How my daughter broke my heart

[Harkoliar]

same with my little bro.. only 3.. and cries when mom and dad leaves. personally i dont mind it since he wont do that when he grows old.. remember these kinds of memories [img]smile.gif[/img]

[WillowIX]

Originally posted by Epona: If you're with her all day and her dad is at work, it's only natural for her to miss her dad, and it would be worrying if she didn't - don't get upset by it. [img]smile.gif[/img]

Right on Epona. [img]smile.gif[/img] Jackie gets ecstatic every time Stephen comes home from work. She spends much more time with me each day so I´m glad she is that happy to see him. As far as I can tell Josh like me more than Stephen though. [img]graemlins/evillaughter2.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/evillaughter2.gif[/img] LOL

Don´t worry about it and don´t cry about it. I´m not sure your daughter understand the concept of work quite yet. When she does she will not do this anymore. She is not doing this to hurt you. [img]smile.gif[/img]

[Stormymystic]

oh I know she did not mean to make me cry, but she has always been a mama's girl, now all of a sudden she wants her daddy, and he works odd hours, so he bearly has time to kiss them goodnight i tried to explain to her that her daddy was not gone, but at work and he would be home, she kept saying it like he was never coming home, and all i could do was hold her and cry right along with her

[Dreamer128]

Don't worry about it. Although I don't have kids myself, I do used to babysit alot. And some kids cry when their mother leaves, their father leaves, their uncle Bubba leaves and the babysitter leaves...

Its just the age I suppose... [img]smile.gif[/img]

[Reeka]

Well, it is like everyone has said very normal for that age. I will say this though--it upsets children particularly little children to see their parents cry. It could be that seeing you crying prolonged and exacerbated the episode, whereas distracting her would have shortened it. I know it is tough to do when they are upset, but showing that you are upset only upsets them more. Around age 2 chilren begin to realize that they are a seaparate and distint person from their mothers (if they have been around their mother i.e. stay-at-home mom all their life). It is only to be expected that she would want her daddy some and it is a good thing. Next time, I would try to get her interested in an activity that she enjoys---better for both of you. AND lest someone say there is nothing wrong with parents crying in front of their children, I am only giving this advice based on the age of the child----2. The same advice would not hold true for an older child.

[Larry_OHF]

My daughter is the same. Everytime I call, I have to speak to her on the phone, and she is upset to give it up...not hurt, but angry to stop talking to me. She kicks and growls...



[ 05-04-2003, 08:39 PM: Message edited by: Larry_OHF ]

[Desuma Malevois]

Stormymystic, something similar would happen with my daughter Katie and I when she was at that age. Almost from the day she was born I would sing her to sleep at night in my arms and then tuck her in bed. My wife was home with her most of the day and this was just one of the ways that I tried to give her a little R&R away from the baby. Then one day Katie refused to let me sing to her and from then on had to be tucked in by Mommy. I felt a little hurt, as if I was being rejected and was not good enough for her anymore, but I came to realize that it was only a stage she was going through and that she didn't love me any less. I'm sure that your daughter is going through the same stage.

(As an aside, I got bored with the usual lullabies during this period and so I sung/taught her some pretty interesting songs. She could sing all of "Minnie the Moocher" by the time she was 2!) [img]smile.gif[/img]

[ 05-04-2003, 09:25 PM: Message edited by: Desuma Malevois ]

[The Ornery One]

My son sometimes starts crying and saying he misses grandma as soon as she's out the door. He's 7 and my mom picks him up from school every day and he usually spends Friday night at her house, but when he's really tired or starting to get a cold he gets upset easily. I usally stick one of the cats in his face or get them chasing their toys to take his mind off it.

[Kakero]

ever try to bribe her to stop crying using sweets or cake? It may work.

[RevRuby]

sometimes crying witht he child is a good thing. they have to see you express emotions too. otherwise they will start to hide theirs. when i am upset i do not hide it from justi, or lyn. i talk to them about it (yes even the eight month old!) if we want our children to grow up bringing us their problems and not their friends, etc. then we need to be open with them.