Help! I don't know what to do.

Jorath Calar · 11-18-2001, 08:18 AM

I can't believe I'm going to post this but I need help. Please bear with me.
I have 2 girls for friends, both great, beautyful and sweet girls who both like me... it seems. I'd love to start a serious relationship with both of them, but I just can't decide which one it will be. I mean if I choose one then I know my chances with the other are gone and since they have both asked me if I'd like to start a relationship with them I'm afraid I'd break their heart. I told them both I needed some time to think about it and I know they won't wait forever.
I'm think I'm going crazy, What can I do?
Why did life get so complicated?

250 · 11-18-2001, 08:20 AM

love is simple

you love or you do not love

so who do you love?

Ronn_Bman · 11-18-2001, 08:26 AM

Being afraid of choosing one and losing your chances with the other doesn't exactly sound like love.

If you want to keep one of them in "reserve" just in case the other doesn't work out, then neither will work out. That much I can promise because women are extremely intuitive, and they will know.

You have to decide which one you would rather be with and go after her with all your heart.

Unless of course they don't mind sharing you! [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img]

[ 11-18-2001: Message edited by: Ronn_Bman ]

Jorath Calar · 11-18-2001, 08:49 AM

I didn't mean I wanted to "keep one as a reserve", I meant I would probably lose her friendship. I like both of these girls so much that I can't chose which one I like more. It's just not right to have to choose.

Lifetime · 11-18-2001, 10:24 AM

Choose neither or choose both. At least for a while. Otherwise you'll always be wondering if you made the right decision.
If they're oblivious to each other, then all the better. But play your cards right, or you'll be stuck with neither.
Thats what I'd do

I'd just play with both of them till I figured which one should take the backseat. Just turn up the heat with both of them but not get into any commitments with either. Hopefully you'll figure out then which one you're leaning towards, and be able to turn down the other one without breaking up. If you're still friends while you're doing so, but on a higher level, you can always tune it down. If you're in a relationship, its not that simple, and the one that you choose to stick with is probably going to hear about it.

Manwe · 11-18-2001, 01:33 PM

Ask them to wait, dont hesitate and spend time with them both... become a great friend to both of them. And later maybe you'll see which one of them you want. =D

11-18-2001, 08:26 AM	#3
Ronn_Bman Zartan Join Date: March 11, 2001 Location: North Carolina USA Age: 57 Posts: 5,177	Being afraid of choosing one and losing your chances with the other doesn't exactly sound like love. If you want to keep one of them in "reserve" just in case the other doesn't work out, then neither will work out. That much I can promise because women are extremely intuitive, and they will know. You have to decide which one you would rather be with and go after her with all your heart. Unless of course they don't mind sharing you! [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img] [ 11-18-2001: Message edited by: Ronn_Bman ] __________________ [img]\"http://home.carolina.rr.com/orthanc/pics/Spinning%20Hammer%20Sig%20Pic.gif\" alt=\" - \" />

11-18-2001, 10:24 AM	#5
Lifetime Red Dragon Join Date: March 3, 2001 Location: Scotch College, Melbourne Posts: 1,503	Choose neither or choose both. At least for a while. Otherwise you'll always be wondering if you made the right decision. If they're oblivious to each other, then all the better. But play your cards right, or you'll be stuck with neither. Thats what I'd do I'd just play with both of them till I figured which one should take the backseat. Just turn up the heat with both of them but not get into any commitments with either. Hopefully you'll figure out then which one you're leaning towards, and be able to turn down the other one without breaking up. If you're still friends while you're doing so, but on a higher level, you can always tune it down. If you're in a relationship, its not that simple, and the one that you choose to stick with is probably going to hear about it. __________________ \'Cause its always raining in my head. Forget all the things I should have said..

11-18-2001, 08:18 AM	#1
Jorath Calar Harper Join Date: October 6, 2001 Location: Iceland Posts: 4,706	I can't believe I'm going to post this but I need help. Please bear with me. I have 2 girls for friends, both great, beautyful and sweet girls who both like me... it seems. I'd love to start a serious relationship with both of them, but I just can't decide which one it will be. I mean if I choose one then I know my chances with the other are gone and since they have both asked me if I'd like to start a relationship with them I'm afraid I'd break their heart. I told them both I needed some time to think about it and I know they won't wait forever. I'm think I'm going crazy, What can I do? Why did life get so complicated?

11-18-2001, 08:20 AM	#2
250 Horus - Egyptian Sky God Join Date: March 4, 2001 Location: either CA or MO Age: 42 Posts: 2,674	love is simple you love or you do not love so who do you love?

11-18-2001, 08:49 AM	#4
Jorath Calar Harper Join Date: October 6, 2001 Location: Iceland Posts: 4,706	I didn't mean I wanted to "keep one as a reserve", I meant I would probably lose her friendship. I like both of these girls so much that I can't chose which one I like more. It's just not right to have to choose.

11-18-2001, 01:33 PM	#6
Manwe Manshoon Join Date: March 12, 2001 Location: Finland Age: 40 Posts: 187	Ask them to wait, dont hesitate and spend time with them both... become a great friend to both of them. And later maybe you'll see which one of them you want. =D

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