Cloudy's Cafe, a conversation zone, November 20, 2003

[RevRuby]

Originally posted by johnny: That's because men are tough. And you're not. [img]tongue.gif[/img]

i would argue that it is because men never think it can get worse. i forced nathan to the er when he was having a hard time coming off meds they gave him for getting his wisdom teeth out. of course he forces me to go to the dr when i am not well, but that is because we can't afford our $15 co-pay with our new ins and i don;t want naymore medical bills!


ohmy....my week has been lovely! last monday was the last time nathan and i got to be home together in the evening, well sorta we were on saturday, but it doesn't count, he was on the computer all night after we watched two movies. i know he is working a second job to help us, but i didn;t realise how hard it would be on me. with erilyn sick i am so stressed out. last night after about 1130 she refused to sleep. well ok she napped til about 1230 after her fit at 1130. but after that i don't think she stayed asleep untila bout 330. and then i couldn't sleep! but i couldn't sleep becaue she was sleeping (fitfully) on my body pillow until i had to pee at 530 (gotta love pregnancy) then she got up and followed me crying all the way. i tried to lay her down in her own crib again, but she just screamed and screamed and screamed. so i took her back to bed with us, but all she wanted was to scream with her face on mine! i mean that, she wanted my chin in her screaming mouth. i was so stressed and upset at this point as i hand't gotten more than a few minutes sleep in a row and i couldn't imagine waking up and staying out of bed quite that early. so nathan took her and decided if she was going to scream while mommy tried to comfort her then she could go scream in her own room. eventually she calmed down (like 1/2 hour or so) and i got to sleep....til about 730 when nathan woke both me and her up with his shower. luckily i was able to let her be til after he left.

sorry that is so long i am just so tired and cranky and now i get to take her to the dr all by myself, when all i want is to sleep, i just wanna sleep! but i won't be able to cause my hips can only take so much laying down so even whens he takes a nap i might get to be up.

oh yeh cloudy that is a lovely dress you have. nacht is indeed lucky.

[Cloudbringer]

Revruby, *hug* I know it's got to be really hard dealing with all that and having your husband working the second job, especially with the children and you expecting another. I don't know how you do it!

I know how hard it was for me when Nacht was doing the extra job at night- I just couldn't handle the complete lack of together time and he was always tired, poor guy. He's not doing the nights now and I'm really glad. I know we could use the money but sometimes it's just not worth it.

Don't overdo it, RR, you've got yourself and the new addition to take care of besides the rest of your family! Is there anyone who can give you a hand? A family member or neighbor/friend? Sounds like you could use a little time to rest. One of my friends actually hired a babysitter for the afternoon so she could go take a nap, while she was pregnant with her 2nd child!

[Bungleau]

Very nice looking dress, Cloudy! May the day be a joy, and may you make it to the day without causing any close relatives to disappear mysteriously...

*edited to be less graphic about what should happen with certain close relatives during wedding planning...*

[ 11-24-2003, 09:32 AM: Message edited by: Bungleau ]

[Firestormalpha]

Originally posted by Intrepid: quote: I'm not talking about that girl I wasn't sure about. I'm talking about a girl who was blatantly, obviously, undeniably attracted to me. She unfortunately decided against pursuing a serious relationship with me under the fear that it may get a little too "hot and heavy". I personally think I have more will power than that, but I've found it's better not to push such issues. P.S. if we're gonna keep following this conversation, lets take it to the Cafe lest they accuse us of hijacking the threads original topic.

so if she likes you, and you like her, follow it up, seems simple enough to me. [/QUOTE]I'm going to work from the assumption that you missed the 3rd sentence, so if I'm wrong please excuse my mistake.

Anyways she said that she didn't want to pursue because she was afraid we'd end up having pre-marital sex. I'm a virgin and she isn't, and she doesn't want to mess that up. I respect her decision. Right now we're cool with each other, but just friends.

