines of communication with your folks clearer. You and your stepdad don't have to be best buddies, so long as you are at least moderately civil acquaintances while you live there.
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My son has whatever rights I allow him. He has no illusion however that, a. he is in charge b. his room is inviolate and won't be searched at my discreation c. he makes the rules d. he can do anythign about the rules untill he leaves the house. I don't treat him like a slave, but I do retain my parentl rights and responsibilities to know exatly what he has and what he does and who he associates with (ok he is only 12 and this isn't as big a problem as it could be.) I have the feeling that you or steve would not like living in my home [img]smile.gif[/img] but My son knows the rules and seems reletively happy and non-destructive. On second thought, he has the right to be fed, clothed, cared for and sheltered..those are his rights and my responsibilities...but all other rights are dictated by me...or my ex. IF Steve's dad did everything exactly as steve said and there are no...unmentioned details forgotten...I think his Step father was within his rights to do exactly what he did....not that it would be nice...just within his rights. (this is predicated on the mother agreeing, the step issue comlicates things a bit) I think destroying the CD's was wasteful and overly harsh In my opinion, but parents/legal guardians are the ultimate authority in a child/young adult's life period...untill the federal or state governments step in. |
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