Should you smack your children?

Avatar · 05-16-2002, 10:15 AM

Oh I sense this is a difficult one. Have I been smacked? Yes, plenty of times. What did it teach? Well as I child I was scared out of lil mind [img]graemlins/hidesbehindsofa.gif[/img] not to do bad things again. [img]tongue.gif[/img] So in that respect it worked.. but is it right to smack children and if so in what circumstances? [img]graemlins/whip.gif[/img]
LOL I don't have any children of my own but I wanted to see what the folks of Ironworks think about this issue.

[ 05-16-2002, 10:16 AM: Message edited by: Avatar ]

The.Relic · 05-16-2002, 10:20 AM

Absolutely NOT!

Neb · 05-16-2002, 10:21 AM

I'd never smack my children, I got a few smacks as a child myself and the only effect it had on me was to make me dislike my father even more.

AzureWolf · 05-16-2002, 10:22 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by The.Relic:
Absolutely NOT!

What he said!

andrewas · 05-16-2002, 10:24 AM

For dicipline, in extreme cases, maybe. For lesser cases, forget it.

Melusine · 05-16-2002, 10:30 AM

nope. There are better ways to teach/punish children. I believe you should not hit them at all.

Sazerac · 05-16-2002, 10:39 AM

Agreed fully with andrewas. As a last resort, and only when nothing else has worked. There are more effective ways of behavior modification other than corporal punishment (and I'm not talking about the touchy-feely psychological mumbo-jumbo either, I mean things like time out, grounding, removal of privileges, etc.) Only when all else has failed should corporal punishment be used, and not in anger...people forget in the heat of anger how much larger and stronger they are compared to a child.

-Sazerac

Grojlach · 05-16-2002, 10:41 AM

*smacks Avatar*
Of course not, violence doesn't solve anything.

*smacks Avatar again*

WOLFGIR · 05-16-2002, 10:44 AM

Don´t hit the smaller ones, ever!

Better ways to deal with it. I might grab and shake but not violent if I need to stress point, but as Saz said, never ever in anger!

What do kids learn about a smack or even more violent lessons?
Thats that how to raise a kid when they have one?
Do they learn respect?
No that breed fear.

Never hit or smack children!

Melusine · 05-16-2002, 10:46 AM

Very good posts, Saz and Wolfie, I absolutely agree! [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img]

Groj... *smack* Go to your room! [img]tongue.gif[/img]

05-16-2002, 10:15 AM	#1
Avatar Vampire Join Date: April 28, 2001 Location: Cambridge Age: 40 Posts: 3,877	Oh I sense this is a difficult one. Have I been smacked? Yes, plenty of times. What did it teach? Well as I child I was scared out of lil mind [img]graemlins/hidesbehindsofa.gif[/img] not to do bad things again. [img]tongue.gif[/img] So in that respect it worked.. but is it right to smack children and if so in what circumstances? [img]graemlins/whip.gif[/img] LOL I don't have any children of my own but I wanted to see what the folks of Ironworks think about this issue. [ 05-16-2002, 10:16 AM: Message edited by: Avatar ] __________________ <b>Ê†ë®Ñï†Ý \'s Avariel<br /></b><br />Creator and Mithril Protector of the ALSB Clan <br /> [img]\"http://www.wizardrealm.com/images/avatar.gif\" alt=\" - \" />

05-16-2002, 10:24 AM	#5
andrewas Harper Join Date: October 2, 2001 Location: Aberdeen, Scotland Age: 42 Posts: 4,774	For dicipline, in extreme cases, maybe. For lesser cases, forget it. __________________ [img]\"http://www.sighost.us/members/Zvijer/andrewas.gif\" alt=\" - \" />

05-16-2002, 10:30 AM	#6
Melusine Dracolisk Join Date: January 8, 2001 Location: Amsterdam, The Netherlands Age: 43 Posts: 6,541	nope. There are better ways to teach/punish children. I believe you should not hit them at all. __________________ [img]\"hosted/melusine.jpg\" alt=\" - \" /><br />Your voice is ambrosia

05-16-2002, 10:39 AM	#7
Sazerac Ironworks Moderator Join Date: January 7, 2001 Location: Monroe, LA Age: 60 Posts: 7,387	Agreed fully with andrewas. As a last resort, and only when nothing else has worked. There are more effective ways of behavior modification other than corporal punishment (and I'm not talking about the touchy-feely psychological mumbo-jumbo either, I mean things like time out, grounding, removal of privileges, etc.) Only when all else has failed should corporal punishment be used, and not in anger...people forget in the heat of anger how much larger and stronger they are compared to a child. -Sazerac __________________ "And all my days are trances, and all my nightly dreams, Are where thy grey eye glances, and where thy footstep gleams, In what ethereal dances, by what eternal streams..."

05-16-2002, 10:41 AM	#8
Grojlach Zartan Join Date: May 2, 2001 Location: Ulpia Noviomagus Batavorum Age: 43 Posts: 5,281	smacks Avatar Of course not, violence doesn't solve anything. smacks Avatar again __________________ [url]\"http://www.audioscrobbler.com/user/Grobbel/\" target=\"_blank\"> [img]\"http://www.denness.net/rpi/username/Grobbel\" alt=\" - \" /></a>

05-16-2002, 10:20 AM	#2
The.Relic Red Dragon Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: Long Beach, CA. USA Age: 67 Posts: 1,589	Absolutely NOT!

05-16-2002, 10:21 AM	#3
Neb Account deleted by Request Join Date: May 17, 2001 Location: . Age: 38 Posts: 8,802	I'd never smack my children, I got a few smacks as a child myself and the only effect it had on me was to make me dislike my father even more.

05-16-2002, 10:44 AM	#9
WOLFGIR Bastet - Egyptian Cat Goddess Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: Sweden Age: 50 Posts: 3,450	Don´t hit the smaller ones, ever! Better ways to deal with it. I might grab and shake but not violent if I need to stress point, but as Saz said, never ever in anger! What do kids learn about a smack or even more violent lessons? Thats that how to raise a kid when they have one? Do they learn respect? No that breed fear. Never hit or smack children! __________________ Don´t eat the yellow snow

05-16-2002, 10:46 AM	#10
Melusine Dracolisk Join Date: January 8, 2001 Location: Amsterdam, The Netherlands Age: 43 Posts: 6,541	Very good posts, Saz and Wolfie, I absolutely agree! [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img] Groj... smack Go to your room! [img]tongue.gif[/img] __________________ [img]\"hosted/melusine.jpg\" alt=\" - \" /><br />Your voice is ambrosia

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