Am i playing the game to quick?? and gripes

Ok i seem to be missing parts of the game because certain parts of it have not moved along, namely the love thing.Well i have missed the kiss of death ( what day should i have attack bodhi?i attack day 50. The love thing has not been mentioned since i slept with the drow!) and i have been told jaheria disappears for the 2nd time for a trial ( she has not done this and as i can not kill Kingaxx im heading back to the Elfs with the lantern thing, or i might go and have ago at Firkraag the dragon again). Also i hope i get her back because that would mean i would need to train another character!!!( where do i get the exp points for that? only got the 3 areas that appear when u leave the underdark, plus kingaxxx, firkraag to kill and their not going to be any use for those!( hmmm could try jan again i suppose if i dont )

Whats with the exp cap? the only 1 s getting anything now is IMOEN, none of them has gained since the underdark seems abit pointless, ???

thanks

[Gabriel]

The kiss of death, is when Bhodi takes the love interet right, because you sleeped with the drow, Phare(?) it has ended the relationship.
if you need experince there is more then enough of it coming up. in the elven city.
You said Jaheria hasn't left then why do you need to train another character.
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When she leaves to be judged i think you got to go pick her up from the harper hall, else she won't come back.