An Only Daughter, An Only Sister, An Only Aunt - Page 2

Redblueflare · 02-06-2002, 12:31 PM

Sorry to hear about that Moni. From the way you described her she was a good person. Without a doubt she's in a better place now.

02-06-2002, 07:33 PM

fable, SSJ4Sephiroth, Bahamut, Wulfere, Davros, *\Conan/*, KHaN, Garnet FalconDance, Sazerac and Redblueflare,

Thank each and every one of you for your kind words.
[img]graemlins/ladyhearts.gif[/img]

I am about to pen a note of sympathy to include in a card to her daughters (all of them older than me) and am finding myself not knowing what to say.
Those poor girls have had a very hard time for the past year and a half, losing not just both their parents but their beloved Uncle "D" (my dad) as well.
They were all very close and I don't want to say anything to belittle what they must be feeling or make it any worse but I feel like signing just my name is a bit callous esp since I spent a lot of my childhood in their company. [img]graemlins/1dizzy.gif[/img]

Bahamut,
You cracked me up! Thank you.

LennonCook · 02-07-2002, 05:53 AM

It is always sad to loose a loved one... I have no idea what religeon you are, and thus I dont know your beliefs on death, so I cannot say anything in sympathy ralted to religeon at risk that it may offend some, even though such would ofcourse not be the intention.

I am sorry for you loss, and I thank you for posting about your aunt... she was obviously a good person. You say you dont mourn her... I will not give you my opinions or advice on this, as it is your decision. I will tell you (and for that matter everyone), that if you ever want to talk about something one on one, I will be willing to listen/read/whatever.

Also, remember your aunt, as those who have died are not truly dead unless they are also forgotten. While we remember them, they are alive, within us.

02-07-2002, 09:43 AM

LennonCook,
Thank you for that most thoughtful reply.
You could never say anything on religion that I personally would find offensive as I embrace many of them as my own. My views on the afterlife are such that I believe my Aunt to be in a better place and in the company of those who passed on before her who she loved and missed with all her heart. If she has anything to make up for or to learn that she missed in this life, I do believe she'll be given another chance before there is no time left for such opportunities.

She was a rock, the pillar of sanity and logic that held our families together in the worst of times and a source of laughter at every turn.
To know that in the end of her life she was ill, senile and drugged out during her waking hours was most painful and her death although a loss, is somehow a relief. I know she no longer suffers.
I'll cry for her company in the years to come and I have shed tears since her death but to grieve for her the same way that I did for my dad is just not within me...she had lived a very full life and gave it her all, her suffering is over and she is at peace. I can't find anything unhappy about it except that I no longer have her to talk to over the phone...something which strikes me more as self pity, something she would not approve of.

She will never be forgotten as she was a great influence in my life when it came to loving everyone no matter their faults and in making the best of bad situations. She will always be with me and I look forward to the day when I will see her again.

Bahamut · 02-09-2002, 02:58 PM

yes...

and when you are back to Crossroad island again you will follow abovementioned advice

I do quite believe the Chinese manner of it, I am not quite sure though, but they are to wear white when going to funerals. It is more of a celebration that the person who passed away is now in better hands, richer in mind as well as in spirit... whatever principle or religion this is coming from, I believe it.

02-10-2002, 02:28 AM

quote:
Originally posted by Bahamut:
yes...

and when you are back to Crossroad island again you will follow abovementioned advice

Yes I will.

skywalker · 02-10-2002, 07:26 AM

***Hugs Moni***

Mark

[ 02-10-2002: Message edited by: skywalker ]

Sigmar · 02-10-2002, 07:47 AM

Nice to see you're handling it so well, my condolences.

02-10-2002, 08:02 AM

You have my deepest sympathy, Moni. I hope you are coping well enough with your loss. I can only second what Sazerac says - keep her in your heart and think back on what a wonderful person she was. That way you'll only ever look back with fond memories, and the pain of losing her will lessen.

