05-17-2002, 06:49 PM | #241 |
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Facinating thread. It reminds me of a rollercoaster, fun bits, dull bits and just a few bits where it seems to be plunging out of control, only to get back on track at the last minute. I look forward to reading more of it tomorrow, but as even Moderators have to sleep sometimes, I'm off to bed. I would just like to make one simple request
PLEASE KEEP PERSONAL ATTACKS/INNUENDO/INSULTS OUT OF THIS THREAD If you have trouble understanding this simple edict then refrain from posting meantine and e-mail me for a fuller explanation Oh, and cutting down on some of the nested quotes would be nice too.
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05-17-2002, 06:50 PM | #242 | |
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LOA if you want to contribbute meaningful dialog you are welcome but the mods have asked that the troll behaviour be checked at the door..please do so. You have obviously just chosen to attack my point of view and only used a very tiny piece of it to do so. |
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05-17-2002, 06:50 PM | #243 | |
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I did not just "spend time" with a two year old, I raised her. But of course since I am just her brother that means absolutely nothing. Thats nice to hear |
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05-17-2002, 06:50 PM | #244 | |
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05-17-2002, 06:55 PM | #245 | |
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I may not be able to out write you in trying to explain my views, Im left with falling back on the one thing that will do more to explain what I mean than any words I can write....Raise a child of your own, then come talk and we can discuss things from a more common reference. Im not saying you will come to the same conclusions but Im sure I will have many laughs at your attempts of trying to talk or reason with your 2 year old [img]smile.gif[/img] (not not all spanking involves pain, at two the swat on the diaper is all about startling them and getting their attention fixed on an unpleasent notion associated with some behaviour)[/QUOTE]MagiK, human collective knowledge is built upon the precept that we can learn from others without going through the same experience. Without "reinventing the wheel". One does not need to be a parent to be an expert on child rearing. The parent of a child is an expert on the experience of rearing THAT child. There is no way to measure right or wrong, because you cannot go back and repeat the scenario with a different set of actions to see what the outcome is! However, we can gather information from each other. From those that have gone before us, and those doing it while we speak. We can pick each others brains and compare notes. That is the most effective way to ascertain the best course of action, not relying on our single course of action as the only way. |
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05-17-2002, 06:55 PM | #246 |
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Heh heh. Magik my friend, I never said I don't raise my voice, I just don't raise it directed at my children [img]smile.gif[/img] I came from a very abusive home, and made my own severe mistakes as I aged. It is just that the terror of what I went through growing up, plus the lessons I have learned from my own grave mistakes is so ingrained in me, that I have sworn an oath to myself that my Brittany and Bryce will never experience those things with me. That they will have a positive, nurturing, loving dad who will treat them with all the respect any person has the right to expect. I am just fortunate that things have worked out for us as they have [img]smile.gif[/img]
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05-17-2002, 06:57 PM | #247 | |
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05-17-2002, 06:57 PM | #248 | |
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Another thought. No parent is ever perfect. And it does not matter. Because whatever mistakes we may make, if we put in his/her upbringing all the love and all the responsibility we have inside us, the child knows it and behaves accordingly. IMHO, the only thing a child needs to grow into a full human being is feeling secure in the love and approval and care of his parents and the people who love him. [img]smile.gif[/img] If he has got that, he will be free to grow.
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I did not just "spend time" with a two year old, I raised her. But of course since I am just her brother that means absolutely nothing. Thats nice to hear [/QUOTE]Azure we talked about this several pages back, you had to do more than you should have, and your parents were apparently not parents. What you are tlaking about is neglect and terror and pain for a child to go through, I think that this in and of itself has made you unable to really see things in anything like an unbiased way, you base everything on the one fact that YOU had to raise your sister instead of your parents.... My background is from a thankfully more normal family where there was a mother and father to raise kids, and my children are also benefiting from having two parents who love and care for them. Your problem is not wether spanking is right or wrong, your problem appears to be "what are NORMAL parents supposed to be like" I do hope that with the back ground you describe that you do seek counseling before marriage and having children of your own. My kids are NOT being ignored, they are not being beaten senseless, nor are they having arbitrary rules and chaos introduced to their lives. And I repeat as a consequence of MY methods (and my wifes) my kids have moved beyond the need of spanking. We have worked out the rules and they know that if it is necessary I will spank them but they don't do things that require that drastic an actiuon..I havent had to actually punish them in over a year ....so Im happy, and so are they. |
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