My Friend Has Had Some Bad News

Beaumanoir · 03-01-2002, 02:21 PM

One Of My Friends Cousins Went Out To A Nightclub And Wasn't Seen Again. Yesterday They Found His Body On A Beach In A Gully.

I Really Don't Know What To Say To Him, He Seems Very Depressed, And Rightly So.
What Should I Say To Him To Make Him Feel Better, Anyone?

Talthyr Malkaviel · 03-01-2002, 02:27 PM

Oh.. tough one, I really wouldn't know what to say, but sometimes just being supportive helps, you might not have to say anything.
Wow, it's a bad period at IW recently, there's been a lot of stuff like this happening... just hope everyone pulls through ok.

Reeka · 03-01-2002, 02:31 PM

There is nothing you can say to make him feel better. That will take time. He is in shock. You can just be there, be supportive, and listen if he wants to talk. The best thing to say when someone loses someone is the simple thing-----"I'm so sorry."

Sir Exxon · 03-01-2002, 02:59 PM

Yeah, Reeka's right.
The best thing you can do now is just to be there for him, and be supportive.
Ohh, and tell him that all your friends here are very sorry for him.
Or something like that.
God, i's just TOO BAD that these things happeneds in the World.

see ya!

Galadria · 03-01-2002, 04:31 PM

Binky, I agree with everyone, plus, if you are close to him, try to do something with him to take his mind off of it. Too many people in mourning are avoided by their acquaintance, because they feel like they don't know what to say, when a comforting preswence is a whole lot.

Beaumanoir · 03-02-2002, 05:19 AM

Thanks For The Advice Guys. He Seems Pretty Depressed, But I'll Try To Cheer Him Up And Take His Mind Off IT And Be Supportive.

Yorick · 03-02-2002, 05:28 AM

quote:
Originally posted by Reeka:
There is nothing you can say to make him feel better. That will take time. He is in shock. You can just be there, be supportive, and listen if he wants to talk. The best thing to say when someone loses someone is the simple thing-----"I'm so sorry."

Agreed.

Sorry to hear that Binky.

Bahamut · 03-02-2002, 10:25 AM

i give reekas advice...

just... help him and never talk about it more than it has to be...

sorry to hear about it...

Beaumanoir · 03-02-2002, 12:52 PM

Thanks Guys. I (Luckily) Have Only Had ONE Person I Know Die In In My Life, I Know Its Not Much, But For Me, It's One Person Too Many.

AzRaeL StoRmBlaDe · 03-02-2002, 06:38 PM

Change the way your friend views death. tell them:
Life is but a dream, and death is but a doorway. We only cry when people die for selfish reasons, because WE will miss them. Who says they aren't relaxing in some undreamed of paradise, or being born again into another body. Either way death is part of the cycle of life. To be alive one must accept the inevitablity of death. Don't be sad at their passing, it was their time. Instead rejoice at the beauty of their life. If it will make you feel better throw a party in their honor with all their friends there to celebrate what that person's life meant to you, and each and every one of them. Just be greatful they were alive at all.

03-01-2002, 02:21 PM	#1
Beaumanoir Iron Throne Cult Join Date: June 3, 2001 Location: There is no IRL, Only AFK. Age: 35 Posts: 4,896	One Of My Friends Cousins Went Out To A Nightclub And Wasn't Seen Again. Yesterday They Found His Body On A Beach In A Gully. I Really Don't Know What To Say To Him, He Seems Very Depressed, And Rightly So. What Should I Say To Him To Make Him Feel Better, Anyone? __________________ My pokemon bring all the boys to the yard, and they're like; you wanna trade cards? Damn right, I wanna trade cards, I'll trade this but not my Charizard.

03-01-2002, 02:27 PM	#2
Talthyr Malkaviel Ma'at - Goddess of Truth & Justice Join Date: August 31, 2001 Location: Land of the Britons Age: 37 Posts: 3,224	Oh.. tough one, I really wouldn't know what to say, but sometimes just being supportive helps, you might not have to say anything. Wow, it's a bad period at IW recently, there's been a lot of stuff like this happening... just hope everyone pulls through ok. __________________ Resident cantankerous sorcerer of the Clan HADB<br />and Sorcerous Nuttella salesman of the O.R.T<br /> <br /><br />Say NO to the Trouser Tyranny! Can I drill you about this?

