07-04-2005, 11:48 AM | #11 | |
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it is the reason why i have been working, or trying to work, hard at my relationship with nathan, to provide my girls with the best possible mother *and* father. i don't think one parent can be better than the other, if one is failing then the other is too. the relationship between parents needs to be as nurturing as the one between a parent and child.
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07-05-2005, 08:49 AM | #12 | |
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One of my best friends is one of three girls and her parent's never divorced! Her dad died a few years ago but til his dying day he was happy in his marriage so I'd have to say their family goes against the article's assumptions.
My dad's parent's had a girl too and never divorced, and that aunt of mine had four BOYS and she divorced. My husband's parents had a girl and are still married....sooo, dunno, mine did but hey, that's only one for 4 in my experience! ROTFL at this part Quote:
LOL as for 'being more fun to be around'....um, I know soooooooooooo many parent's of 20+ boys who would love to kick their sons out of the house to find work and be productive on their own.... LOL Now, that's not to say that there aren't any good boys or unpleasant daughters out there that fit the 'findings' too, just that I'm not seeing as much in my own experience to back it up! [ 07-05-2005, 09:01 AM: Message edited by: Cloudbringer ]
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07-05-2005, 06:19 PM | #13 |
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If these numbers mean anything (and TL is right that 5% is statistically insignificant assuming the standard methodology), that meaning isn't really hard to extrapolate imo. There is a worldwide gender bias that varies culturally, and less precisely, nationally. That isn't really a matter of debate, is it? We could go through cultural differences in kinship, expectations, rights to work, vote, etc by gender, but I'm counting that as a safe assumption at the moment.
Note, for example, just from the nations given, more gender equality makes for a lower gender bias for divorces. Why is Vietnam divorce by gender so high, and the US's is insignificant? I'd say, if the numbers check out, gender bias is an imprecise but entirely feasible assertion. I think, without being given the actual report, the numbers shouldn't be dismissed outright from individual experience. Individual accounts don't matter until you get several thousand diverse respondants, so comparing it to your known reality, even the hundreds of people that you know, will be misleading. Note that when I say gender bias...that's a general term representing social inequality, nothing so stupid as "Boys are more fun to have around." lol [img]smile.gif[/img] |
07-05-2005, 09:01 PM | #14 |
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Boys can carry down the family name. Girls can not. This is very important in some cultures like mine. That's why upon several birth if the wife still couldn't give birth to a boy the husband parents will force him to divorce the wife and marry another.
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07-05-2005, 10:11 PM | #15 | |
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07-05-2005, 10:59 PM | #16 | |
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07-06-2005, 08:51 AM | #17 |
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Illumina, you said what I was just going to say! It isn't the woman who determines the gender of the child so it's been pretty ironic that historically she's been blamed when a boy child isn't born!
Kakero, best of luck in your situation. Just one thing though, keep in mind that the older your prospective bride gets, the harder it will be to conceive at all, never mind the chosen gender preference. If she's the same age you are, things get much harder in about 3 yrs as fertility rates drop significantly for many women after 30. PS: Lucern, an individual's experience is just as valid to that person as vague statistics without any backup. [img]smile.gif[/img] I think it is as valid to those experiencing it, at any rate! Besides, some researcher somewhere will just use our situations to prove the rule- exceptions and all that jazz! [ 07-06-2005, 08:54 AM: Message edited by: Cloudbringer ]
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07-06-2005, 11:44 AM | #18 | |
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So, it wouldn't be that odd if the family name followed the female. Alas, it does not. |
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Chiu Ci Bei(man) marry Mo Nen Nen(woman) The chidren will have the Chiu surname. Tell me is it different where you live? I really wonder... [ 07-06-2005, 12:40 PM: Message edited by: Kakero ] |
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