Oh my god...

[Bungleau]

LB,

I'm sorry to hear that. I know it's rough, but at least you've had a while. My parents divorced when I was three, so I really didn't have the opportunity for much reaction about it -- three-year-olds aren't overly deep, emotionally speaking.

I've got more to add, but I'm getting ready to head out of town in a bit. Bottom line for you: it's all him, and him and your mom. Any issues that may exist are between the two of them. You have your own relationship with your dad, so you may have your own issues, but be sure to keep them separate from your parents' issues.

*hug* from afar. It ain't easy, but it will be lived through.

[Link]

Ah man! LB that's just awful! I feel sorry for you!

*hugs LadyBlue and gives her a brownie*

Just holler if you need me right [img]smile.gif[/img]

[Stormymystic]

I do not know how to respond I am so sorry, he is being a selfish bastard I really hope things work out for you guys, and as everyone else, if you need someone to talk to, I am here.

[Gangrell]

LB, I don't know what to say what hasn't been said. My parents had similar troubles, but I was too young to remember it. I'm just really sorry something like this happened to you, no one should have to go through this.

Good luck to you.

[Attalus]

Originally posted by Lady Blue03: I think the only reason he emailed this was because we haven't heard from him since he left on his trip a few days ago, so my mom sent him an email asking him why he hasn't called, and that was his response. He said he'd call later. I just heard my mom tell a friend of ours "my daughter is devastated". And I really am...my dad was like the biggest role model in my life before my brother, and then he does something like this...

E-mail is such a trivial way to make such a momentous announcement. It is sheer cowardice. I suspect this other woman had a lot to do with that.

[/)eathKiller]

From my point of view as a psychologist: Its a mid-life crisis thing. Most men go completley out of controll and alter their lives, sometimes leaving their loved ones behind. Eventually he'll come to his senses, then again he might not. The best thing you can do now is try to confide all of your feelings to someone and try to get your mother to do so as well. Expressing yourself is the only way to release your pain, holding it inside will just lead to further emotional devistation over time. Life will go on. Remind yourself of that every day.

[Harkoliar]

i hope what you say is true DK. Good luck LB, you have a IW to support ya in case you need anything .

[Jorath Calar]

Sorry to hear that LB. I think it's very low of him, especially the email part.

i hope you pull through.

[Lady Blue03]

Thanks again guys. I went out with my mom, who right now is more angry than anything else. She told me "You be careful who you marry and don't let any man dictate your life!" Nothing I didn't already know...she also told me she's not going to let him get away with calling, if he wants to talk he can do it when he comes home on Thursday. I won't be here...spending the weekend before school starts with my best friends up in the mountains. Now I'm reallyglad I'm going, I couldn't stand to see him or talk to him.

Dk, you are right, except for the past 10 years he pulls something like this. Nothing like this of course...my mom believes it has something to do with his birthday and my birthday and my bros all within a month of eachother. He just turned 50 on July 30th.

I know it's not my fault. It's not like my parents have been arguing at all, which is why this came as such a shock. I just feel let down...

As for this woman of his, I'd like to ask her how she feels about ruining my family. Then I'd like to slap her. A lot. [img]tongue.gif[/img] With any luck, I'll never have to meet her

[Lavindathar]

Sorry to hear about this Jen.

I cant recall how old you are, but I'll give you my two cents from a 19 year old lad who this happened to about 8 months ago, except, my Mum decided she didnt want to be with my Dad anymore, and she met a new fella. They had been together for 20 years.

Do not blame your Dad. Also, do not blame your mum.

In my case, my mum wanted my Dad to leave, although he had never done anything wrong, her love for him had died.

My Dad, as is yours, then left. He moved to Thailand, away from me and my bro (Beaumanoir on IW), so me and Binky now do not see him. I met him in Malaysia around 4 months ago, and that was only for a night. Binky hasnt seen him since January.

I'd like to talk to you about this on MSN, cos I know you can get through it...my latest MSN addy is Lavindathar@realityproject.com.

Please Jen, although it feels your world is crashing down around you, all is not as bad as it seems. I'm now happy for my mum with her new fella, and my Dad has a new gf in Thailand.

I did resent my mum at first, and we didnt speak, but what I came to learn, which is probably the case with you, is that you will not hear the full story until later on.

Your dad may have reasons that you do not know yet, I very much doubt it will be as simple as 'im leaving'. There were a few things in my parents split up I didnt find out at the time, only later.

My Dad, as is your mum, was gutted. He left the country his kids and brothers were in, cos he didnt want to be here any more. But now, he says he doesnt regret the relationship cos of me and Tom, but is happier than ever. My mum, says the same.

So, please keep your head up, and get in touch.

Brad

[ 08-15-2004, 06:22 PM: Message edited by: Lavindathar ]