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[Charean]

Male RA gets crash course in women
By Michael Vitez
Philadelphia Inquirer Columnist

Soren Begley never had much to do with girls until he enrolled at Harcum College in Bryn Mawr, with 500 female students and just 30 males.

And became a resident adviser on a hall with 16 women.

Soren and his sweet 16.

He watches the Eagles alone. But what he has learned about women!

One: "They eat up the toilet paper." On his hall, every four women share one bathroom, and each bathroom is allotted two rolls per week. It is Soren's job to ration TP, and two rolls is not enough. "I just want to know where it all goes," he said, mystified.

Two: "I began to see very clearly the difference between a good woman and a bad woman," he said. A good woman is sweet, understanding, fair, "kind of like a mom," Soren said. "She knows she can trust me, that I'm not a player. A bad girl has attitude, and she's a gossip."

Three: Women can be cunning. "They know how to get what they want," he said, "especially from a guy."

For instance, if a toilet or drain gets clogged, or ceiling lightbulb needs replacing, or a window gets stuck, Soren gets sweet-talked into making the repairs. Not that he minds. In fact, one woman on his floor kept asking him to fix things until he finally figured out she had a crush on him.

"He's a chick magnet," teased Shelisa Waller, 19, of Coatesville. "He just won't admit it."

Soren is good-looking and fit. He takes a class in walking. He often skips meals in the dorm cafeteria in favor of a chocolate protein drink.

Women have slipped love notes under his door. But babe magnetism is new to him.

He was a loner at William Penn High School in Philadelphia, where he graduated in 1999. After two years of living at home in West Philadelphia (where he has two little sisters), and attending community college, he enrolled at Harcum last fall. Harcum, one of the area's oldest two-year private colleges, began accepting men in the 1980s. The ratio is still 15 women for every man.

"I came here, it was like an explosion," Soren said. "Suddenly all these girls knew me."

Still, Soren says, he's been taking it slow with the ladies, especially on his hall. One girl, for instance, really liked him. Then he busted her for having candles, which is against dorm rules. "She thought I was her friend, that I'd watch her back," he said. "But I have responsibilities.

"My romantic life is like it's on hold," Soren said. "It's hard to explain. I think as time goes on I will ease my way into one relationship, with nobody knowing about it."

Soren is 21. He's known he wanted to work with animals ever since high school. At community college, a teacher told him about the veterinary-technician program at Harcum. He should finish in January 2004 with an associate degree.

Right now, his classes include anatomy and physiology of domestic animals, general chemistry, and surgery and radiology.

"I'm kind of struggling with anatomy and physiology," he said. "I get C grades. I have a B in surgery and radiology."

Now that he's been an RA for three months, Soren says the school work is more of a challenge than life with women.

The night I was there, Monday, the hall seemed about as rowdy as a public library. A couple of times Soren had to tell young women to turn their music down. Two of them asked his advice on redecorating their room (he told them how to arrange their furniture) - and they actually listened! Another told him how she had forgotten about her laundry for two weeks and left it in a dorm dryer. "They just threw it on a table and left it alone," she told Soren. "They didn't even steal my Gap sweats." Soren wasn't surprised that a student could forget about her laundry for two weeks.

Things don't faze him much anymore. On a recent night, he said, two young women complained about how two others, with whom they share the bathroom, leave "feminine products" in the tub.

The women only wanted to vent and he was ready. "I can handle it now," he said. "I'm kind of used to it. I'm in the groove."

There is one other male RA in the Klein Dormitory, but he has a couple of guys living on his floor. All of the other RAs at Harcum are women; only women have been RAs until this year.

The female RAs, of course, think that women on Soren's floor really come to them with female-type problems, but they're glad to have Soren around, especially late at night.

"The boyfriends will step all over us," said Rebecca Wagner, another RA. "So we call him to stand behind us, to look intimidating."

As an RA, Soren receives a discount of $1,700 on his annual housing bill, and a stipend of $200 a month. He also gets his own room and bathroom.

"I love it," he said. "All the time I love it. The good, bad and ugly here, I love it all."

There was a knock at his door - an RA from downstairs.

"You have TP?" she asked.

"Why?" he responded with alarm. "I only have six."

"Just let me have two rolls," she pleaded.

"There's no TP downstairs?" Soren asked incredulously.

"No," she insisted.

He handed over two rolls.

[antryg]

I experienced the other end of the spectrum. When I went to Texas A&M women were just beginning to go there. There were less than 200 women and 8000 men.
My freshman English class had 2 women. Chemistry had 8 women out of 360 in the class. None of my other classes had females. If you asked a girl out for a date, she would ask what you were offering, highest bidder won. I never had a date with a female (or other) student while at A&M.

[Charean]

Whoda thunk women could be so mercenary?

Ah well.

[purre]

Originally posted by Charean: Whoda thunk women could be so mercenary? Ah well.

Now,Now boys, not all women are mecenary.You have only had a bad luck.

[antryg]

Originally posted by purre: quote: Originally posted by Charean: Whoda thunk women could be so mercenary? Ah well.

Now,Now boys, not all women are mecenary.You have only had a bad luck. [/QUOTE]I applaud their business instincts. Check out the picture in my profile and that will explain while I didn't get dates. ugly+money=Bill Gates=women
ugly+broke="alone again, naturally"

[purre]

Originally posted by antryg: quote: Originally posted by purre: quote: Originally posted by Charean: Whoda thunk women could be so mercenary? Ah well.

Now,Now boys, not all women are mecenary.You have only had a bad luck. [/QUOTE]I applaud their business instincts. Check out the picture in my profile and that will explain while I didn't get dates. ugly+money=Bill Gates=women
ugly+broke="alone again, naturally"[/QUOTE]No,No,bad luck,think of Michael Jackson,now HE is ugly and has women.

[Charean]

Hey now, I am a woman, and going for (insert icky face here) Michael Jackson is just too repugnant for words. Going for any man for money seems repugnant to me.

Even when dating, I looked for men with character. Needless to say, I didn't date much. No one has character when they are young. [img]tongue.gif[/img]

[antryg]

Originally posted by Charean: Hey now, I am a woman, and going for (insert icky face here) Michael Jackson is just too repugnant for words. Going for any man for money seems repugnant to me. Even when dating, I looked for men with character. Needless to say, I didn't date much. No one has character when they are young. [img]tongue.gif[/img]

I was a character. Does that count?

WARNING! OUT OF DATE SOCIAL CONCEPT! PROTECT SMALL CHILDREN!
Seriously cultural imprinting leads males to look for physical beauty and females to seek a provider examples being strong, successful, or rich.
Women SAY they want a sensitive, caring, emotionally mature man. That's true as long as he is good looking, edgy, or rich.

[purre]

Antryg,Antryg, that is NOT true!
Maybe some superficial women are like that,but not others.

[Bruce The Aussie]

what antryg said is ture for men. i'd never date anyone i wasn't atracted too.