The one that got away - Page 2

realbinky · 06-11-2003, 01:41 PM

This makes it so THE "The One" is more appreciated. I'm sure we all felt as you do at least once. Hell, if there is One for me (my wife) there is one for each of us. Even you.

Paladin2000 · 06-11-2003, 01:51 PM

Yeah, my first one got away too. Funny though, I never think much of her until now. Once in a while, I wonder what would happen if I chose her instead of my wife. Maybe we shall meet again in my next reincarnation.

Epona · 06-11-2003, 03:09 PM

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Originally posted by Timber Loftis:
Final note: If you are under 30, the best in love and life is yet to come.

Oh well that's me stuffed then [img]graemlins/crying.gif[/img]

Cloudbringer · 06-11-2003, 03:11 PM

Hey DameonRules, it happens and you will feel sad and miserable, but in the end, how could she be "the one" if you don't end up together? [img]smile.gif[/img] I think that one of these days you'll find a girl you just click with and you'll know without a doubt that SHE is the ONE for you.

Epona made a very good point! If you felt you had to change all that is individual and special about yourself to please a woman, then it can't be a good thing! A solid relationship is based on sharing and caring about the other person, but not changing who you are at the basic level. If that's needed to make it go- it's not a very stable relationship to start with!

Best wishes in the future. Don't dwell on the 'what if's' too long, but start looking at the 'what will be's', you'll find it's easier to deal with the loss and look forward to the future! [img]smile.gif[/img]

harleyquinn · 06-11-2003, 04:16 PM

I agree about that if it's meant to be it'll work out one way or another. My parents broke up constantly when they were dating. For part of the time, my mom was living in NY going to college and my dad was in California. He wrote her a letter one of the times they were broken up saying how much he missed her and wanted her to come out there to see her. Imagine how pissed she was when she found out he had written the same letter to 2 other ex girlfriends.
Obviously, Dad changed his ways and Mom forgave him, and they eventually got married. They'll be celebrating 29 years of marriage in about a week, and they are still sickingly lovey dovey. If things are meant to be, if she's truely the one, then it will happen.

But, if you need to change your goals and your dreams to be with her, then she's not the one and you will only wind up resenting her in the end because of all you gave up, so maybe you can use now as a time for some self reflection to figure out what it is that you want from life.

Timber Loftis · 06-11-2003, 04:19 PM

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Originally posted by Epona:

quote:
Originally posted by Timber Loftis:
Final note: If you are under 30, the best in love and life is yet to come.

Oh well that's me stuffed then [img]graemlins/crying.gif[/img] [/QUOTE]Riiiight.

I did NOT say the converse, that if you are over 30 it's all behind you, is true.

So, bleh [img]tongue.gif[/img]

Besides, Ms. Girl Who Cried Wolf, shall we drag out conversations about your recent romantic *cough* adventures. [img]graemlins/1ponder.gif[/img] 3-day dates and all that?

[ 06-11-2003, 04:20 PM: Message edited by: Timber Loftis ]

Epona · 06-11-2003, 05:33 PM

Timber, 3 day long dates, moi? [img]graemlins/littleangel.gif[/img] *cough*

I think sir, that you must be mistaken. *cough*

Oh alright, I'm not fooling anyone, am I? I haven't told you about what I've been up to this week yet

DameonRules · 06-12-2003, 02:24 AM

FYI i wasn't talking about Lady blue. but thanks anyways.

06-11-2003, 01:41 PM	#11
realbinky Elminster Join Date: March 14, 2001 Location: Milford, MA 01757 Age: 52 Posts: 442	This makes it so THE "The One" is more appreciated. I'm sure we all felt as you do at least once. Hell, if there is One for me (my wife) there is one for each of us. Even you. __________________ <br />Move all ZIG for great PROGRESS!<br />Project M.U.L.E.<br />At least my kids think I\'m smart...

06-11-2003, 01:51 PM	#12
Paladin2000 Fzoul Chembryl Join Date: February 19, 2002 Location: Your guess is as good as mine. Age: 52 Posts: 1,728	Yeah, my first one got away too. Funny though, I never think much of her until now. Once in a while, I wonder what would happen if I chose her instead of my wife. Maybe we shall meet again in my next reincarnation. __________________ (This is an invisible sig.)

06-11-2003, 03:11 PM	#14
Cloudbringer Ironworks Moderator Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: Upstate NY USA Posts: 19,737	Hey DameonRules, it happens and you will feel sad and miserable, but in the end, how could she be "the one" if you don't end up together? [img]smile.gif[/img] I think that one of these days you'll find a girl you just click with and you'll know without a doubt that SHE is the ONE for you. Epona made a very good point! If you felt you had to change all that is individual and special about yourself to please a woman, then it can't be a good thing! A solid relationship is based on sharing and caring about the other person, but not changing who you are at the basic level. If that's needed to make it go- it's not a very stable relationship to start with! Best wishes in the future. Don't dwell on the 'what if's' too long, but start looking at the 'what will be's', you'll find it's easier to deal with the loss and look forward to the future! [img]smile.gif[/img] __________________ "Don't take life for granted." Animal (may he rest in peace)

06-11-2003, 04:16 PM	#15
harleyquinn Symbol of Cyric Join Date: November 25, 2002 Location: NY Age: 48 Posts: 1,190	I agree about that if it's meant to be it'll work out one way or another. My parents broke up constantly when they were dating. For part of the time, my mom was living in NY going to college and my dad was in California. He wrote her a letter one of the times they were broken up saying how much he missed her and wanted her to come out there to see her. Imagine how pissed she was when she found out he had written the same letter to 2 other ex girlfriends. Obviously, Dad changed his ways and Mom forgave him, and they eventually got married. They'll be celebrating 29 years of marriage in about a week, and they are still sickingly lovey dovey. If things are meant to be, if she's truely the one, then it will happen. But, if you need to change your goals and your dreams to be with her, then she's not the one and you will only wind up resenting her in the end because of all you gave up, so maybe you can use now as a time for some self reflection to figure out what it is that you want from life. __________________ [img]\"http://www.bethspage.us/sig.jpg\" alt=\" - \" />

06-11-2003, 05:33 PM	#17
Epona Zartan Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: London, England Age: 53 Posts: 5,164	Timber, 3 day long dates, moi? [img]graemlins/littleangel.gif[/img] cough I think sir, that you must be mistaken. cough Oh alright, I'm not fooling anyone, am I? I haven't told you about what I've been up to this week yet __________________ [img]\"http://www.wizardrealm.com/images/epona.gif\" alt=\" - \" />

06-12-2003, 02:24 AM	#18
DameonRules Manshoon Join Date: September 15, 2002 Location: San Diego Age: 42 Posts: 245	FYI i wasn't talking about Lady blue. but thanks anyways. __________________ \"Find\'em hot Leave\'em Wet!\" Fires of course. The Creed of Firefighters

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