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Amber - I agree. The fact that nothing short of corporeal punishments worked for MagiK as a kid probably says a whole lot more about MagiK himself than about the merit of corporeal punishment.[/QUOTE]Sorry you dont like it Mel but be that as it may, you do NOT know what you are talking about, come back in a decade or two when you grow up and have raised a child. It is arrogant to assume you know anything at all about raising a child whithout ever having done it your self as an adult. Children (you included) should NEVER be in charge of raising children period! What you don't like about my post is that I spoke the truth about children not knowing something, a common failing in teens. Raising a sibling whent here is a neglectful parent involved, is horrible, I can totaly sympathize, but just because a child rasied anothewr child does nto mean that he/she is qualified to raise the child properly or has the wisdom to make the right choices (heck even adults dont do that) [ 05-16-2002, 12:57 PM: Message edited by: MagiK ] |
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Oh and by the way..how many children have you raised? [ 05-16-2002, 01:05 PM: Message edited by: MagiK ] |
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The best thing about the type of parenting you are espousing is that it usually dies out after a generation or two, as a child decides that they don't want to put their kids through the crap they went through. |
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If one of MY kids did that, I would take the knife away (of course). I would then try to talk to him and ask him exactly WHY he had that knife out. At the age of 8, I can think of several possible scenarios: 1)He may be planning to injure himself. 2)He may get picked on in school (I did) and be fantasizing about revenge (did that too, but never with a weapon). 3)He may be thinking of hurting his parents (but that's questionable). 4)He MAY have been sleepwalking (not likely, but that could also explain the "strange look" in his eyes). 5)He may just have a fascination with knives. I did when I was younger. Not that I wanted to hurt anybody with them..I just liked knives and I was epecially fascinated with the larger ones. The parents should DEFINITELY sit down and talk to the boy - or at least take him to a counselor. If they just shut him out now, their fears might become a self-fulfilling prophecy when he is older. Quote:
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Ok I admit it. I was wrong about one thing...everyones opinion has value. But I will never take the advice of a non-parent on a parenting issue and I have never heard a child utter a single useful/helpfull suggestion on how to better raise my kids.
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05-16-2002, 01:13 PM | #57 |
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Here are the rules for punishment in my house. After having been told to do something and not having instructions followed (I do allow some discussion) I will count to three. At the count of three my child is in timeout and he or she must go to his or her room and set on the bed. No TV, radio, books or toys until either I or mom say so. Afterwards they must do as they are told. The second offense in a spanking. One smack on the butt is sufficant to get our point across. I don't condone beating or smacking.
One of the thing that I see wrong with our schools now is the lack of RESPONSIBLE corperal punishment. I have no problem with a principle busting one of my children's butts (as long as it is handled in a fair way), if that straightens out the problem. Now-a-days, if a student does something wrong then they suspended them from school for some number of days. What does that do? I have a seven year old girl, who is as good as gold and has been spanked exactly twice in her young life. My three year old son on the other hand is as stubborn as they come and has on several occasions warranted a spanking. The point is that no two children are a like in this regard. I find that raising girls is somewhat easier than boys. Boys (at least in my house) need a lot more supervision than girls do. I've noticed this with other families too. I understand Magick's statement. It's the old "Walk a mile in my shoes" thing. I find it somewhat irritating that adults, without children, seem to have all the answers when it comes to raising them. Raising children is the most difficult, demanding, frustrating and rewarding thing any of us will ever do. Once you have a child ALL your time WILL be spent raising that child. Everything WILL revolve around that child if your really care about your child. That includes punishing them when they do wrong.
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The best thing about the type of parenting you are espousing is that it usually dies out after a generation or two, as a child decides that they don't want to put their kids through the crap they went through.[/QB][/QUOTE]Now you are reading things into what I said that I never did say. I didn't say being able to procreate made you a good parent, I even pointed out that especially in the case of minors having children this was NOT the case. As for your assumption about MY type of parenting [img]smile.gif[/img] You can't get me there [img]smile.gif[/img] Every child in history has uttered the famous line "Ill NEVER, do that to my kid" Fortunatley for humanity [img]smile.gif[/img] More times than nought this turned out to be totaly false [img]smile.gif[/img] As for my kids, So far they are healthy, HAPPY loving children who have to date done nothing that I can be ashamed of, I realize that they being only 8 and 11 I still have yet to navigate the teen years , so things still have to shake out some, but to date I have two very alive and loving children to prove the effectiveness and the appropriateness of "MY way" of raising kids...well not MY way [img]smile.gif[/img] it is OUR way because my Ex and I have the exact same values and ideas on raising children. I think it truely does take two (a mother and a father) to raise children properly, though there have been exceptions. Try another tack if you want to get my goat Abby [img]smile.gif[/img] |
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Cerek Good posts all the way around...I want to reemphasize my belief that Spanking and smacking are NOT the same as punching and kicking or other violent physical assaults.
My 8 year old daughter understands this concept why is it so difficult for SOME older people to grasp? [ 05-16-2002, 01:19 PM: Message edited by: MagiK ] |
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