when love meets fear

[250]

Originally posted by J.J.: Hiya two-fiffy, how does it feel to be da maturin' one? That's what the pain you feel is - growth. I remember your travails of last year, is this the swan song? (hope so 4 your sake!) Wish I could tell you that once done with, all done with, but that has not been my experience. It will be easier the next time you are smitten with someone who acts like they are into you, then seem to change their mind and just act like they are through with you. Even worse are the ones that will do both several times - it's hard to remember that you are the one giving them the power to make you feel so bad when you are busy throwing your heart out when it seems like they want to catch it, then trying to reel back in the broken, bleeding pieces when they drop their hands and sidestep your throw. *ouch* Not being so quick to throw helps, taking the time to get close enough to hand it over instead of throwing from a distance helps more. [img]smile.gif[/img] By no means should you abandon hope in your life - I have not, nor will I. Just remember not to let it push YOU out of the drivers seat. Make it sit in the back, maybe let it roll down the window and hang it's tongue out the way dogs do, [img]tongue.gif[/img] but always remember dogs don't know how to drive. There, if that metaphor isn't terminally mixed, I don't know what would qualify. Hows everything else doing for you? did you check out donut's thread on taking a stand at IW? seemed just like old times, lolol. hope you are doing well, good to see you again.

I am perfectly well, thank you. and ofc, perfect doesnt mean all is in their finest forms. no, but things are working out around me. so the ones that I wedded to work for me.

and well thought and well said, JJ. seems like you understand the circle of, well, push-n-pull very well. you are right on that it is not throughed, but one is more prepared for what comes next.

I have not checked out Donut's thred, but I shall. have a good day, old timer.

[Harkoliar]

hiya 250 howz it hanging [img]smile.gif[/img] !!!
just wanna say hi!!

[Azred]

Originally posted by 250: bah, true love is only a facid of love. love is many things.

[img]graemlins/erm.gif[/img] If it isn't true love, then it isn't love.

[The Ornery One]

This is an issue I've debated with myself for many years. Many people feel that you cannot know true love until you are "older". It happened to me at 14 and maybe again at 27. It's a true test of your maturity and love for a person to let them go and wait for them to come back or (sigh) accept that they might not return. Have also broken up with guys that started talking marriage at to early a stage because of that "caged animal" feeling. Recently let go of someone (still seeing each other as friends) so that he has time to decide what he really wants deep down.
Feel free to e-mail me if you want to exchange advice. That goes for anyone else, too.

[mistral4543]

Hey, 250 [img]graemlins/happywave.gif[/img]

Glad to see you posting more these days, and gladder to see you moving on with your life.

I don't have anything particularly wise or inspiring to say, especially as you would know that I am still very much the free spirit that I was [img]tongue.gif[/img] As time goes by, I find myself looking forward to developing my own potential (reminds me of Irenicus [img]graemlins/biglaugh.gif[/img] ) and less of finding that right one. For me, what (or who) will come, will come. If it doesn't, then it may not be such a bad thing after all.

Take care and you know I'll be wishing all the best for you

[250]

Mistral, you are funny. and thx for posting

Azred

all I can say is, all things are companioned by shadows. one can never be truely free of it, and as I learnt, one shouldnt. like depression and stress, the dark side of love (obsession, jealousy, envy, and the lack of love: apathy, narcisstic etc) can play a constructive role in one's recovery and self discovery. light and dark, each has its respective place in the theme. they are all part of love, created by and for love, and inseperable (a lot of the times) from it.

one can true love and be controlling at the same time, each side will play it out eventually etc.

[ 08-28-2002, 10:08 PM: Message edited by: 250 ]

[Azred]

To each their own. Good luck, then! [img]graemlins/awesomework.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/petard.gif[/img]

[K T Ong]

I guess each of us needs to find the truth in his/her own way and in his/her own time. Best wishes anyway, 250. [img]smile.gif[/img]