Has anyone else's life totally gone down hill?

[Balintherlas]

I was in a car accident about 6 months ago, and basically, I lost half my intestines and realised (even though the doctors havent given me a straigh answer) that my dreams will never come true, so I;m starting college in a few weeks weeks when I really hgad no intention of doing so. As a result ive turned to drinking, pain pills and nicotine to counteract my depression, I was just wondering, has anyone else's life taken a compelely different turn than they thought it would be?

[Ziroc]

Sent you a PM..

[Hivetyrant]

Dude, that suckss ass, what are you studying at College?

[Harkoliar]

just hope for the best mate.

4 years back, I never knew my life would turn out the way I wanted it to be as well. But each has thier own paths to take and be just thankful your alive to experience it. Good or bad

[Balintherlas]

Well dang, disregard that last post, it was one of those ideas that sounds good when your under the influence, but when you wake up you realise you sound like a douche.

[robertthebard]

Either way, I can feel you on that. I've been layed up for 10 months myself, and it sure seems like a long time to have doctors not be able to tell me why. All they do is throw drugs at it, I've been having severe, debilitating headaches, almost constantly. Life didn't give me a lemon, it gave me a whole truck load of them, and I've done what I can to keep the lemonade flowing. It has enabled me to explore other avenues, and to try things I'd never have had time for while I was able to work, such as my web site, and the music I produced. The thing for me was I didn't want to just quit, and I knew that if I tried hard enough, I'd come up with something. Sorry to hear about the downslide your life took, but grab onto the positive, you're still alive, and that means that you can still accomplish something with your life, even if it's not what you had in mind.

[Bungleau]

You should know by now that you're not alone. Some of the folks here have suffered through similar things, and some have suffered through worse. Not that anything like that helps make your suffering any better...

Life's about choices, and you've got a big one ahead of you: how you deal with all this. FWIW, there are a large number of people who make their living (and quite comfortably, I might add) by sharing their stories of pain, challenge, and frustration and showing how they got through it. You might look to read a few of those for personal inspiration, as well as for ideas on how you can do the same thing.

Aron Ralston is the mountain climber who had to cut off his own hand to survive. He's got a book out on the experience... Between a Rock and a Hard Place.

Viktor Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning is another good book on the topic... talks about his experiences in a concentration camp and what he saw there.

Bottom line... you're not alone, and there are ways through this. You've got friends out here.

[Cloudbringer]

That's rough, Balintherlas! But you've made the decision to go to school and hopefully that will be a turning point of some sort for you...a way to make some good come out of all that's happened. [img]smile.gif[/img]

[Glycerine_74]

Keep your head up, things will get better eventually. In the past five years I've been laid off twice, once for 6 months and another for 3. I've ended up owing the government over 3000 in taxes due to a W4 contract job I worked for a year. I had a drug addiction that's spiraled out of control, which has contributed to my numerous financial problems. I've found out that my ex-wife, who has custody of our three little girls, has been on a path of self-destruction that I won't even begin to get into. Now I'm taking her back to court to go for full custody, so she's pretty much yanked all the extra time I used to get to spend with them away from me. I can't call my girls on the phone and talk to them anymore, I have to wait until she lets them call me. (Usually once a week, before it was every other day. They've since told me that they will ask to call and allot of the time she won't let them or tells them they can call "later", of course later might mean days.) I only get them on my assigned visitation, which is every other weekend from 7PM Friday to 6PM Sunday. (I used to keep them until Monday morning and take them to school, as well as get them on my off Sundays and take them to school that following morning.) She's tried to turn them against me by telling them that I hate her, that I want to take them away from her forever, etc. How do you explain to a 10 year old and twin 7 year olds why you are trying to take their mother to court because she doesn't take good care of them? At least one of them has had head lice since last October, simply because the ex is too lazy to pick through their hair and get rid of it. It's easier for her to just blame it on the school they go to. My 10 year old, who will be in 5th grade next year, will have been to a different school for every single grade since first. On top of all that, they cry when they go home because they were used to seeing me every weekend and talking to me throughout the week, but that's all gone now. And for the last two years the ex had me talked into paying my support to her directly, instead of through the courts, so now the government thinks I owe 15K in back support that I've been paying all along. (I was actually paying more support then I was supposed to, just to help her out!)

But, even after all that there is a silver lining. I've slowly managed to pay off almost all my bills. (I really have no idea how, but I did it...) My car only has a year left and it will be paid for. I've gotten my drug problem somewhat under control, taking slow steps with that. Thankfully it's only marijuana, and not cocaine or anything hard. The ex has went to jail and been in court so many times that there's a really good chance she will lose custody when we go to court at the end of the month. I've been working for about a year and a half now, and so far the job looks like it's permanent. I've had my employer taking the most taxes out of my check they can, so now the government owes me money. I've also talked to my attorney and found out that I need to go to court to have all of my check payments made to the ex entered into the system, so that should take care of the "back support". Things are definitely looking up, and I think I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. (It still seems quite a ways away, but it is there.)

Don't give up! I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, and most of the time we really can't see or don't know the what’s, why’s, and where’s until later on in life.

Glycerine

[ 03-15-2006, 03:22 PM: Message edited by: Glycerine_74 ]

[armageddon272]

Woah dude. That's more pressure than I've ever heard anyone being under. Hope you have a stress relief for all that. Good luck with the custody thing though.