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08-02-2003, 02:23 PM | #111 |
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Bardan - I have to agree with Yorick on this issue - at least to a degree.
I understand the system you are proposing and the reasoning behind it. Yes, it would work and could satisfy the spiritual needs of those who wish it, or just skip the spiritual aspect for those who don't care about them. But the point you seem to overlook is that our current system IS similar to this. Yes, the religious ceremonies also combine the required legal aspects to make the marriage official in the eyes of the state...but a religious ceremony is not the ONLY LEGALLY BINDING method of getting married. Your insistence that the two cermonies be totally separate implies that a religious ceremony is the only "official" method of being married in the U.S. - and that isn't the case. Anybody who does not wish to have a religious ceremony CAN just go down to their local courthouse, sign a piece of paper, and they are JUST as married as the ones going through the religious ceremony. The choice for a seperate alternative to religion-influenced unions already exists. The fact that this right isn't extended to homosexuals in most states is NOT the fault of the church (at least not directly), because the church does NOT have the power to make the laws prohibiting homosexual unions. Admittedly, the laws are INFLUENCED by religious groups, but this would occur under your proposed system also. Even if the two ceremonies were made completely separate, religious groups will still oppose legalized homosexual unions and will be still be able to exert the same amount of pressure on State Legislature as they do now. In other words, Your proposed system wouldn't change a thing in reality. And as for your continued assertion that - under your system - religous groups would be FREE to DENY ceremonies to whoever they wished without recriminations...All I can say is that you have seriously underestimated the litigation-mind-set of America. Not only could homosexuals still sue the church, I'm sure they would find a judge somewhere that would agree with them. I'm not faulting your proposed system, Bardan, I'm just saying it isn't necessary...because the goals you expect to achieve with it already do exist and the benefits of a hassle-free homosexual union would not occur, because it is the State Legislature that outlaws these unions, not the church. Even if the system were changed as you suggest, the State lawmakers would still bring their own personal ideologies into the law making or law-blocking process.
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Okay, say you have a homosexual couple who are both catholic, and they wish to get married, and homosexual marriages are recognised (as they are in some states). Will they be able to perform this service in a church that does not approve of homosexual marriage? No - they will have to find somewhere else to carry through the legal ceremony. What you have there is a church - a religious institution - refusing to give someone their secular right to marriage simply because of that particular church's religious views. That is an attack on human rights. When you hear people arguing against homosexual marriage in America today, what do you hear? I'm afraid all of the social arguments take a abck seat to "Men shouldn't sleep with men - it says so in the Bible" This whole problem is the mixing of the two concepts of state marriage and religious marriage, and the including of the signing of a legal document under the umbrella of a religious ceremony, is what is causing the vast majority of the arguments today. Quote:
And about those legal rights. Why do homosexuals not have the right to even get a state marriage in most states? Because religious groups and people like you refuse to see that you are pefectly at rights to defend the pratice of your religion in refusing to marry people it disapproves of , but you should have no religious argument against alloowing homosexuals to marry in a state union. You prate again and again "you can already do what you suggets and have a ceremony without God." Yes, Yorick, I could, but homosexual couples in most states cannot. Why? The interference of religious dogma in state marriage that comes about partially through the mixing of the state and religious ceremonies. Try to keep to the topic, Yorick. The topic isn't "should we allow state marriages without God?", because we already do. This is about homosexual rights. you would stand a far better chance of convincing me of your arguments if you were actually arguing on the same topic as everyone else is. Quote:
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I think we encourage families to stay together by reaffirming marriage is no quickie-thing, but is a lifetime commitment by two loving, consenting adults, and one that should be taken seriously. [ 08-02-2003, 02:33 PM: Message edited by: Bardan the Slayer ]
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Yes, I agree that separating the two ceremonies would do nothing to reduce the opposition of religious groups to the marriage of homosexuals. What I am saying is that at the moment, I think the only reason homosexual marriages are not allowed in many places is *because* the mixing of the ceremonies (performing the signing of the legal documents after/during the church ceremony) is exactly what gives religious groups the idea that they have some say in the secualr law of who may marry, and who may not. I truly believe that is the legal aspect of marriage had always been distinct from the religious aspect, then homosexuals would have been allowed the same human rights as other couples to marry for years now. As it is, I firmly believe that the presupposed influence of the church over the legal aspect of marriage is what holds us back. I totally support the right of any religious group to deny a religious ceremony to a homosexual couple. However, when as a part of denying them that ceremony, they are *also* witholding a right they possess under law (in some states), then what you have is religious discrimination intruding upon the grounds of a person's rights under the law of the land. If you totally remove the aspect of legal validity (including the signing of legal documents) from the religious ceremony, this actually makes things alot easier on the religious institutions, since they are no longer offering a service which has as a part of it the signing of a legal document, they are as such outside of any criticism. their right to religious freedom protects their right to pick and choose who goes through their completely religious ceremony. Quote:
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EDIT : This post is considerably longer than it was when I first made it. To anyone who read my original short reply and cannot remember the last few paragraphs - no, you're not going mad. I came back and added substantially after rereading a few posts. [ 08-02-2003, 02:56 PM: Message edited by: Bardan the Slayer ]
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08-02-2003, 07:17 PM | #114 |
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Bardan, if I understand you correctly, we are in agreement.
