[coyote696]

THORAN, i agree with you. I know that in the several years that I was in law enforcement I saw both sides of this issue, and you are absolutely correct in that this is a much wider based problem than MAN bad WOMAN victim. i myself have actually seen cases where that man was afraid for his life to go home, therefore facing the stigma he came to the police station and asked for a personal escort to his home, he was laughed ast and made fun of but when we arrived the woman of the home was very much the aggressor as she told us she was going to gut him like a turkey if he stepped foot in that house....... this is not an isolated incident but it rather an all too often occorance. the police are even guilty of making assumptions when sent to these that the male I "always" the aggressor.

Please do not anyone think that women cannot hurt a man and therefore they cannot be the aggressor in domestic abuse. that is totally false.

Children are more likely to be abused by the mother it seems but that too is not an absolute. I have seen it pretty much on an equal basis. and if we are going to stop domestic abuse, this is the one that should be stopped first,,,,,, children are not able to defend themselves against adults and have no choice as to who they have as parents. stoping child abuse is way more important to me that stopping the other, because if you be woman or man in a situation where youare abused by your spouse........LEAVE..... you have the option, children do not.


sorry i will step off the soapbox to be pelted now........lol

[ 12-13-2004, 01:18 AM: Message edited by: coyote696 ]