Cloudy's Cafe, a conversation zone, November 20, 2003

[Cloudbringer]

the original thread is here


the previous thread is here:

Cloudy's Cafe

Come in, be welcome, be comfortable, be yourself

Welcome to Cloudy's Cafe, a place to have a cup of coffee or a good
darjeeling and the finest in conversation and camaraderie.

The proprietor asks that you follow a few simple guidelines:

this is a real conversation zone, not a role-play zone

* no flaming; if you disagree with a viewpoint expressed by any patron, please do so in a civil manner

* any topic is fair game, but keep posts to the standards that Ziroc has set for the entire forum, please (ie: foul language is not appropriate and things should be suitable for all audiences)
-a side note from Cloudy: I see this as a place for those short
conversations about a new baby or the latest soccer fiasco, not for things that are big enough to warrant their own threads, by all means give those things the space they need and post separately!

* Please, no one word or smiley posts (Ziroc has declared them 'real spam' and the proprietor doesn't want the reputuation of "good spam" to suffer!)

* do feel free to be serious or silly and enjoy the company of others while you are here. By all means POST if you have something to say, even to start another topic , we can handle multiple chats, we're a CAFE!!! But be courteous and don't disrupt a conversation just to disrupt it.

Come on in! The bar is stocked with coffees, teas, juices and waters from around the world. And purple napkins, of course!

The lighting is low, the golden oak counters and tables glow with inviting warmth. Near the window, the lighting is brighter, as comfy, plush leather armchairs wait for those who'd like to read a book while relaxing to music or just lazily watch the world go by.

[ 11-20-2003, 08:13 PM: Message edited by: Cloudbringer ]

[Cloudbringer]

PLEASE NOTE

This is a modified reminder that I've posted before in reply to someone asking "can we spam the cafe". It still holds true, so I'm going to repeat it periodically for anyone who hasn't seen it.

Read the first post of the thread, it's NOT a spam zone. If you want to discuss you grades, a problem with a teacher,the weather, your neighbor's new car etc.....etc.. (real life conversations) this is the place. I don't mind a SMALL amount of spam but when the Cafe gets to be 8 pages in one day and it's all one liner pure spam, I have to ask people not to do it because most of the members who would come to talk about their day or things that they want advice or sympathy or cheers on, will not post in that atmosphere. I want you to be comfy here, but not at the expense of other members.

So the answer is NO, I don't want to see page after page of roleplay spam or one liner spamfests that could be done on msn or aim etc. because our goal is to TALK WITH one another , not fill up a cafe in five hours.

[Xen]

FIRS POST! HAHA!


So how is everybody? Tommorow i get Fifa 2004! YEAH! I made up with my dad! [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img] [img]graemlins/thumbsup.gif[/img]

[Cloudbringer]

Hey all, come on over to the new Cafe

I think we were discussing driving and dating in the old one!

[dplax]

I've never been here yet when the cafe was so fresh. How's everyone tonight/this afternoon/this morning/whatever it is your time? For me it is tonight.

[Maelakin]

The system at work just came up...8 hours later. Looks like someone is working late. [img]graemlins/crying.gif[/img]

[dplax]

Just a comment on Maelakin's last post in the previous cafe. That is just so true for me, but I am trying to work on it. Sometimes I can be just so shy.

edit: just checked. Its his before last post.

[ 11-20-2003, 03:48 PM: Message edited by: dplax ]

[Maelakin]

It was a problem for me at one time. To fix the problem I forced myself to pick 5 people at random each week and ask them to coffee. The results were astounding. Most accepted and I ended up meeting so many new friends. I usually didn't end up dating the people for one reason or another, but I can say it was an invaluable experience.

[dplax]

The trouble with my shyness is that I have sort of "internal debates" with myself wether to ask a girl out, but then even if in my mind I decide to do it, I either am too much of a coward, or the opportunity just does not arise, and I change my mind

[Maelakin]

Originally posted by dplax: The trouble with my shyness is that I have sort of "internal debates" with myself wether to ask a girl out, but then even if in my mind I decide to do it, I either am too much of a coward, or the opportunity just does not arise, and I change my mind

I have found that the bold and underlined section never exists. You can always create the opportunity. I have even found many who are extremely flattered when you create an opportunity just to talk with them.

If jumping ahead to just asking people out is too hard to begin with, another method of boosting your confidence is to pick 5 people daily and compliment them. People you know don't count. [img]tongue.gif[/img]