Alcohol and drugs almost ruined my life

Evil Al · 02-19-2002, 04:02 PM

I'm sorry if this sounds like it should be in a teen magazine or something but I don't want anyone to make the same mistake I did.
This is the first time I have been sober since Friday afternoon.
I'm 16 and I have an alcohol and drug problem.
I started drinking and smoking weed like most teenagers who start at school friends parties. Then it got worse and I found myself getting drunk and high on the streets with a couple of "friends".
I lost most of the real friends I had because of these problems. So I got depressed and was taking basically everything and anything that would give me a high. And I started stealing money off my parents.
At one of these parties I ended up sleeping with a girl and making her pregnant. So that ment I had to pay for her for her to have an abortion.
After this my Dad put me in rehab and I thought I got over both those problems, but seen as I have few good friends I slipped back into drinking. While I was drunk I went down to a local youth club and said to one of my female friends "I can force myself apon you any time I want and you can't do a single thing about it". Lucky for me I suppose her boy friend knocked me out. Now I’ve just got out of hospital and have come to realise that I have thrown everything that was good in my life away. I through away school, my friends, the respect of my parents and I am now unemployable.
Please don't make the same mistake I did. Don't take this like I'm looking for pity cause i don't deserve it. I have nothing left... apart from drink.... No I have nothing.

Blade · 02-19-2002, 04:10 PM

They say the hardest part is addmitting that you have a problem, if you need to talk there is many of us here that can help you and just take it one day at a time and apologize to your friend they will most likely forgive you and help you too. O and BTW hello [img]graemlins/happywave.gif[/img]

MILAMBER · 02-19-2002, 04:20 PM

Seriously bro, I don't care how much you mess up, you can always fix things. I don't know how things work in England, but here in the U.S, when you turn 18 your juvenile record is pretty unimportant. Obviously your parents still care about you to stick with you on this and get you into rehab. I know it's hard to do, but you really need to ditch your friends. Find some friends that won't keep pulling you into those situations. Good luck!

Jorath Calar · 02-19-2002, 04:23 PM

I'm sorry to hear that, I kinda know how you feel.
I almost had the same problem at a certain time in my life...about 7 years ago. I was drunk most of the summer dropped out of school and I threw away eeverything good in my life and when I realised it I almost commited a suicide but the thought of my little brother who was 3 at the time kept me from doing it. I sought help and went back to school a graduated and apologised to all the people who I had treated badly. I didn't ask for their forgivness just made them know I was sorry.

If I were you I'd try to get into school and go on with your life, thats what I did, and while my life is not exactly a bed of roses then at least I'm alive. Like Blade said one day at a time.

I hope you'll be okey.

Talthyr Malkaviel · 02-19-2002, 04:28 PM

Well, if you ever need any help, like Blade said, there's us here, and I'm sure you can get through these times, try not to worry about what you haven't got, but what you can make out of the situation.
(Even though I know it probably sounds corny, and easier said than done.)

Redblueflare · 02-19-2002, 05:13 PM

Oh man sorry to hear about that. I am glad to hear that you've accepted your mistake and are moving on. Maybe you should try to talk to some of your old friends. When they see you're sincere they should forgive you. Hopefully... Oh and Hello! [img]graemlins/wavey.gif[/img]

Campino · 02-19-2002, 05:32 PM

Sorry to hear that.What can i say?I'll try to give you some
advice,hope it helps.You've already admitted to yourself you've got a serious problem.That's a start.Obviously you have trouble solving them alone,so it might be a good idea to get some professional help.
Try to get a steady rhythm,make sure you eat at regular times,make sure you sleep enough,and pick up school,or maybe get a job(is it possible in the UK to work at 16?).

The respect you lost will be VERY hard to get back,but show to the people you care about you try.It will be a long way back,but the sooner you start,the faster you'll be back.Talk alot,it will make it easier for other people to help you.If you've got a real friend,s/he
will forgive your mistakes(but not forget them).

I hope i don't sound like a know-it-all,i only tried to give you the best advice i could.May you have the strength to carry on,and make the future something to look forward too.

All the best

JR Jansen · 02-19-2002, 07:35 PM

The above advices are sound ones but i would like to add that you should get a hobby. Don't get me wrong, i'm not implying anything here. I mean, you should try to find something which you are interested in and gets you out of the house and into an environment with other people who are interested in the same thing. If you really like what you are doing, you will not want to screw it up because of alcohol or drugs. And it(s also a great way of making new (and good) friends.

[ 02-19-2002: Message edited by: JR Jansen ]

Cerek the Barbaric · 02-19-2002, 08:59 PM

Evil Al

First, I want to congratulate you on having the maturity to realize you have a problem. As others have stated, that's the biggest step to recovery.

Second, while it may seem like your whole world has crashed down around you, I promise that it hasn't. Two years from now - if you stay straight - this will just be a very bad memory with a lot of regrets. But in five years, this episode will be in your "distant" past.
Sixteen is FAR too young to declare yourself "unemployable". Trust me...you've still got your whole life ahead of you. You're just now getting started. Look up your former "non-party" friends. Let them know that you want to "stay clean" and that you need their help. If your friendship was genuine, I'm sure they'll be willing to help.

