Ideas and suggestions please.

[Cloudbringer]

Target, the guys have given you some great advice! I'm at work so can't add much at the moment, but I will say this- as long as your wife is complaining- she's still willing to work on the relationship! If she stops complaining or caring, it's a sure sign she's pulled out of the relationship and will be moving on. So definitely TALK to her and REALLY listen... try to hear what she means not just what she says. It's a tough thing to do, I know, but you need to figure out the real problems underlying her unhappiness.

[Elif Godson]

hate to ask this, but is there someone else? A friend she compares you too or says you should be more like, or someone she confides in that is male?

I wish you luck bud, the advice given is solid, I've been married for 14 years with 3 children and all kinds of up's and downs, but the main thing my wife and I have going is that we always communicate, about everything and we never yell or nit pick. Our children wouldn't know an argument if they saw one, thats how much my wife and argue, if it gets bad, we separate, go for a walk etc but never say anything you will regret, compromise if need be.

The best advice I have heard was some my mom gave me, it was a solemn moment when I was around 14. She looked at me out of the blue and said, when you get married, and the years have gone by, always touch your wife and let her know you care and that you are there for her. With a smile or a caress, just be there.

Those are words I have lived by ever since and in more ways then one.

Good luck again.