Please don't laugh at me or nothing, cause this is very serious to me. There's this girl in my school she's good looking, and very nice, likes instruments and stuff, and I was wondering if someone could give me a few pointers on how to get her to go out with me, and be my g/f. I would appreciate it very much if you guys would offer me your advice. But trust me, I've tried getting up to her and asking before, but since her opinion counts so much to me, I choke when I go to ask her the question. What do I need to do, to help my self, some pointers to help me ask her, I just need to know what she wants to hear, so I don't make an idiot of myself. [img]graemlins/dropatear.gif[/img] Thanks

do you have a mutual friend that can introduce you? that's an easier option

Thing to remember is that girls are human, boys are human. apart from the obvious, there's no real difference. So stop being afraid of them

"He who dares wins" (SAS motto) ;)

May i also add strike up conversation with her. Small talk, y'know. I like it when a guy comes up to me and chats away freely instead of either just staring at me or going "Errrrr" a lot. try it, y'never know [img]smile.gif[/img]

<font color="00cc99">Well I'm no lady but maybe I can help. I've NEVER asked a girl out, they always ask me. The only advice I can give you is:

1) Talk to her and get to know her

2) Be Nice

3) Be Charming [img]graemlins/showoff.gif[/img]

4) Be Friendly

5) And agree to everything she says [img]tongue.gif[/img]
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A girl that is worth getting is a girl that appreciates a good sense of humor.

GOOD is still debatable, though. :D

Sound advice for all stages of life if ya ask me :D

Well, Black Dragon, I don't know you or the girl but in most situations it's easiest to start talking without any pressure. In other words, like Lord Shield suggested, have someone introduce you or maybe a group of you could go someplace, like for pizza or something. Not a 'date' but a group of friends. It would mean you'd be able to talk withouth feeling so much pressure to get her to agree to be your g/f and just maybe you'll hit it off and see how receptive she'd be to that question. ;)

slightly offtopic. *grin* I'll have to remember that Kat when I talk with ya. *grins and ducks any blows or anything headed in his direction*

AzRaeL's guide to getting that first date. LMAO [img]tongue.gif[/img]

well you know tell her what you just told us. "you know I've always noticed you in class. You just look amazing today so I had to come over here and say something." depending one the response you get you can work from there into mundane banter, or more flatering stuff about what a great personality you think she has, or you can ask her questions about your common interest, or what she likes to do. The most important thing after the main intro is just to keep her talking. It helps you decide whether or not you realy want to give it a try, and it gives her time to decide that too. After a while just casually ask her what she is doing that evening, or weekend or whenever you want to go out with her. Don't ask as a date or anything, just ask casually and give the vibe like you are just seeing whats happening in town that weekend. If she says yeah im doing this or that or whatever. be cool about it, and tell her what you are doing or whatever, and then talk to her a little bit more and leave. eventually one time she will say nothing, and that is your opportunity to suggest that you two get together and do something that you both enjoy, maybe go to the movies or something. If you are too scared to ask outright you can just suggest that you both get some friends together and go. either way its a good way to get in good with that special lady. eventually you can turn hanging out together with friends to just hanging out together. any relationship takes time especially if you want to make it work. otherwise you can just use a cheesy pickup line.
Ok thats the best i can do. it usually works well for me. remember it's all attitude.

Well, we don't exactly not know each other, I know her, i talk to her everyonce and a while, but, I having trouble asking her out, its so hard to let it out!! She's one of my friends, but I also run into this other problem with her, that one of her friends has an obsetion over me... She isn't so obsesive no more, but i know she still likes me, but I don't like her, she gets on my nerves, I really like her friend though, which is my friends too. So, will that cause any problems?

you may not want to say anything about her looks when telling her why you like her. some girls like to hear that, others are tired of their physical features being the only reason guyys like them. instead compliment something she said in class, if you have a class with her, or make a simple comment about her hair, maybe she wore it differently, don;t say it looks better, just say that you notcied it's different, this let's her know you pay attention. good luck!

I found this out in a bad encounter last time : do not make loud, rude comments about bodily functions in the same class as said female. No good. :(

Talk to her, and, to repeat Deathbringer, agree to EVERYTHING she says! ;) :D

EDIT: *Realising he is not really a 'lady,' True_Moose quickly shuffles out of thread, hoping no one saw him.*

[ 10-26-2002, 01:19 PM: Message edited by: True_Moose ]

Don't worry, Moosey dude, there only seem to be myself, cloudy and...that's it...who are actually women [img]tongue.gif[/img]

Don't worry, Moosey dude, there only seem to be myself, cloudy and...that's it...who are actually women [img]tongue.gif[/img] </font>[/QUOTE]Maybe it's like that freaky scene in Eyes Wide Shut, where everyone's wearing masks, except at the end Tom Cruise, 'cuz no one wants to be recognized. Whoa! [img]smile.gif[/img] :D

EDIT: I thought revruby was too there. And I don't know about Lord Shield, cuz I've only ever seen 1 part of his body. :D

[ 10-26-2002, 01:42 PM: Message edited by: True_Moose ]

also remember that anything she says no matter how mundane, is the most interesting thing you have ever heard. and definitely agree with everything she says especially when she is wrong.

*Takes notes* [img]tongue.gif[/img] Doni tell me how everything goes alright? Good luck man! [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img] Geez your younger friends grow up so fast already asking about women... *sniff* :D

Moosey, which part of LS' body was this? :eek:

;)

Only go and ask here! Will you be my girlfriend? Thats all they dont eat your head of anyway! [img]tongue.gif[/img]
I did that with my girlfriend and she say yes so thats it! :D
So go stright on the case and do it no problems at all!!

[ 10-26-2002, 10:50 PM: Message edited by: Megabot ]

If you can't go straight to her and ask her out ask a trustworthy friend to do it for you.

Hff,Pff.

Thats not entirly true all the time. Maybe a better chance of winning, certaintly a better chance of he who doesnt try but its not a gaurante.

Possibly the best response you could give :D

being a lady myself (Ladyzekke), I suggest you get drunk first. very very very drunk.

there is a difference between foolhardy and bravery, but either gets the job done.

[ 10-27-2002, 04:59 AM: Message edited by: 250 ]

Everybody here's posted good advice, just remember that if she's interested too, she'll try to make it easy for you. Try to think up some excuse to talk to her, and listen attentively when she speaks. If she's interested it'll be obvious before long - just try not to be nervous, fear is your only enemy. Most girls will be polite and give you an out even if they aren't interested.