02-06-2002, 12:31 PM	#11
Redblueflare Galvatron Join Date: May 9, 2001 Location: The backwoods in Georgia sigh Age: 39 Posts: 2,151	Sorry to hear about that Moni. From the way you described her she was a good person. Without a doubt she's in a better place now. __________________ <br /><br />\"If you ever need me just whistle, and i\'ll come running. I promise. <img border=\"0\" title=\"\" alt=\"[Smile]\" src=\"smile.gif\" /> <br />Kupo, Kupo! A man can\'t get a sword if he can\'t dance! <img border=\"0\" title=\"\" alt=\"[Big Grin]\" src=\"biggrin.gif\" />

02-09-2002, 02:58 PM	#15
Bahamut Iron Throne Cult Join Date: March 12, 2001 Location: Manila, Philippines Age: 39 Posts: 4,864	yes... and when you are back to Crossroad island again you will follow abovementioned advice I do quite believe the Chinese manner of it, I am not quite sure though, but they are to wear white when going to funerals. It is more of a celebration that the person who passed away is now in better hands, richer in mind as well as in spirit... whatever principle or religion this is coming from, I believe it. __________________ http://makeallthedifference.blogspot.com http://www.bratgirlcentral.com/cgi-b.../ikonboard.cgi

02-10-2002, 02:28 AM	#16
Moni Guest Posts: n/a	quote: Originally posted by Bahamut: yes... and when you are back to Crossroad island again you will follow abovementioned advice Yes I will.

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02-06-2002, 07:33 PM	#12
Moni Guest Posts: n/a	fable, SSJ4Sephiroth, Bahamut, Wulfere, Davros, \Conan/, KHaN, Garnet FalconDance, Sazerac and Redblueflare, Thank each and every one of you for your kind words. [img]graemlins/ladyhearts.gif[/img] I am about to pen a note of sympathy to include in a card to her daughters (all of them older than me) and am finding myself not knowing what to say. Those poor girls have had a very hard time for the past year and a half, losing not just both their parents but their beloved Uncle "D" (my dad) as well. They were all very close and I don't want to say anything to belittle what they must be feeling or make it any worse but I feel like signing just my name is a bit callous esp since I spent a lot of my childhood in their company. [img]graemlins/1dizzy.gif[/img] Bahamut, You cracked me up! Thank you.

02-07-2002, 05:53 AM	#13
LennonCook Jack Burton Join Date: November 10, 2001 Location: Bathurst & Orange, in constant flux Age: 37 Posts: 5,452	It is always sad to loose a loved one... I have no idea what religeon you are, and thus I dont know your beliefs on death, so I cannot say anything in sympathy ralted to religeon at risk that it may offend some, even though such would ofcourse not be the intention. I am sorry for you loss, and I thank you for posting about your aunt... she was obviously a good person. You say you dont mourn her... I will not give you my opinions or advice on this, as it is your decision. I will tell you (and for that matter everyone), that if you ever want to talk about something one on one, I will be willing to listen/read/whatever. Also, remember your aunt, as those who have died are not truly dead unless they are also forgotten. While we remember them, they are alive, within us.

02-07-2002, 09:43 AM	#14
Moni Guest Posts: n/a	LennonCook, Thank you for that most thoughtful reply. You could never say anything on religion that I personally would find offensive as I embrace many of them as my own. My views on the afterlife are such that I believe my Aunt to be in a better place and in the company of those who passed on before her who she loved and missed with all her heart. If she has anything to make up for or to learn that she missed in this life, I do believe she'll be given another chance before there is no time left for such opportunities. She was a rock, the pillar of sanity and logic that held our families together in the worst of times and a source of laughter at every turn. To know that in the end of her life she was ill, senile and drugged out during her waking hours was most painful and her death although a loss, is somehow a relief. I know she no longer suffers. I'll cry for her company in the years to come and I have shed tears since her death but to grieve for her the same way that I did for my dad is just not within me...she had lived a very full life and gave it her all, her suffering is over and she is at peace. I can't find anything unhappy about it except that I no longer have her to talk to over the phone...something which strikes me more as self pity, something she would not approve of. She will never be forgotten as she was a great influence in my life when it came to loving everyone no matter their faults and in making the best of bad situations. She will always be with me and I look forward to the day when I will see her again.

02-10-2002, 07:26 AM	#17
skywalker Banned User Join Date: March 1, 2001 Location: VT, USA Age: 63 Posts: 3,097	*Hugs Moni* Mark [ 02-10-2002: Message edited by: skywalker ]

02-10-2002, 07:47 AM	#18
Sigmar Unicorn Join Date: May 17, 2001 Location: N/a Posts: 4,222	Nice to see you're handling it so well, my condolences.

02-10-2002, 08:02 AM	#19
Sorcerer Alex Guest Posts: n/a	You have my deepest sympathy, Moni. I hope you are coping well enough with your loss. I can only second what Sazerac says - keep her in your heart and think back on what a wonderful person she was. That way you'll only ever look back with fond memories, and the pain of losing her will lessen.

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