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Just for the record [img]smile.gif[/img] I have not had to spank my son since he was 8 (for telling lies) or my daughter since she was 5. They pretty much know that the only thing that will ALWAYS get a spanking is lies, I gaurenteed at least 6 whacks with the belt if they get caught in a lie. I have also made sure that there have been occasions where when they admitted to doing something wrong, that I let them off with no punishment other than telling them how disappointed I was.
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Magik, I never said I didn't warrant punishment! LOL I did most of the things a youngster gets punished for at least once in my life. My punishments were just not physical ones. I lost play time, did more chores, lost tv or phone privileges etc.
Lucky for me, not all children who are spanked grow up to think it was a good thing. I know that my father was routinely given physical punishments for wrongdoing as a child. He was the one most adamant about NOT spanking me and my brother as we grew up. Communication with parents in the teen years is rough enough, but I think kids that have a fear of them regarding things they do wrong, are less likely to admit they've done something bad even if they WANT their parent's help/love/advice at that point, as my friend's kid did. See that's the point I was making about the kids who are spanked/swatted etc. FEAR does not promote closeness or trust. If you expect physical pain for doing something wrong, are you gonna TELL on yourself? [img]graemlins/wow.gif[/img] I can say this much, if I knew I'd be hurt for admitting I had a problem due to something bad I'd done, no bloody way I'd be telling my folks about it! I never had to get help for a pregnancy or drinking/drug or other major problem as a teen, but I know kids who did and wanted their parents love, advice and help but fear kept them from talking to their parents about it. Fear of punishment for being in trouble or for experimenting where the shouldn't have. Added to the agony of the actual situation, it can be too much for any kid, and hopefully they go elsewhere and find help. Many would like to be close enough to parents to discuss such issues but can't. I don't know as any ONE answer is right for all cases. I have a good friend who disagreed on punishment with her husband and they compromised on tapping/swatting lightly on the child's hand in conjunction with time-outs and it worked pretty well for all three kids, they didn't have to spank them or offer physical punishment at all after the toddler years.
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OK, since my opinoin is bloody useless, I'm not even going to bother giving it - thanks for the friendly, open-minded climate.
Absynthe, you absolutely have the right of it, thanks mate [img]smile.gif[/img] I'm wondering though - so Azure's opinion is still pretty useless and not worth listening to because he's just 'the brother'? Well, if he practically raised his sister that DOES make his opinion equally valid to any parent's. Or would you say any "surrogate" parents such as stepparents or adoptive parents don't count either? In that case, I have news for you: a man can never be sure whether his children are his own unless he's had DNA tests to prove it. Also, better a good brother than a bad father. This topic is about smacking kids in general, nobody said that it was solely meant for parents - oh wait, one person said it was, how silly of me. A teenager could give their own experience and perspective in this thread, and *most people* would find that interesting to hear too, and might even gain an insight from that *gasp*. Of course, some people are blind to all insights save the ones they have gained from themselves. Also, for your information MagiK I am not a child. But then again I guess you would call a 30 year old a child if you thought it would serve your purpose of "disqualifying" people's opinions.
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so it is. Oh well, I shan't bother with the thread myself then
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hot wheels race track on the back of the legs.just a few whacks will do the trick.i should know.my parents used it on six of their eight kids and it worked.but i do not agree with hitting a kid on the head.
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