[RevRuby]

Originally posted by Cloudbringer: Don't overdo it, RR, you've got yourself and the new addition to take care of besides the rest of your family! Is there anyone who can give you a hand? A family member or neighbor/friend? Sounds like you could use a little time to rest. One of my friends actually hired a babysitter for the afternoon so she could go take a nap, while she was pregnant with her 2nd child!

that sounds like a good idea! i wish i could go ahead and do that. unfortunately if i stay int he house and shut any door (even if i'm not behind it) as long as erilyn thinks i've exscaped she comes running and crying. nathan knows all about it cause he sometimes watches her so i can take a bath (it doesn't last long, i get so sad hearing her cry)

i'm glad your hunny isn't working nights anymore. it is hard, and it's only been a week! and of course after last night i feel like i'm gonna pass out any moment. well if i give lyn a bath she may want to pass out too.....it's worth a shot!

[RevRuby]

Originally posted by Firestormalpha: Anyways she said that she didn't want to pursue because she was afraid we'd end up having pre-marital sex. I'm a virgin and she isn't, and she doesn't want to mess that up. I respect her decision. Right now we're cool with each other, but just friends.

i hate to say this, it may be a downer.....but i didn't date virgin guys after i lost my virginity cause i was just not....into it. i dunno, some women love it cause they can "train" a guy, but it was just not for me, i guess i am simply not dominating. she may be the same way. i guess the only way you could reassure her is to tell her you have no intention of losing yours anytime soon (as long as that's the truth) and that as much as you like her and find her attractive you feel the mutual respect would hold up really well in a relationship.

sorry if this is tmi, but nathan thinks i would not have fallen for him without intimate relations, but i beleive that if he had been still holding out i would have respected him and come to love him for his strength. anyway....i hope he doesn't read that, i don;t think he likes it when i talk too much about that stuff....especially on a forum where ppl know him.

EDIT: the guy who wanted to give me his *V* was too obsessive, and i had no attraction to his over eagerness to give me that which he should have been offering his girlfriend. that is where i got my ?phobia? of dating one.

[ 11-24-2003, 09:52 AM: Message edited by: RevRuby ]

[Cloudbringer]

Thank you for the good wishes, Bungleau! [img]smile.gif[/img] I'm getting excited AND nervous..is that a good thing? LOL

FSA, I think if you've made the decision not to sleep with anyone, then good for you and stick to those convictions. [img]smile.gif[/img] It's really a shame the girl won't give things a chance because she's worried about it. It's quite possible to date and NOT have sex, many people do it. But again, if she's overly concerned about it, it might make things awkward for you both.

[Dragonshadow]

Hello all.
I had a stupid skin test for a stupid jab today, the one where you have six needles rammed in your arm, felt just like being stapled.

[Stormymystic]

Originally posted by RevRuby: quote: Originally posted by Cloudbringer: Don't overdo it, RR, you've got yourself and the new addition to take care of besides the rest of your family! Is there anyone who can give you a hand? A family member or neighbor/friend? Sounds like you could use a little time to rest. One of my friends actually hired a babysitter for the afternoon so she could go take a nap, while she was pregnant with her 2nd child!

that sounds like a good idea! i wish i could go ahead and do that. unfortunately if i stay int he house and shut any door (even if i'm not behind it) as long as erilyn thinks i've exscaped she comes running and crying. nathan knows all about it cause he sometimes watches her so i can take a bath (it doesn't last long, i get so sad hearing her cry)

i'm glad your hunny isn't working nights anymore. it is hard, and it's only been a week! and of course after last night i feel like i'm gonna pass out any moment. well if i give lyn a bath she may want to pass out too.....it's worth a shot! [/QUOTE]I know exactly how you feel, and suggest if possible, have a family member take her out for a few hours, my brother and dad used to do that when I was on bed rest with Destiny, they knew how hard it was for me to cope with a disabled child, as well as another infant, while trying to keep from losing the pregnacy, as much as I complain about my family, if it was not for them, I would have gone nuts trying to take care of the kids, so if you can get some close friend or family to take your daughter out to the park, mall, ar some place she can run off her energy, when she is not sick, it will help alot, as for the sickness, is she still having the ear ache? if so, there is a little help on that, they gave my son some medicine that numbed the ear, to stop the pain, also, try a heating pad, on low settings, on her ear, it does help, I used to use them all the time when Caleb got an infection, it also helps with a cold, just have her lie on her back, and put the pad on her chest, and rub her chest

[ 11-24-2003, 12:23 PM: Message edited by: Stormymystic ]

[dplax]

When I was younger I got ear infections several times, and I remember that those heating pads did help. I'm not sure wether they do help the infection going away faster, but they sure made me feel better.