Five Stages of Love (an article ) - Page 2

Cloudbringer · 05-12-2002, 04:04 PM

Hi Talthy! I've ocasionally been perusing women's magazines and online magazines in my spare moments, found that one in a 'romance' site, I believe. I'd sent it to my boyfriend, so had a copy of it handy.

We think we're sort of combining several stages at the moment..it's a bit more complicated doing most things online and long distance after my visit in November, but I think the emotional attraction is alot stronger for it. And in less than 2 mos we will be living in the same zip code! LOL

I agree with you on the 'romance' aspect too! I think it's valuable all through a relationship no matter how long it's been going on, a month or 10 yrs. [img]smile.gif[/img]

[ 05-12-2002, 04:05 PM: Message edited by: Cloudbringer ]

RudeDawg · 05-12-2002, 04:06 PM

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Originally posted by Cloudbringer:
{snip}
Rudy, thanks! I found this one very interesting and very useful! I have a few more, maybe I can post them if anyone is interested. I think one of them is on 'relationship survival tips' and the other is a short list of things to help a marriage survive. And thanks again. I'm pretty happy! Nacht is coming this way in less than two months.. sigh..swoon.. oops.. I have a million things to do before that!

Please post them. I think it'll be a good ref.

Cloudbringer · 05-12-2002, 05:04 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Avatar:

BIG THUMBS UP! Thanks Cloudster! [img]smile.gif[/img] *hugs*
That really helped! [img]graemlins/agree.gif[/img]
If u came along earlier I wouldn't have to listen to Azzy and Caleb! [img]tongue.gif[/img]

You're welcome, Avvy!

OK, RD, let me hunt through my files

Cloudbringer · 05-12-2002, 05:16 PM

Here's one:

Healthy Relationships - What Do They Look Like?
By Nancy Wesson, Ph.D.

15 Traits of a healthy relationship

1)Partners can manage conflict and differences without despair or threats

2)Both partners protect and nourish the relationship and make it a
priority (not addicted to work for example)

3)Both partners know how to be responsible for own needs and also for the care of the relationship

4)Both partners feel 'special' to the other. Arguments or fights do not lead to abuse or threatened break-ups

5)Both partners can communicate wants, needs, feelings, and emotional
issues with little or no shame. There is unconditional love if not unconditional agreement. The relationship feels and is nuturing, comfortable, and fun.

6)Both partners attend to the needs of each other willingly and lovingly.

7)The sexual relationship works well and is mutually satisfying.

8)Both partners can and do keep agreements (maturity)

9)Both partners are honest

10)There is no abuse: physical, verbal, emotional (ignoring)

11)Both partners have boundaries:
Each person can say 'no' to requests from partner when necessary without feeling guilty and tell their partner when something feels not right or hurts them.

12)People pleasing is kept to a minimum and neither one feels they are making a 'great sacrifice' to stay in the relationship.

13)Each person is able to do their work, attend to their children, care for other aspects of their life without threatening the relationship.

14)Partners can hear feedback from each other that they may be projecting old relationship fears onto the current one.

15)There is commitment: exits are blocked

caleb · 05-12-2002, 05:19 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by RudeDawg:
GOOD article, Cloudy.
I'm printing it up to take to the office. Some of our younger folks are arguing that Love is outdated and is easily replaced with friendship and sex. THIS ill help. THANKS ! [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img]
and congrats to you and yours...

You mean its not? [img]graemlins/saywhat.gif[/img]

Neb · 05-12-2002, 05:32 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by caleb:

quote:
Originally posted by RudeDawg:
GOOD article, Cloudy.
I'm printing it up to take to the office. Some of our younger folks are arguing that Love is outdated and is easily replaced with friendship and sex. THIS ill help. THANKS ! [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img]
and congrats to you and yours...

You mean its not? [img]graemlins/saywhat.gif[/img] [/QUOTE]Caleb, you're tempting me to hurt you [img]tongue.gif[/img] Badly. With a lead pipe.

Cloudbringer · 05-12-2002, 05:50 PM

Just a reminder that this thread BEGAN after another was taken over by off topic posts. Let's NOT do that here. Thanks.

/)eathKiller · 05-12-2002, 08:31 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by rthemis:
Can we dissect love? I don't think so.

>^_^<

But... but... she just... did... oh never mind...

05-12-2002, 04:04 PM	#11
Cloudbringer Ironworks Moderator Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: Upstate NY USA Posts: 19,737	Hi Talthy! I've ocasionally been perusing women's magazines and online magazines in my spare moments, found that one in a 'romance' site, I believe. I'd sent it to my boyfriend, so had a copy of it handy. We think we're sort of combining several stages at the moment..it's a bit more complicated doing most things online and long distance after my visit in November, but I think the emotional attraction is alot stronger for it. And in less than 2 mos we will be living in the same zip code! LOL I agree with you on the 'romance' aspect too! I think it's valuable all through a relationship no matter how long it's been going on, a month or 10 yrs. [img]smile.gif[/img] [ 05-12-2002, 04:05 PM: Message edited by: Cloudbringer ] __________________ "Don't take life for granted." Animal (may he rest in peace)

05-12-2002, 05:16 PM	#14
Cloudbringer Ironworks Moderator Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: Upstate NY USA Posts: 19,737	Here's one: Healthy Relationships - What Do They Look Like? By Nancy Wesson, Ph.D. 15 Traits of a healthy relationship 1)Partners can manage conflict and differences without despair or threats 2)Both partners protect and nourish the relationship and make it a priority (not addicted to work for example) 3)Both partners know how to be responsible for own needs and also for the care of the relationship 4)Both partners feel 'special' to the other. Arguments or fights do not lead to abuse or threatened break-ups 5)Both partners can communicate wants, needs, feelings, and emotional issues with little or no shame. There is unconditional love if not unconditional agreement. The relationship feels and is nuturing, comfortable, and fun. 6)Both partners attend to the needs of each other willingly and lovingly. 7)The sexual relationship works well and is mutually satisfying. 8)Both partners can and do keep agreements (maturity) 9)Both partners are honest 10)There is no abuse: physical, verbal, emotional (ignoring) 11)Both partners have boundaries: Each person can say 'no' to requests from partner when necessary without feeling guilty and tell their partner when something feels not right or hurts them. 12)People pleasing is kept to a minimum and neither one feels they are making a 'great sacrifice' to stay in the relationship. 13)Each person is able to do their work, attend to their children, care for other aspects of their life without threatening the relationship. 14)Partners can hear feedback from each other that they may be projecting old relationship fears onto the current one. 15)There is commitment: exits are blocked __________________ "Don't take life for granted." Animal (may he rest in peace)

05-12-2002, 05:50 PM	#17
Cloudbringer Ironworks Moderator Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: Upstate NY USA Posts: 19,737	Just a reminder that this thread BEGAN after another was taken over by off topic posts. Let's NOT do that here. Thanks. __________________ "Don't take life for granted." Animal (may he rest in peace)

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