the multiplayer session always crashes!

I´m trying to play the game with a friend using TCP/IP connection, but the damn connection won´t work. That is, sometimes it works and other times (for no damn reason) it crashes. Has anyone else had the same problem? There doesn´t seem to be a patch out yet (although it would be welcomed with open arms to fix my problem!). Perhaps it´s our computers being mean bastards but since we can play other Multiplayer games such as AoE II I suspect the game is behind the disturbance.

So, should we try IPX or perhaps a modem-cable? I´m open to suggestions... damnit, if computers had feelings we
wouldn´t have this kind of trouble. The little bastards could be tortured into submission!
Well... let me know if you have any valuable information regarding multiplaying/connection.
It is so damn frustrating having the game of the year right infront of you and not being able to play, help us!