08-23-2001, 03:21 PM | #11 | |
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There is personal reason why I would ask the question as to why she will not let me know who she likes. This is why I asked it, not for your sake, or any other, but for me. Sorry I did not include that in the first part. I just did not think anyone would challenge my reasoning for asking this. Thanks for reminding me to update my info., though. ------------------ Devoted member of the Ironworks Loyal guardian of the OHF Member of the Ancients' club Faith beset in The Rocks (they show the way, you know...) [This message has been edited by Larry_OHF (edited 08-23-2001).] |
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08-23-2001, 03:36 PM | #12 |
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You know, before I was married I was a compulsive flirt. I would do so without being aware of it. I had a wide roving eye, and as I appreciated beauty in say a tree or waterfall or bird, how much more the incredible magnetic beauty a woman can radiate. I loved talking with women, their voices, their eyes, their sensativity and openess to emotions and expression. Their smell, the way they moved, dressed, curved (did I say that! ).
Then I met my wife. While I was married I honestly believed I had met and married the most beautiful, most intelligent, most passionate person alive. She could have been a model, had a highly sought after and reputed Aussie degree (came in the top 3% in the states high school finals) she wrote with such fluency and articulation, created visual art of such brightness and positive vitality, she felt love and pain like no-one I'd met. I was smitten, and looked no further. My flirtatious nature died, I guarded even the slightest thought - especially as I was teaching young single women music. I found a midline where I could appreciate another females qualities without being attracted to them or desire more, because I had all I desired. All else was second best at most. Thus Larry, your woman may well be telling the truth. To her there truly may be no others attractive. There is a difference between attraction, and admiring beauty - inner or external. The dream, as some of you know, turned into a nightmare for me. What was so "perfect" turned into a pain-mine, which over time grew to the point of such enveloping blackness that life had to either end or be reinvented. I chose reinvention and after a chaotic maelstrom, began a long healing process which continues to this day. ------------------ I am the walrus!.... er, no hang on.... A fair dinkum laughing Hyena! |
08-23-2001, 03:46 PM | #13 |
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I wouldn't say that your wife is lying, I think maybe you have different viewpoints, different perceptions, or even different definitions. I don't think you need to feel guilty and I don't think you should worry about what she says.
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08-23-2001, 03:48 PM | #14 |
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Reeka, Moni...exactly! That is very probably the case
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08-23-2001, 03:52 PM | #15 | |
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08-23-2001, 03:54 PM | #16 | |
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08-23-2001, 03:57 PM | #17 |
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pats Yorick's back brother, I want to meet you, really. how about I fly to Sydney this Christmas? anyone from Ironworks can come as well
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08-23-2001, 03:59 PM | #18 | |
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If she is being coy or remote with you when she never has done so before regarding openness or if you are picking up other things from her that something may be wrong, then yes, I would say that there would be a cause for concern. However, in the absence of the above symptoms, I still wouldn't worry about it. Based on your posts, Larry, you sound like a terrific husband. It sounds as if you're going through a bit of stress right now (both of you) and need to relax your attention on the day-to-day problems and concentrate on each other and what both of you need. I have a feeling that you are doing this; based on what you've said here, I don't know if she is or not. Keep trying, though. The important thing between you guys right now is communication. I was going to say a little more, but my wife just called me at work and her car battery is dead...I have to run. Don't sweat it too badly, Larry...just keep working with her. I wish you all the best, buddy. Cheers, ------------------ |
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08-23-2001, 04:01 PM | #19 |
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i dont know man, i guess there is no point keep guessing
it might hurt your relationship, let time unveil or cure everything |
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