questions about any relationship

[250]

I am not having any problem, so don't get any idea

it is just I've been reading comments on "American Beauty"

just this idea came up to me:

Does uncaring causes failure in communication?
or Does failure in communication causes uncaring?

or both holds true? so which is mroe important? which generates which? which is a more important factor of a successful relationship? communication? or caring?

supposedly, one can exist without another, does that still make a relationship success?

I've got my own opinions on this one, just like to see everyone's it is amazing how people can have different views on even the most "obvious" answers

[Lifetime]

Actually I find that when it comes to relationships, Ignorance is Bliss
You really cant be touchy-feelly in deep all the time. It becomes a chore, you become unhappy and insecure and thinking too much tends to become a really bad habit.

Does uncaring cause failure in communication?
Yes. If you don't bother to care, you'll never know. Of course, if you know whats good for you, you wouldnt care to know everything.
Does failure in communication cause uncaring?
If you dont talk, you'll never find out. What causes failure in communication in the first place? Its a chicken-egg situation. Generally though, lack of communication tends to be a lack of expression rather than a lack of emotion.

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[250]

Originally posted by Lifetime: Actually I find that when it comes to relationships, Ignorance is Bliss You really cant be touchy-feelly in deep all the time. It becomes a chore, you become unhappy and insecure and thinking too much tends to become a really bad habit. Does uncaring cause failure in communication? Yes. If you don't bother to care, you'll never know. Of course, if you know whats good for you, you wouldnt care to know everything. Does failure in communication cause uncaring? If you dont talk, you'll never find out. What causes failure in communication in the first place? Its a chicken-egg situation. Generally though, lack of communication tends to be a lack of expression rather than a lack of emotion.

good, and one thing I'd like to add

I dont believe emotions can find ways to express yourself, until one purposefully guide the flow. a failure in communication is likely to cause more a lot damage, because people become hurtful.

when you dont care, you can take almost any shit from anyone. but when you care, that is when it starts to hurt


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[J.J.]

lifetime could not be more correct, 250. you can analyze a relationship right out of existence.
and it is the caring that goes first, because when you don't care, you do not make the effort to find out what is on the other person's mind

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