03-01-2002, 02:31 PM	#3
Reeka Ma'at - Goddess of Truth & Justice Join Date: March 2, 2001 Location: Birmingham, Alabama, USA Age: 70 Posts: 3,255	There is nothing you can say to make him feel better. That will take time. He is in shock. You can just be there, be supportive, and listen if he wants to talk. The best thing to say when someone loses someone is the simple thing-----"I'm so sorry." __________________ <b>Order of the Holy Flame</b><br /><i>Member of Clan HADB</i><br /><b>Laughing Hyena</b><br /><i>Clan Liaison, IW Peace Keeping Force</i><br /><i>[url]\"http://www.the-silver-river.com/Forum/index.php?board=29\" target=\"_blank\">The Silver River VoiceChat!</a><br />Last Saturday of every month. <br />See the forum link for scheduling!<br /><b> </b><br /></i><br /><b>Admin and Co-Owner of [url]\"http://www.the-silver-river.com\" target=\"_blank\">The Silver River</a></b><br />[url]\"http://www.the-silver-river.com\" target=\"_blank\"></a>

03-01-2002, 04:31 PM	#5
Galadria 20th Level Warrior Join Date: November 3, 2001 Location: Texas Age: 54 Posts: 2,830	Binky, I agree with everyone, plus, if you are close to him, try to do something with him to take his mind off of it. Too many people in mourning are avoided by their acquaintance, because they feel like they don't know what to say, when a comforting preswence is a whole lot. __________________ Lady Galadria,Goddess\' Equal of the O.R.T.; [img]\"http://havak.db-forge.com/portraits/bitmaps/wlf180L.bmp\" alt=\" - \" /><br />\"Romance at short notice was her specialty.\" - Saki <br />Founder of the IW Branch of the Anti-Anomen Society

03-02-2002, 05:19 AM	#6
Beaumanoir Iron Throne Cult Join Date: June 3, 2001 Location: There is no IRL, Only AFK. Age: 35 Posts: 4,896	Thanks For The Advice Guys. He Seems Pretty Depressed, But I'll Try To Cheer Him Up And Take His Mind Off IT And Be Supportive. __________________ My pokemon bring all the boys to the yard, and they're like; you wanna trade cards? Damn right, I wanna trade cards, I'll trade this but not my Charizard.

03-01-2002, 02:59 PM	#4
Sir Exxon Zartan Join Date: October 15, 2001 Location: Oslo, Norway Age: 35 Posts: 5,367	Yeah, Reeka's right. The best thing you can do now is just to be there for him, and be supportive. Ohh, and tell him that all your friends here are very sorry for him. Or something like that. God, i's just TOO BAD that these things happeneds in the World. see ya!

03-02-2002, 05:28 AM	#7
Yorick Very Mad Bird Join Date: January 7, 2001 Location: Breukelen (over the river from New Amsterdam) Age: 52 Posts: 9,246	quote: Originally posted by Reeka: There is nothing you can say to make him feel better. That will take time. He is in shock. You can just be there, be supportive, and listen if he wants to talk. The best thing to say when someone loses someone is the simple thing-----"I'm so sorry." Agreed. Sorry to hear that Binky. __________________ http://www.hughwilson.com

03-02-2002, 10:25 AM	#8
Bahamut Iron Throne Cult Join Date: March 12, 2001 Location: Manila, Philippines Age: 39 Posts: 4,864	i give reekas advice... just... help him and never talk about it more than it has to be... sorry to hear about it... __________________ http://makeallthedifference.blogspot.com http://www.bratgirlcentral.com/cgi-b.../ikonboard.cgi

03-02-2002, 12:52 PM	#9
Beaumanoir Iron Throne Cult Join Date: June 3, 2001 Location: There is no IRL, Only AFK. Age: 35 Posts: 4,896	Thanks Guys. I (Luckily) Have Only Had ONE Person I Know Die In In My Life, I Know Its Not Much, But For Me, It's One Person Too Many. __________________ My pokemon bring all the boys to the yard, and they're like; you wanna trade cards? Damn right, I wanna trade cards, I'll trade this but not my Charizard.

03-02-2002, 06:38 PM	#10
AzRaeL StoRmBlaDe Hathor Join Date: October 11, 2001 Location: At My Computer Age: 43 Posts: 2,217	Change the way your friend views death. tell them: Life is but a dream, and death is but a doorway. We only cry when people die for selfish reasons, because WE will miss them. Who says they aren't relaxing in some undreamed of paradise, or being born again into another body. Either way death is part of the cycle of life. To be alive one must accept the inevitablity of death. Don't be sad at their passing, it was their time. Instead rejoice at the beauty of their life. If it will make you feel better throw a party in their honor with all their friends there to celebrate what that person's life meant to you, and each and every one of them. Just be greatful they were alive at all. __________________ Now the swinging bridge<br />Is quieted with creepers. . . <br />Like our tendrilled life. -Basho

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