08-16-2002, 05:01 PM | #11 |
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I agree with Saz here with a "selfprofilling phrofey"
If you make up your mind about someone at first glance (or later for that matter) you are probably not trying to change that opinion, especially not as you said about your wife "her opinion is set in stone" In short if you *think* you wont get along with that person, then you wont get along with that person because you want your thought/opinion to be true. [ 08-16-2002, 06:43 PM: Message edited by: DiabloRex ]
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08-16-2002, 05:09 PM | #12 |
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Thats a good point. I however, judge on the handshake when i meet someone. I was meeting my freinds ex-boyfriends new girlfriend, and i just about crushed her hand when i shhok it cause it was so limp. I HATE that! To me it means theyre weak. Thats why i always reserve judgement till the hand [img]tongue.gif[/img]
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08-16-2002, 05:23 PM | #13 | |
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I agree with Saz about the self-fulfilling prophecy. Also that it isn't necessarily a gender thing. There are women who are terrible judges of character and men who make snap judgements which may turn out to be true. I think there are things you can tell from a first impression, but I don't make up my mind then and there about what they're like and not be prepared to change my mind [img]smile.gif[/img]
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08-16-2002, 06:46 PM | #14 | |
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It is very annoying to shake a hand where it feels like their is no bones in the hand. Which I think is what Lady Blue meant [img]smile.gif[/img]
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08-16-2002, 07:53 PM | #15 |
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I can usually tell by looking at people if they are nice and if I'm going to be able to get along with them. So its not strictly a woman's thing.
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It is very annoying to shake a hand where it feels like their is no bones in the hand. Which I think is what Lady Blue meant [img]smile.gif[/img] [/QUOTE]I agree. Women are kind of expected to put out a dainty paw but shaking a man's hand should be more of a grasping thing than the dead handed shake that some men offer and when they out out that dainty pawed, only the fingertips kind of shake it makes them look effeminate (sp?) and weak. As far as first impressions go, we all make snap judgements when we meet people for the first time but it is whether or not we stick to them that matters and makes the difference. I am more of the kind of person who will make certain judgements based on what people project through their eyes when they speak and if I feel that they are not someone I would get along with, I try my best to dismiss that idea until they prove themselves one way or the other. Determining whether or not you will be able to get along with someone on a first meeting is a harsh way to make and keep friends. You never really know what people are really like until you give them time to show you in person. [ 08-16-2002, 08:43 PM: Message edited by: Moni ] |
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08-16-2002, 08:38 PM | #17 | |
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I think everyone does it too a point, some people are just more open-minded and they can really give someone a chance and get past their initial prejudices easier than others [ 08-16-2002, 08:46 PM: Message edited by: AzRaeL StoRmBlaDe ]
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08-18-2002, 12:35 PM | #18 |
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I'm very easy to get along with. I don't dislike anyone at first glance (unless they have a swastika tattoo or something like that!!!)
I rarely dislike people, but if I do it is based on things they've said or done, not before that. And I think Azreal is correct in what he says about preconceptions damaging future encounters.
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08-18-2002, 12:52 PM | #19 |
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Couldn't agree more, Epona. But, I think that some people, men included, judge a lot on how much danger a person is going to be to their relationship.
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08-18-2002, 01:53 PM | #20 |
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My wife does the same thing, and she's usually right too!
I can size up a personallity type quickly, as to weither or not we would get along or not. I worked with a guy in Texas, (back in the stone age) that when we meet at work we both knew instantly we would either be friends or enemies,no middle ground what so ever! We choose to be friends.
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