I am fully in support of either religious or secular marriage ceremonies resulting in a couple having access to the rights and privileges of "marriage" so long as both conform to legislative formalities. If a religious ceremony adds other stipulations, so long as they are not on conflict with the statutory regulations then so be it. People can participate or not as their faith dictates. What I cannot support is an unelected religious authority seeking to deny such rights and privileges to anyone who does not accede to their doctrines. By all means let those of whatever faith plight their troth in whatever manner their faith dictates, be that a church ceremony or by the exchange of vows in a sacred place at the Summer solstice. Just don't expect the secular authorities to automatically accept that just because you believe you are married according to your beliefs, you are in the eyes of the law. Your marriage may well be constituted by the laws of your faith, but in the eyes of the law, you have different criteria to satisfy. It's not an attack on religious freedom, it's simply the way society has evolved. If you don't like it, in the sort of western liberal-democratic societies in which most of us live, the way to change it is via the legislative process. [ 08-02-2003, 07:19 PM: Message edited by: Mouse ]
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08-02-2003, 07:50 PM | #115 |
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Sort of like when you are born you get a birth certificate from the state and a baptism at church. Ones is a legal formality the other is a religous ceremony, both mark the same event (birth) but for different reasons.
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Yes, I agree that separating the two ceremonies would do nothing to reduce the opposition of religious groups to the marriage of homosexuals. What I am saying is that at the moment, I think the only reason homosexual marriages are not allowed in many places is *because* the mixing of the ceremonies (performing the signing of the legal documents after/during the church ceremony) is exactly what gives religious groups the idea that they have some say in the secualr law of who may marry, and who may not. I truly believe that is the legal aspect of marriage had always been distinct from the religious aspect, then homosexuals would have been allowed the same human rights as other couples to marry for years now. As it is, I firmly believe that the presupposed influence of the church over the legal aspect of marriage is what holds us back. I totally support the right of any religious group to deny a religious ceremony to a homosexual couple. However, when as a part of denying them that ceremony, they are *also* witholding a right they possess under law (in some states), then what you have is religious discrimination intruding upon the grounds of a person's rights under the law of the land. If you totally remove the aspect of legal validity (including the signing of legal documents) from the religious ceremony, this actually makes things alot easier on the religious institutions, since they are no longer offering a service which has as a part of it the signing of a legal document, they are as such outside of any criticism. their right to religious freedom protects their right to pick and choose who goes through their completely religious ceremony. Quote:
The Southern Baptist Association could march on Capitol Hill all they wanted, but that would actually be counter-productive, because the law-makers could then say "We can't concede to your views because that would violate separation of Church and State". HOWEVER, if the individual members of the SBA tell their respective Congressmen "We'll vote you out of office if you approve this law", THAT is where the "religious influence" comes in. The fact that marriage is the one religious ceremony that can also be a legal contract doesn't give the church any extra power to introduce, enforce, or affect secular law (IMHO). The power comes from the individual voters in each district. Even if the two ceremonies were completely separate, the individual districts would STILL have the same number of religious voters writing letters to their congressman over homosexual unions...and Congressmen ARE going to listen to the group they think will represent the most votes in the next election. As I said before, I understand your reasoning - and it makes sense on paper - but I seriously doubt it would have a significant impact in reality. Of course, thats just my opinion - and I've been wrong before.
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It's unenforcable without draconian measures. Are you going to: a. Discriminate against religions by forbidding Priests getting a licenses when any other citizen can? b. Make churches the only place where you cannot get married? You can get married anywhere as is. You're being ludicrous. |
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Our laws are founded on principals the Catholic church originally espoused. Are we picking and choosing the right to voice an opinion publicly simply because we disagree? |
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