I've never had to face the problems you're having right now, so I can't say that I know how you feel...but I DO know that a TRUE friend is one of the most important things to have at a time like this....and you've just gained more than 6000 new friends by coming here.

02-19-2002, 09:26 PM

Amen to all the good advise given to you and all the words of encouragement posted here!

You're still young and have your whole life ahead of you to enjoy doing good things for yourself and others without using or drinking.

You can still get a H.S. education and even go to college...your life is not ruined, it is only just beginning!

Definitely hang around with people who won't drag you down!
Its even harder to stop the nonsense when you get older (believe me) and I wish you the best in all that you set out to do.

I am a H.S. dropout, former long-time (over 16 years) smoker/drinker who only started working at getting my life together when an auto accident (with a drunk behind the wheel) almost ended it.
After 8 full years of recuperation from the accident and 8 more years of not knowing if or when the internal damage I sustained may end my life, I just turned 40 and am finally a freshman in college...don't do what I did!

Best of Luck to you and count me in as one of your friends. [img]smile.gif[/img]

02-19-2002, 04:02 PM	#1
Evil Al Drow Warrior Join Date: October 5, 2001 Location: Aberdeen, United Kingdom Age: 38 Posts: 292	I'm sorry if this sounds like it should be in a teen magazine or something but I don't want anyone to make the same mistake I did. This is the first time I have been sober since Friday afternoon. I'm 16 and I have an alcohol and drug problem. I started drinking and smoking weed like most teenagers who start at school friends parties. Then it got worse and I found myself getting drunk and high on the streets with a couple of "friends". I lost most of the real friends I had because of these problems. So I got depressed and was taking basically everything and anything that would give me a high. And I started stealing money off my parents. At one of these parties I ended up sleeping with a girl and making her pregnant. So that ment I had to pay for her for her to have an abortion. After this my Dad put me in rehab and I thought I got over both those problems, but seen as I have few good friends I slipped back into drinking. While I was drunk I went down to a local youth club and said to one of my female friends "I can force myself apon you any time I want and you can't do a single thing about it". Lucky for me I suppose her boy friend knocked me out. Now I’ve just got out of hospital and have come to realise that I have thrown everything that was good in my life away. I through away school, my friends, the respect of my parents and I am now unemployable. Please don't make the same mistake I did. Don't take this like I'm looking for pity cause i don't deserve it. I have nothing left... apart from drink.... No I have nothing. __________________ I\'m not bigheaded but go here and tell me just how sexy i am [url]\"http://www.faceparty.com/al_the_drunkard\" target=\"_blank\">www.faceparty.com/al_the_drunkard</a><br /><br />War in iraq? Not in my name!<br /><br />Disarm America.

02-19-2002, 04:10 PM	#2
Blade Emerald Dragon Join Date: March 12, 2001 Location: spokane wa usa Age: 40 Posts: 926	They say the hardest part is addmitting that you have a problem, if you need to talk there is many of us here that can help you and just take it one day at a time and apologize to your friend they will most likely forgive you and help you too. O and BTW hello [img]graemlins/happywave.gif[/img] __________________ <br /><br />All blades cut, be they made from metal or wood, but the sharpest and deadliest blade is the one of knowledge, and that is the least used.<br />An Archmage of the HADB

02-19-2002, 04:20 PM	#3
MILAMBER Lord Soth Join Date: March 5, 2001 Location: Southern California Posts: 1,948	Seriously bro, I don't care how much you mess up, you can always fix things. I don't know how things work in England, but here in the U.S, when you turn 18 your juvenile record is pretty unimportant. Obviously your parents still care about you to stick with you on this and get you into rehab. I know it's hard to do, but you really need to ditch your friends. Find some friends that won't keep pulling you into those situations. Good luck! __________________ \"The object of war is not to die for your country but to make the other bastard die for his.\"<br />-General George Patton (1885-1945)<br /> <br />Member of CLAN HADB<br />Founder of The Anti Clan Coalition

02-19-2002, 04:28 PM	#5
Talthyr Malkaviel Ma'at - Goddess of Truth & Justice Join Date: August 31, 2001 Location: Land of the Britons Age: 37 Posts: 3,224	Well, if you ever need any help, like Blade said, there's us here, and I'm sure you can get through these times, try not to worry about what you haven't got, but what you can make out of the situation. (Even though I know it probably sounds corny, and easier said than done.) __________________ Resident cantankerous sorcerer of the Clan HADB<br />and Sorcerous Nuttella salesman of the O.R.T<br /> <br /><br />Say NO to the Trouser Tyranny! Can I drill you about this?

