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Second answer. Im just this guy who decided he wanted to start a debate and see how many people would jump at the subject [img]smile.gif[/img] I have as much right to make threads..and posts as anyone, you are free to disagree [img]smile.gif[/img] I do feel mortified that Avatar started this and I just spaced and assumed I had done it. Oh and about judgeing others...we are ALL responsible for judgiung others, we do it every day, we judge if someone is dressed properly, we judge people for robbing the bank we judge people for their opinions on topics that are controvertial. Parents judge ever second of the day when they are raising thier kids...and it all involves evaluating the acts of others so ...my question to you is...who am I NOT to judge? |
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05-16-2002, 03:34 PM | #93 | |
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05-16-2002, 03:41 PM | #94 | |
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As for kids being Psychologicly damaged by physical punishment..bull puckey! Kids may be damaged by abuse but we define abuse differently I assume. |
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05-16-2002, 03:51 PM | #95 |
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Um, I don't know where abuse came from, I was talking about physical punishment, and I don't necessarily scar them majorly for life, but things that they may not notice because they can't remember not acting or being that way, and still effects the child negatively.
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I'm very glad you brought this point up, because I think this goes to the heart of Magik's viewpoint. My oldest son (who is only 5) is an exceptionally compassionate child. When he was only 2 years old, my wife's sister brought her family down to visit from Pennsylvania. Her son was only 18mos old and the 700 mile trip took a real toll on him. He was crying miserably and nothing could console him. Levi about went bananas. He offered him his own cup of juice, tried to hug and kiss him, ANYTHING to calm him down. This compassion has only increased with age. He is also a very intelligent and mature child for his age. I can assure you he has good, strong moral values. He has a very good understanding of right and wrong..... HOWEVER, there are STILL times when nothing short of a spanking will make him behave. It's rare, but there are times when ALL methods simply have NO effect. That's what I think Magik is trying to say. Until you are actually IN a situation 24/7, your opinions (no matter how well researched) will be no more than speculation. I promise you, I have done things that I SWORE would NEVER happen with my kids. Cloudy has legitimate experience dealing with children. But again, I can tell you from experience that MY kids behave MUCH better in school or at the babysitter's than they do at home. WHY? Good question. I wish I knew. But it's true. We've had to literally hold my youngest down to FORCE him to drink some medicine when he was sick with a fever, only to see him walk right up to the babysitter and drink it from her spoon without so much as a quibble. BTW, she has spanked them too when necessary, so it isn't that they felt like they were "treated better or more kindly" over there. Kids will naturally test the limits the parents set for them to see how far they can go. You have to draw the line and stick to it decisively, or they will become less well behaved regardless of what "punishment method" you use. [ 05-16-2002, 04:02 PM: Message edited by: Cerek the Barbaric ]
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Hi everyone [img]smile.gif[/img] The last post I read was post number 3. Now that I'm back after a few hours, a raging argument is fully thrown across this topic. Here is what I think: Frankly I don't know if I would. I think the situation is a major factor. I mean, if you asked me to actively think about it as I am asking you to do so, then I guess no... but there might be cases where a gentle bottom smacking is in order BUT NEVER anything that will hurt! Just a playful pinch! I could never do that. Can everyone chill and calm down? No one is right on this issue as it is totally up to the person. Just state your case an dreason and keep out of other people's. Oh and why did Groj smack me? waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa i wanna my mommy! [img]graemlins/agree.gif[/img] CHILL everyone! And have some fruit juice [img]tongue.gif[/img] MagiK: Cultual Backgrounds are a major influence on how you teach your kids as well as what aspirations you have for your kids. If you want your kids to be well brought up, excellent manners..etc. fine. But please don't devalue what others think because you should appreciate what standards different people have. I am saying that we all have different and varying demands on our kids and therefore depending on our own bringing up...etc. Everyone is different. P.S. Not sure what your PM meant MagiK.. sorry! [img]smile.gif[/img] Catalina: Good point on how one would react if someone else hit their kid(s). I know I would be darn angry but if it was a very legit reason I might not go beserk [img]tongue.gif[/img] . Here is a Question: Just how many of you have actually been smacked more than once or twice as a child here? My thanks. [img]smile.gif[/img] [ 05-16-2002, 04:19 PM: Message edited by: Avatar ]
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Well you said kids may be damaged by abuse, and that we define them differently, but I was just wondering where abuse had come from, as I was only on about spanking etc.
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