I'm a mess!

[Horatio]

That's the attitude, kenyth! This woman (and I use the term lightly) sounds like a real b!$%*, and I would be reaaaaaaallly pissed if I were in your position. Good luck to you, dude. [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img]

[LordKathen]

Here in Washington state, if that story was the other way around, you would either be in jail for not paying, or your wages would be garnished. In your situation, it would be the same though, probably. They are on the womans side here all the way. That is not necessarily all bad, but it can be bad for an honest father. I wish you luck man. [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img]

[Animal]

Just remember one thing: Remain calm and civil. Any kind of outburst or exchange of harsh words WILL be used against you. By the sounds of it, she may even have retained the services of a PI to dig up some dirt on you. Now's the time to come clean with your lawyer, no secrets.

I've seen this many times with custody battles and the children always come out worse for it. I've done my fair share of 'investigative work' for divorce and custody proceedings and it can get very messy.

[cormack]

Hope you have receipts and documentation to back up what you say Sir K. If you go in unprepared your sunk. Everything counts but don't make it seem like nit picky stuff. Judge's consider material possesions only in divorce court so keep focused and it's about your son. Do what's best for him bro.
Prayers!

[Sir Kenyth]

Originally posted by Animal: Just remember one thing: Remain calm and civil. Any kind of outburst or exchange of harsh words WILL be used against you. By the sounds of it, she may even have retained the services of a PI to dig up some dirt on you. Now's the time to come clean with your lawyer, no secrets. I've seen this many times with custody battles and the children always come out worse for it. I've done my fair share of 'investigative work' for divorce and custody proceedings and it can get very messy.

There's not much dirt to dig Animal. My entire lifetime legal problems consist of being arrested for underage alchohol consumption at the age of 18. The case was dismissed by the judge. Also one traffic ticket. The only possibly relavent thing was back in '97' during the divorce proceedings. My son was visiting his grandmother. I got very very drunk in frustration one night and broke out my own car window in my own driveway, with my own hand (which turned out worse for the wear). The police saw it happen and took me to the hospital ER to sober up and treat the cuts. I apologized, paid the bill, and went home. There were no charges as I didn't break any laws. There's no law against stupidity. The police said, had I resisted, I would have been taken into protective custody. Since I didn't, I wasn't. No record of it except the daily logbook, which may or may not still exist. I went to ninety days of voluntary counseling anyway. I never heard about it again. Were she pure as the driven snow, I might be worried. She aint!

[Timber Loftis]

Whether explicitly stated or not, the woman gets a lot of benefit of the doubt in custody cases. Make sure to lay all her closet skeletons out for the court to see, including any neglect or poor parenting issues. I assume she's the non-custodial parent because she can't be bothered with the kid.

Was there ever a support order? If she broke it, it's contempt. Oh, well, I'm sure your lawyers have looked at that. But, make sure to bring these things up. Never assume a lawyer will have knowledge of all papers you give them - you would be surprised how little they know about your "file."

Oh, I know some guys with rubber hoses over that way if you need one of *those* referrals.

[Sir Kenyth]

Originally posted by Timber Loftis: Oh, I know some guys with rubber hoses over that way if you need one of *those* referrals.

The Sopranos?


Tony: "What? You got ex problems? Fuhgeddaboutit!"

[Harkoliar]

just be careful & rational .. i dont know much about this stuff but good luck.