02-19-2002, 05:13 PM	#6
Redblueflare Galvatron Join Date: May 9, 2001 Location: The backwoods in Georgia sigh Age: 39 Posts: 2,151	Oh man sorry to hear about that. I am glad to hear that you've accepted your mistake and are moving on. Maybe you should try to talk to some of your old friends. When they see you're sincere they should forgive you. Hopefully... Oh and Hello! [img]graemlins/wavey.gif[/img] __________________ <br /><br />\"If you ever need me just whistle, and i\'ll come running. I promise. <img border=\"0\" title=\"\" alt=\"[Smile]\" src=\"smile.gif\" /> <br />Kupo, Kupo! A man can\'t get a sword if he can\'t dance! <img border=\"0\" title=\"\" alt=\"[Big Grin]\" src=\"biggrin.gif\" />

02-19-2002, 04:23 PM	#4
Jorath Calar Harper Join Date: October 6, 2001 Location: Iceland Posts: 4,706	I'm sorry to hear that, I kinda know how you feel. I almost had the same problem at a certain time in my life...about 7 years ago. I was drunk most of the summer dropped out of school and I threw away eeverything good in my life and when I realised it I almost commited a suicide but the thought of my little brother who was 3 at the time kept me from doing it. I sought help and went back to school a graduated and apologised to all the people who I had treated badly. I didn't ask for their forgivness just made them know I was sorry. If I were you I'd try to get into school and go on with your life, thats what I did, and while my life is not exactly a bed of roses then at least I'm alive. Like Blade said one day at a time. I hope you'll be okey.

02-19-2002, 05:32 PM	#7
Campino Avatar Join Date: November 12, 2001 Location: Netherlands Age: 55 Posts: 522	Sorry to hear that.What can i say?I'll try to give you some advice,hope it helps.You've already admitted to yourself you've got a serious problem.That's a start.Obviously you have trouble solving them alone,so it might be a good idea to get some professional help. Try to get a steady rhythm,make sure you eat at regular times,make sure you sleep enough,and pick up school,or maybe get a job(is it possible in the UK to work at 16?). The respect you lost will be VERY hard to get back,but show to the people you care about you try.It will be a long way back,but the sooner you start,the faster you'll be back.Talk alot,it will make it easier for other people to help you.If you've got a real friend,s/he will forgive your mistakes(but not forget them). I hope i don't sound like a know-it-all,i only tried to give you the best advice i could.May you have the strength to carry on,and make the future something to look forward too. All the best __________________

02-19-2002, 07:35 PM	#8
JR Jansen Drizzt Do'Urden Join Date: May 31, 2001 Location: Mol (Belgium) Posts: 658	The above advices are sound ones but i would like to add that you should get a hobby. Don't get me wrong, i'm not implying anything here. I mean, you should try to find something which you are interested in and gets you out of the house and into an environment with other people who are interested in the same thing. If you really like what you are doing, you will not want to screw it up because of alcohol or drugs. And it(s also a great way of making new (and good) friends. [ 02-19-2002: Message edited by: JR Jansen ] __________________ JR<p>Damned i lost cousin Jan\'s techno gloves<p>Forest runner and first gnomish demiranger-protector with slightly rougueish tendencies and a natural dislike for Aerie

02-19-2002, 08:59 PM	#9
Cerek the Barbaric Ma'at - Goddess of Truth & Justice Join Date: October 29, 2001 Location: North Carolina Age: 61 Posts: 3,257	Evil Al First, I want to congratulate you on having the maturity to realize you have a problem. As others have stated, that's the biggest step to recovery. Second, while it may seem like your whole world has crashed down around you, I promise that it hasn't. Two years from now - if you stay straight - this will just be a very bad memory with a lot of regrets. But in five years, this episode will be in your "distant" past. Sixteen is FAR too young to declare yourself "unemployable". Trust me...you've still got your whole life ahead of you. You're just now getting started. Look up your former "non-party" friends. Let them know that you want to "stay clean" and that you need their help. If your friendship was genuine, I'm sure they'll be willing to help. I've never had to face the problems you're having right now, so I can't say that I know how you feel...but I DO know that a TRUE friend is one of the most important things to have at a time like this....and you've just gained more than 6000 new friends by coming here. __________________ [img]\"http://img.ranchoweb.com/images/cerek/cerektsrsig.jpg\" alt=\" - \" /><br />Cerek the Calmth

02-19-2002, 09:26 PM	#10
Moni Guest Posts: n/a	Amen to all the good advise given to you and all the words of encouragement posted here! You're still young and have your whole life ahead of you to enjoy doing good things for yourself and others without using or drinking. You can still get a H.S. education and even go to college...your life is not ruined, it is only just beginning! Definitely hang around with people who won't drag you down! Its even harder to stop the nonsense when you get older (believe me) and I wish you the best in all that you set out to do. I am a H.S. dropout, former long-time (over 16 years) smoker/drinker who only started working at getting my life together when an auto accident (with a drunk behind the wheel) almost ended it. After 8 full years of recuperation from the accident and 8 more years of not knowing if or when the internal damage I sustained may end my life, I just turned 40 and am finally a freshman in college...don't do what I did! Best of Luck to you and count me in as one of your friends. [img]smile.gif[/img]

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